I feel like I need a fresh start

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    Jul 01, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    Not sure if this is the appropriate forum for this but I'll start. I've been living in my Alberta 13 (going 14) years, originally from the east coast. Having grown up here and recently finished college, honestly I feel lonely and a feeling of emptiness. It doesn't help the gay community is small and poor here so it's hard the meet decent guys. Sometimes I get drunk and cry myself to sleep cause i feel so trapped and lonely living here. I've tried making friends straight and gay and that's been a struggle and the friends I have now are busy with their lives such as getting engaged/married, having kids, preoccupied with their significant other so most times I'm alone.

    I've finished college 4 months ago and working in my field of study and I kinda want to move within a year or 2. It's been on my mind for some time and I feel like I'm in need of a change. I want to further my education but not sure if I want stay here and do it. I really want to move to Toronto I hear good things about there. I guess what I'm trying to say is has anyone been through a similar situation and if you lived in Toronto could you share your experiences? I feel as long as I live in Calgary the more depressed I get.
  • metta

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    Jul 01, 2015 7:52 PM GMT
    I have always heard good things about Toronto and they have a large gay community. Sounds like a good idea to me. Just start taking steps now to meet that goal. Good Luck!
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 01, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    Toronto is a great town. One thing that catches many guys by surprise is how quickly you get "dug in" to the town you live in. It can get increasingly hard to move the longer your life and career is in one spot. It sounds to me like you are at the perfect time in your life to guess where you want to live and to make the necessary arrangements to move there. I say do it now. New start. New town. New life.
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    Jul 01, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    I personally prefer Montreal. Toronto is very competitive. And don't rule out the USA either. it is easier than you think to go there as a Canadian. Austin, Chicago, Seattle, Charleston, Atlanta are all fun diverse gay welcoming cities.
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    Jul 02, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    Toronto is...interesting. There's a lot to do, and although i don't particularly love this city, I know it has much to offer other people. I honestly find it to be too gay here and I don't really enjoy it, and though I appreciate the amount of people I can interact with, there isn't much nature around which is depressing.

    If u want more info feel free to msg.
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    Jul 02, 2015 1:28 PM GMT
    for my self; i found issues of depression and isolation tend to follow you no matter where you move.

    Durango Colorado is a tiny small town. What happens if your neighbor next door or employment situ is Mormon?
    Boulder / Ftort Collins are expensive college tech towns.
    Denver rents are high for what you get tho the town is nice accepting.
    Vail - Frisco are ski towns so mostly seasonal employment. Housing there is tight so most people commute in on mountain roads.
  • Svnw688

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    Jul 03, 2015 8:49 AM GMT
    Save and move to NYC. There is no substitute.
  • metta

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    Jul 03, 2015 4:22 PM GMT
    TomSOCAL said Californians are just horrible people, what more can be said about them?

    There are 38.8 Million people in California. That's more than the population of Canada. I know some wonderful people in California. icon_smile.gif