Ever feel ugly around good-looking friends?

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    Jul 02, 2015 11:32 PM GMT
    My straight friend is extremely good-looking. He gets compliments constantly. He's just a universal hot - tall, dark hair, blue eyes, slender but muscular build. Perfect facial structure and nice facial hair (but is also cute clean-shaved). Has a boy-ish charm but is still manly. Extremely friendly and outgoing, can start a conversation with anyone.

    People just fall in love with him at first sight, especially girls/women. He just has movie-star good looks and can probably get any girl he wants. I honestly find him more attractive than any famous person/celebrity that I can think of.

    I can't help but feel horrible about myself when I'm around him. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I definitely have a low self-esteem to begin with and when I'm around him, I just feel worse.

    He's a great friend, but I just can't help but feel like I'm never good enough when I'm around him. There's definitely some jealousy there, but of course I don't wish any harm on him because I love him so much.

    Anyone else experience this? And how do you overcome it?
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    Jul 02, 2015 11:35 PM GMT
    No, but my ugly friends probably do around me. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 02, 2015 11:53 PM GMT
    pazkilimanjaro saidno because i don't place my self worth on my appearance,
    Dude, your friends probably feel ugly around you. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 02, 2015 11:55 PM GMT
    ant811 saidMy straight friend is extremely good-looking. He gets compliments constantly. He's just a universal hot - tall, dark hair, blue eyes, slender but muscular build. Perfect facial structure and nice facial hair (but is also cute clean-shaved). Has a boy-ish charm but is still manly. Extremely friendly and outgoing, can start a conversation with anyone.

    People just fall in love with him at first sight, especially girls/women. He just has movie-star good looks and can probably get any girl he wants. I honestly find him more attractive than any famous person/celebrity that I can think of.

    I can't help but feel horrible about myself when I'm around him. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I definitely have a low self-esteem to begin with and when I'm around him, I just feel worse.

    He's a great friend, but I just can't help but feel like I'm never good enough when I'm around him. There's definitely some jealousy there, but of course I don't wish any harm on him because I love him so much.

    Anyone else experience this? And how do you overcome it?


    First of all there always someone who is better looking, smarter, better built, stronger, more artistic, a better singer than I am. And by extension there are a HELL of a lot more under me! lol (except singing....I'm rock bottom).

    Second, remember the Frasier episode where he was jealous of this seemingly 'perfect guy'? He gets the perfect Doctor (who is tone deaf) to sing at a party.

    Frasier relishes in discovering the 'chink' in his Armour.

    It will make you go crazy until you find a fault.

    DON'T be that guy!!!! A lot of gays are like that. We look till we find a fault. Then we reject them. Enjoy them for what they are. In your case a great friend. He must be a great guy....he likes you! And you are worthy of that friendship, aren't you?!

    (Unless of course he s using you as a gay wing man!) Joking!!!



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    Jul 03, 2015 12:34 AM GMT
    Stop comparing!! Your a handsome guy.
    Different we all are (says Yoda).

    Inferiority complex? Insecurities?

    My rule is strive each day to improve your life in some way or another. Look your best, act your best, show your best personality!!

    Some have hot faces others have hot bods, but it's the hot mind that captivates me!!icon_wink.gif
  • nedto37

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    Jul 03, 2015 4:31 AM GMT
    2bnaked saidStop comparing!! Your a handsome guy.
    Different we all are (says Yoda).

    Inferiority complex? Insecurities?

    My rule is strive each day to improve your life in some way or another. Look your best, act your best, show your best personality!!

    Some have hot faces others have hot bods, but it's the hot mind that captivates me!!icon_wink.gif


    Quoting Yoda!!! Respect!!!
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    Jul 03, 2015 4:40 AM GMT
    Seriously, you're very hot-looking guy yourself.

    It's a common trap to compare ourselves to someone we perceive as better then feel awful about ourselves. I know that all too well.
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:09 AM GMT
    ant811 saidMy straight friend is extremely good-looking. He gets compliments constantly. He's just a universal hot - tall, dark hair, blue eyes, slender but muscular build. Perfect facial structure and nice facial hair (but is also cute clean-shaved). Has a boy-ish charm but is still manly. Extremely friendly and outgoing, can start a conversation with anyone.

    People just fall in love with him at first sight, especially girls/women. He just has movie-star good looks and can probably get any girl he wants. I honestly find him more attractive than any famous person/celebrity that I can think of.

    I can't help but feel horrible about myself when I'm around him. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I definitely have a low self-esteem to begin with and when I'm around him, I just feel worse.

    He's a great friend, but I just can't help but feel like I'm never good enough when I'm around him. There's definitely some jealousy there, but of course I don't wish any harm on him because I love him so much.

    Anyone else experience this? And how do you overcome it?


    Cmon Ant, you're a good looking fella. That straight friend though, is that who I think it is?

