Musclefetish saidLOL....I couldn't be happier that we, the same tax paying citizenry, finally have the same rights as the rest!
But there is a small part of me that almost wants our marriage to stand out from the breeder population. I want this in all of the religious right wing repukes's faces. I want them to know that we have the EXACT same benefits of their once morally superior cult(s).
I know that seems vindictive. I make no apologies for it. I really want our triumph to be rubbed in EVERY objector's face. And when my time comes to get married, I will take out a HUGE wedding announcement in the NYT like my family members have done over the yrs. I really want EVERY religious repuke to be annoyed, "insulted", to feel not so morally superior any longer. I want them to face the fact that they are just small.
I feel your emotions, and I'm of 2 minds on this. I certainly hate the religious right. But when you say "breeders", well...
My parents were breeders, who gave life to me. And I honor their memories (not that we didn't fight like cats & dogs at times).
I was a breeder myself, have 2 sons. One serving in the US Air Force. Following a family tradition of military service in this land that goes back unbroken over 350 years to colonial times.
If it weren't for breeders none of us would be here. So I don't like to use that word myself, has negative overtones I don't support. And is disrespectful to my parents, grandparents, and so on.
As for same-sex marriage & relationships, I think setting an enviable example is better than overtly flaunting. Actually I've been doing this for years, with BFs and with my late partner, that I continue today with my second partner.
I may have been in deep denial to myself for half my life, but once I came out I hid nothing. BFs who were still in the closet, and expected me to be, too, didn't last with me.
And it's in simple & subtle ways you communicate that intimate gay status to other people. You don't need to flash a certificate in front of their faces. It comes indirectly in conversational references, said casually & off-hand, like a straight couple would. Or maybe in an introduction at a party or event: "This is my husband...", spoken just as relaxed & unperturbed as if I had said: "This is my wife...".
It's when you normalize being gay and being in a same-sex relationship that you demonstrate to straights how much like them we are. Not by rubbing their noses in it. When they see us being ordinary people, which of course we really are, the acceptance follows very quickly.