Ugh mutual attraction with a taken guy

  • christastic

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    Jun 29, 2015 3:45 AM GMT
    He's in a relationship of 7 years, but keeps flirting with me whenever we bump into each other at clubs or through mutual friends, sometimes with his bf nearby, making me think he's in an open relationship. I hear rumours of the terrible way he treats his bf, but to me he is extremely nice. My friends and I went to crash a party tonight, but I saw him and his bf there, so I promptly left. Don't want to be seduced lolol

    I only want him for sex since he's super hot, but whether he is open or not I know it's the "wrong" thing to do... Argh!
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    Jun 29, 2015 2:52 PM GMT
    You know what, I bet more than half the guys on this website would not give 2 shits if the guy was in a committed relationship, as long as he was "willing" to fuck you anyway.

    To be frank, the average gay guy nowadays live only for the sex so much so that even people in committed relationships are still considered fair "meat" for the taking.

    The only reason open relationships work so well with gay men is so they can fuck around but nobody can "technically" be hurt because everybody involved knew what was going to happen.

    Going from your post, even you writing "wrong" kind of insinuates that you say it's wrong because general society would say so but personally, and for most gay men, you might not feel it's that "wrong" as long as it's consented.
    As I said though, just an insinuation from how you've put quotations around the word "wrong" so of course I could be wrong.

    The unfortunate truth is that convenience and consent trump honour and loyalty.
    Most of the guys on this website would probably encourage you to do, or say something like "do it, but you might regret it".
    Bottom line is that most of them would tell you to do it.

    Regardless of the encouragement to do so from other gay men, I suppose at the end of the day to each their own.
    If you decide to completely stay away from the guy then kudos to you.
    If not, well you're not going to be judged that much from the gay community since, as long as he's hot, they'd most likely have all done the same because at the end of the day, that's what really counts right?
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    Jun 30, 2015 7:56 AM GMT
    DryMoan saidYou know what, I bet more than half the guys on this website would not give 2 shits if the guy was in a committed relationship, as long as he was "willing" to fuck you anyway.

    To be frank, the average gay guy nowadays live only for the sex so much so that even people in committed relationships are still considered fair "meat" for the taking.

    The only reason open relationships work so well with gay men is so they can fuck around but nobody can "technically" be hurt because everybody involved knew what was going to happen.

    Going from your post, even you writing "wrong" kind of insinuates that you say it's wrong because general society would say so but personally, and for most gay men, you might not feel it's that "wrong" as long as it's consented.
    As I said though, just an insinuation from how you've put quotations around the word "wrong" so of course I could be wrong.

    The unfortunate truth is that convenience and consent trump honour and loyalty.
    Most of the guys on this website would probably encourage you to do, or say something like "do it, but you might regret it".
    Bottom line is that most of them would tell you to do it.

    Regardless of the encouragement to do so from other gay men, I suppose at the end of the day to each their own.
    If you decide to completely stay away from the guy then kudos to you.
    If not, well you're not going to be judged that much from the gay community since, as long as he's hot, they'd most likely have all done the same because at the end of the day, that's what really counts right?


    Actually we do. The last guy who created a thread like this gathered anger, no one was supportive to that person. I can see similar happening here.
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    Jun 30, 2015 11:25 AM GMT
    christastic saidHe's in a relationship of 7 years, but keeps flirting with me whenever we bump into each other at clubs or through mutual friends, sometimes with his bf nearby, making me think he's in an open relationship. I hear rumours of the terrible way he treats his bf, but to me he is extremely nice.


    Who would want to be involved with somebody like this?
    The OP claims it's just about sex.
    But how much fun would sex be with such a total douchebag?
  • mybud

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    Jun 30, 2015 7:59 PM GMT
    You heard he treats his bf like shit so you want him...Always grabbing for that brass ring huh....
  • ImBlackYall

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    Jul 07, 2015 11:36 PM GMT
    Ok, so with all of these guys on these apps and sites, you'd consider the one with the bf?

    If you're going to do it, just be upfront and ask the bf if they're open or just don't go through with it. It's single guys out here that you're compatible with, I'm sure
  • christastic

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:29 AM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    christastic saidHe's in a relationship of 7 years, but keeps flirting with me whenever we bump into each other at clubs or through mutual friends, sometimes with his bf nearby, making me think he's in an open relationship. I hear rumours of the terrible way he treats his bf, but to me he is extremely nice.


    Who would want to be involved with somebody like this?
    The OP claims it's just about sex.
    But how much fun would sex be with such a total douchebag?


    Yeah but he's such a prince charming to ME! If it's just sex, what more can you ask for, lol... anyway I didn't end up acting on any of this.