    No, I don't feel that way. I don't feel like I'm the hottest or what, despite getting hit on for a lot of times I'm just me and that's all.
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    Jul 03, 2015 3:13 PM GMT
    We are all attractive in our own ways. Find what sets you aside and magnify it. I thing your friend is simply mainstream attractive and that changes a lot.
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    Jul 03, 2015 3:37 PM GMT
    Is this that guy you've fixated upon?

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    That unrequited love you've trapped yourself in?

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    The straight man you want sexually but who doesn't want you?

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    That guy you keep teasing yourself with?

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    What could possibly go wrong with that?

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    And now you feel ugly around him?

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    the pain?

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    I can't understand why. Can you?
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    Jul 03, 2015 3:46 PM GMT
    lol I don't worry about that.
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    Jul 03, 2015 3:58 PM GMT
    No, but I feel like that around hot guys in the gym. Last friday night there was this bodybuilder in the gym and I can honestly say he was the most attractive person I've ever seen in my entire life. Not even just in real life, but ever.

    It was soul-shattering. I didn't know whether to be attracted to him or insecure about the fact that I had decided to wear a tank top.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 03, 2015 4:48 PM GMT
    Mmm not really around friends since I honestly don't have that many but I do sometimes feel that when I'm out with my brother since he's a lot bigger than me at times and every does like him a lot more than me (believe me, I know lol) since we can't go anywhere without someone complimenting him which is something I never really got in my life heh. I do like myself at the end of the day but just being honest here.

    I think the main thing you have to remember is that you are who you are. We all have something about us that is good in one way or another. And if your friend truly does enjoy your company and doesn't do anything to belittle you, you should be grateful to have such a nice friend.

    And besides OP, you look fine, I think you're being much to hard on yourself.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Jul 03, 2015 5:09 PM GMT
    Can we see a pic or two of ur friend?! icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 03, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    Yup. Or more frequently now, I feel old and ugly around younger, cuter guys. lol But I live with it. I know I can hold my own when I want to so I may feel that way sometimes, but I don't let it hold me back from enjoying the company. Some guys just have that magnetism. My younger son is like that. No kidding. True story but it is typical of everywhere-all-the-time. We go to a movie. Standing in a line of maybe ten people, before we get to the front he has maybe six or seven girls around him (and a few guys, too). It happens everywhere. Drives his older brother crazy. We went to a club that had a line of maybe 40 people waiting to get in. It snaked past a closed swimming pool half full of nasty water. Before we got to the front, he had pretty much the entire line betting whether or not he'd jump in the pool. He did. Made maybe $600. And the bouncer ushered us into the club with him soaking wet and standing there in his underwear. No cover for us. He used the cash to buy a round of drinks for the line outside the door.

    Enjoy your friend. You can harass him about it and give him some ridiculous nick-name. If he's a good guy, he'll feel sheepish about it and you can have some fun with him.
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:06 PM GMT
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    no
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
    ah
    yet another clever thread to canonize your love and admiration for your straight crush...what's his insta???

    to answer: No
    Tend to draw in the attractive and keep the ones with low self-esteem--fish in a barrel
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 03, 2015 7:31 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should start appreciating the fact that he is YOUR friend.
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
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    Jul 03, 2015 7:55 PM GMT
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    pazkilimanjaro saidno because i don't place my self worth on my appearance,
    Dude, your friends probably feel ugly around you. icon_lol.gif
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    Get off his fucken dick Paul.

    Stop trying to stroke his ego just because you want him to feel better. If you really wanted to help his confidence you would help him get a job, see a therapist, or tell him to get off the internet once in awhile.


    Besides, dude looks like a monkey. Real talk breh!!!
  • jjguy05

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    Jul 03, 2015 8:24 PM GMT
    ant811 said

    I can't help but feel horrible about myself when I'm around him. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I definitely have a low self-esteem to begin with and when I'm around him, I just feel worse.

    Anyone else experience this? And how do you overcome it?


    I do. I overcome it by lifting, and I'm aiming to put on more lean mass (aiming for 20 more lbs). Jacked dudes with bulldog faces have a their own kind of sexiness, so that's my goal, lol.

    That said, you have nothing to worry about, ant11.

    Keep the facial hair, it makes you look very handsome. Sometimes, for a lot of guys, it's something as simple as that. And you can always put on muscle.
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    Jul 03, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    ant811 said And how do you overcome it?


    It doesn't bother me much. You could find uglier friends.

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    Jul 04, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    After your 40 you don't care about this shit anymore.My fiancée is very handsome and guys,girls even lesbians are always crushing over him.I keep my eyes open but am I jealous..no.When I was 17..yes.
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    Jul 04, 2015 2:35 AM GMT
    I think I would have to ask myself, "what's the value in those looks?"

    From a business perspective he is highly likely to be hired in sales and marketing. Unless he ages gracefully, that won't last forever; he'll be replaced by a younger good-looker.

    His personality would be the same less those looks. Don't let lack of self-esteem sour your personality.

    Lastly, beauty being in the eye of the beholder, you are someone's "hot guy."