why gays loath each other

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    Jul 01, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    dont think they do but well written article:


    reference:
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barrett-pall/the-top-10-reasons-the-gay-community-is-so-competitive_b_7696812.html
  • tazzari

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    Jul 01, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    I feel so out of it. I don't loathe anyone, all my gay friends are great people, diverse, and get along - and I don't know of a single clique. Is the author hanging out with the wrong crowd?
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    Jul 01, 2015 4:57 PM GMT
    Sounded pretty much right on to me.

    Funny though, much much worse here than in LA. And much worse than it was 30 or 40 years ago when it was much more of a struggle. The struggle united, but the new found freedom over the last decade or two allowed this to happen.
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    Jul 01, 2015 5:11 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI feel so out of it. I don't loathe anyone, all my gay friends are great people, diverse, and get along - and I don't know of a single clique. Is the author hanging out with the wrong crowd?
    +1
  • jeep334

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    Jul 01, 2015 5:28 PM GMT
    I think the article is extreme. What was written was good for the 80s and 90s but not anymore. With the Supreme Court ruling, attitudes will only get better although there is always a long road ahead when you talk about discrimination.

    But I really don't believe that gay people loath each other. That's too extreme. If there is a prevailing attitude within the gay community, I believe that it's acceptance. Just becuase we don't want to hop in bed every time we're given the opportunity doesn't mean that there is any animosity towards that person.

    We're not in a perfect word yet but we're a lot closer than the author of the article indicates. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 01, 2015 5:31 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI feel so out of it. I don't loathe anyone, all my gay friends are great people, diverse, and get along - and I don't know of a single clique. Is the author hanging out with the wrong crowd?

    That's because you're old and ugly. Duh!!!
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    Jul 01, 2015 5:33 PM GMT
    pazkilimanjaro saidThat article is the truth. I think its really all just self hate. Basically someone projecting their anger with being gay onto the next gay person through whatever means.


    It irks me how there's a lot of gay dudes that try to bring that bullshit mentality towards others like how theres a good portion of dudes that do it here. I'm like "bitch, i'm not competing with your ass and I have nada to prove to you or anybody. Im secure with myself on that aspect." But these cornballs think that a gay guy is crazy if he doesn't engage in that shit or cares for it.

    That's why one reason why I actually don't like being on here because damn near most of you think this shit is some contest when you're winning nothing. Chill out with that insecurity "I'm better than you" bullshit.



    But we ARE better than you Spaz. Duh!!!
  • Jon_Alex

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    Jul 01, 2015 8:14 PM GMT
    I don't feel like the cliques part of it is accurate. I don't think most of the gay guys I've met would consciously place themselves in one or another group such as "twink", "bear", etc. A few maybe, but most are just regular guys with a combination of characteristics.

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    Jul 01, 2015 8:32 PM GMT
    "Gay people verbally attack, emotionally abuse and try to destroy each other, because we can't destroy the enemy"- Unknown
  • venue35

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    Jul 01, 2015 8:53 PM GMT
    Its not only gays that loathe each other...
    straight people loathe each other too..gays are just more bitchy and sassy
  • camfer

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    Jul 01, 2015 9:36 PM GMT
    Males are competitive. Get used to it.

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    Jul 01, 2015 10:54 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI feel so out of it. I don't loathe anyone, all my gay friends are great people, diverse, and get along - and I don't know of a single clique. Is the author hanging out with the wrong crowd?


    Yup, exactly!
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    Jul 01, 2015 11:20 PM GMT
    While everyone is loathing one another, i'm over here playing my PS4 icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 01, 2015 11:23 PM GMT
    tmac2271 saidWhile everyone is loathing one another, i'm over here playing my PS4 icon_cool.gif
    And I just finished my workout for the day. Now I'll go for a bike ride after while to get some alcohol cardio. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 02, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    I feel the article is more relevant for twinks than for other age groups. And of course all those who never mature past twink.

    The older I get the more my attitude is live and let live, we all have our baggage, our struggles, our histories, mistakes, foibles and idiosyncrasies.

    About the competitiveness, I think it boils down to this: I may not want to have sex/become boyfriends with every guy out there. But every guy out there is a potential competitor for those guys, that I do want to have sex/become bfs with.

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    Jul 02, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    It's a bit extreme but mostly true for us younger gays. I have so many people won't talk to me because of silly things. Like my hair is too long or the color of my skin. Just silly haha. I wasn't trying to get into their pants or anything. Just trying to make new friends, it can be a tough crowd sometimes hahaha.

    However, there are some really amazing people in our community as well.
  • davfit

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    Jul 02, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
    its spot on...I see that.. except I don't Play.. I never Fit what some gay people try to project on me..Gay to me is not a lifestyle.. its a Sexual preference.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 02, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    I have to agree that I feel it pertains to the Youth Gay crowd where this kind of stuff is common. I personally believe that a gay man's worst enemy is another gay men over a homophobe but that's just me.
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    Jul 02, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    The way I see it, it's self-loathing, projected.
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    Jul 02, 2015 5:04 PM GMT
    tmac2271 saidWhile everyone is loathing one another, i'm over here playing my PS4 icon_cool.gif


    +1

    Right now, I'm having a martial arts film marathon on my 360 before I go to work.

    I can't really relate to the article because I've never "embarked" in the LGBT community, but concerning certain things, I don't have the energy to mold into a clique or create some form of lifestyle that I don't want to follow for the sake of "being cool". It all seems pretty juvenile and stressful.
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    Jul 02, 2015 5:12 PM GMT
    So what most of you losers are saying is that you don't go out enough to experience anything.
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    Jul 02, 2015 5:32 PM GMT
    This is just more socio/psychobabble. Since when has loathing (read, hate) been equated w/ competition?

    Oh, oh, I know! I know! Call on me, call on me! Since about the time that edumacators and the left started calling anyone who disagreed w/ them "haters," and reducing everything to the absurd dichotomy of love vs. hate? That's a pretty sorry conclusion to the "Summer of Love," isn't it? Well, that's what we're stuck w/ folks, and you can thank yourselves for allowing it to come out that way.
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    Jul 02, 2015 8:25 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidSo what most of you losers are saying is that you don't go out enough to experience anything.


    Hey baeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 02, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    I read that gay men are "bitchy," and it occurred to me that we spend far too much time judging each other based on personality. Gay men are hot!icon_wink.gif