Suspected Gay Men Move into the Neighborhood

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 05, 2007 1:31 AM GMT
    Serving on the Board of my neighborhood, I hear about those moving in.... and just heard there is a "single guy" in a home and a male roommate or two.... Certainly curious, but want to be a good neighbor, not a "nosy" person. What would you do?

  • Timbales

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    Oct 05, 2007 1:35 AM GMT
    Stop by, say hello and give them some take-out menus from good places nearby?
  • Alan95823

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    Oct 05, 2007 3:01 AM GMT
    You could always have a blast from the past, bake them some cookies, and just take them over to say hi and welcome to the neighborhood. I've done it for folks who moved into my neighborhood, and they've been incredibly friendly ever since.
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    Oct 05, 2007 3:10 AM GMT
    Do you cook? Invite them to dinner? Chocolate brownies are always a welcome housewarming gift.

    Invite them over to watch a Pennant game on TV? Maybe the Series?

    Invite them out to the local watering hole to watch a Football Game?....





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    Oct 05, 2007 4:42 AM GMT
    I usually don't bother with that sort of thing anymore, since I'm the continuously single guy in the neighborhood in a nice home. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 05, 2007 5:29 AM GMT
    I wanna make some funny reference to Desperate Housewives cuz they're all about neighbors, but I'm failing ... I suck icon_sad.gif
  • Starboard

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    Oct 05, 2007 5:39 AM GMT
    My neigborhood doesn't have a board, so I don't understand what your role is,...do you make the same effort with all the newbies? Would roll out the red carpet if they were obviously straight?

    Personally, I think I am fairly approachable, but I do get put off when people assume a connection based on some perceived commonality. There's nothing wrong with spontaneously introducing yourself to someone new on the block, just as long as they aren't made to feel like some kind of foregone conclusion in the process.
  • metta

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    Oct 05, 2007 6:13 AM GMT
    I live in a neighborhood with quite a few gay neighbors. Most of them are couples.

    You could always give them a housewarming gift.

    My neighborhood has community events all year long so I eventually meet most of the neighbors that way.

    I have an HOA as well. Our HOA created a sub board to create events within the HOA budget: Social Committee. It is a great way to build a community, get to know the neighbors, inform residents, etc. We have a Halloween Scavenger Haunt, Holiday (december), Caroling, Spring Festival, and movie nights in the park. And we add more events over time. Some of the neighbors, for example, want to put together a dog show. That would bring out the gay people..lol..."Best In Show"
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    Oct 05, 2007 6:16 AM GMT
    Take muffins in a muffin sized basket tied with a red ribbon and breakfast goods in a basket finished with a blue ribbon. Go Bree!


    LOL @ Aero. What is it with gay men and quiche? Geeez! icon_lol.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 05, 2007 12:07 PM GMT
    LOL I appreciate all the input. The comments by "Starboard" got my attention especially. The purpose of our Board, like many in new planned communities, is to oversee the care and upkeep of the neighborhood, make sure the neighborhood covenants are followed and I actually serve as the chair of that and must approve residential changes (like fences) to make sure they follow the covenants.

    It really isn't to "roll out the red carpet", but I do try and say hello to new neighbors who move in on my court. The suspected new gay residents aren't on my street, but nearby and I hear they may add a fence, thus I will need to talk to them.

    What I've found interesting are comments from those
    neighbors that surround the suspected gay men. Nothing negative, just things like "there isn't a wife there" and so on. Kind of funny.
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    Oct 05, 2007 1:30 PM GMT
    Try spray painting "fags live here" on their front door, just to see what happens.

    j/k
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    Oct 05, 2007 1:39 PM GMT
    bake em a cake, why not take them a Home Design book and the last season of Will and Grace on dvd

    God how many cliches can you lot throw out!

    why not just flounce over there in chiffon bang on the door and say I hear you are the new meat on the block icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Why would you treat them any different to any other resident
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    Oct 05, 2007 2:21 PM GMT

    Fruit basket or desert would be fine.

    That shows good manners and that you are a good neighbor.

    That's what my mom did. She would bring a peach cobbler or apple pie. Good old southern values.
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    Oct 05, 2007 3:43 PM GMT
    Great suggestions (gotta love McGay). I'd invite them over for cocktails and muchies or bring over some cookies and introduce yourself.
  • dhinkansas

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    Oct 05, 2007 3:55 PM GMT
    If they are moving in, take over some bottled water. Moving is hard work, and no one ever has any water.
    I'd take your shirt off though when you do it to see if they check you out.
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    Oct 05, 2007 4:32 PM GMT
    Tape that picture of you laying across the bench playing with your nipple to their door.
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    Oct 05, 2007 7:02 PM GMT
    Note: to Starboard.


    You are correct and on point. It should not matter if they are gay or straight. They are new to the neighborhood and that alone should be enough to say WELCOME. icon_razz.gif

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    Oct 05, 2007 9:23 PM GMT
    Bake some cookies and bring them over and welcome them to the neighborhood. icon_twisted.gif
  • DrStorm

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    Oct 07, 2007 2:46 AM GMT
    Ever see the movie "Latter Days" ? Those guys could be Mormons....

    Reading this thread kept me thinking of Desperate Housewives....not sure why?

    PEACE

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    Oct 07, 2007 3:07 AM GMT
    Reading this thread kept me thinking of Desperate Housewives....not sure why?

    It's 'cos you're gay.
  • Squarejaw

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    Oct 07, 2007 3:39 AM GMT
    You could always have sex with them and then ask them afterward. People really open up during the afterglow.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 07, 2007 3:55 AM GMT
    I wonder what it would be like if YOU moved into my neighborhood, Squarejaw....LOLicon_razz.gif
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    Oct 07, 2007 4:56 AM GMT
    Smokin'
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    Oct 07, 2007 4:57 AM GMT
    'cos he's gay.
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    Oct 07, 2007 4:57 AM GMT
    and gorgeous.