Bottom Shaming

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 08, 2015 7:20 AM GMT
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    Jul 08, 2015 7:42 AM GMT
    OMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah
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    Jul 08, 2015 7:46 AM GMT
    Well?....I never considered it a "shame" to bottom, or even "dominant" to top.....I never really considered sex as binary...one with out the other is nothing. but I guess in a straight world..ok. Interesting video. I didn't know candy could talk! Damn!icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 08, 2015 9:08 AM GMT
    The only shame with being the bottom is if everyone else gets to the bottom before you.

    ...or maybe I'm thinking of gravity sports, such as downhill mountain biking, snowboarding, skiing, etc.
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    Jul 08, 2015 2:42 PM GMT
    It's not "limiting" to have a preference, whether it's bottoming, topping, dominating, submitting, etc. If you're a bottom, be proud of it; if you're a top, just own it. What's tragic is if you're truly a bottom, for example, and you try to be a top just to satisfy some agenda or expectations. Personally, I love bottoms who know what they want and go about getting it.
  • ASHDOD

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    Jul 08, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    1] if somebody asks you ,''who's the women and who's the man in your sex?'' tell him : when you eat with chopsticks,who's the fork and who's the knife?''

    2]I'm a bottom ,but I'm always mistaken for a top [even when i write down in my profile that I'm a btm,very annoying].

    2] this shrink is too hot, i would never go to him for counseling.
  • davfit

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    Jul 08, 2015 3:33 PM GMT
    So many guys I've met. say I'm a Top with such pride.. usually followed by..telling me or you're a bottom.. I say I'm a middle
    and also can remodel my house myself and restore Cars can you?
    followed by... I have a Beard and a Tan... LOL
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    Jul 08, 2015 4:06 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe only shame with being the bottom is if everyone else gets to the bottom before you.

    ...or maybe I'm thinking of gravity sports, such as downhill mountain biking, snowboarding, skiing, etc.

    This thread could stand some gravitas.
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    Jul 08, 2015 4:10 PM GMT
    I don't have many gay friends but if I did and they asked me who the bottom was, I'd say "None of your fucking business!", "How dare you ask me that!" or just scowl at them and ignore them.

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    Jul 08, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    darius30 saidI don't have many gay friends but if I did and they asked me who the bottom was, I'd say "None of your fucking business!", "How dare you ask me that!" or just scowl at them and ignore them.

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    I've always wanted to reply to a married straight guy who asked that question with, "Your wife." I've never had it asked of me, though. Must be hangin' around w/ the wrong crowd. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 08, 2015 5:26 PM GMT
    HFrenchM saidOMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah

    tbh
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 08, 2015 5:41 PM GMT
    I think that, with the exception of occasionally having to explain gay relationships to a few misinformed straight people, this is generally more of an issue for people into random hookups, because people tend to stereotype promiscuous bottoms as slutty and promiscuous tops as studs. But I don't think people in LTRs really dwell on this issue, unless maybe they are incompatible, in which case it isn't meant to be.
  • NealJohn

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    Jul 08, 2015 8:27 PM GMT
    I'm going to go out on a limb and say the guy in video is always the bottom
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 08, 2015 8:46 PM GMT
    NealJohn saidI'm going to go out on a limb and say the guy in video is always the bottom

    And proud of it!
  • supreme_fit

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    Jul 08, 2015 9:33 PM GMT
    josh_92 said
    HFrenchM saidOMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah

    tbh


    further perpetuating and proving just how shallow gay men are.
  • supreme_fit

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    Jul 08, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
    HFrenchM saidOMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah


    further perpetuating and proving just how shallow gay men are.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 08, 2015 9:43 PM GMT
    supreme_fit said
    HFrenchM saidOMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah


    further perpetuating and proving just how shallow gay men are.

    I don't think following people you don't know around and calling them shallow is going to score you personality points. I only mention that because you seem to want people to appreciate your personality more than your questionable profile pic.
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    Jul 08, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    supreme_fit said
    HFrenchM saidOMG he is gorgeous - I didnt listen a word, I just looked at him ahah


    further perpetuating and proving just how shallow gay men are.



    ummm your best "asset",as your only pic, is your butt!
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    Jul 08, 2015 9:48 PM GMT
    I don't "bottom shame"....why would I?

    A hot muscular man with a hot ass is the BEST thing in the world!
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    Jul 08, 2015 10:11 PM GMT
    Bottoms have the control in the relationship. Whether or not you enter the inner sanctum is completely up to them. So basically if the top wants to "tap dat ass" he's going to have to dance to the bottom's tune. Bottoms can afford to be selective and actually can't afford not to be.
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    Jul 08, 2015 10:39 PM GMT
    Is bottom shaming common? I know there are some people out there who might ask "who's the woman between you two" but I don't know if that should be considered bottom shaming.
  • nomad4life

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    Jul 08, 2015 11:03 PM GMT
    My ex used to tell me all the time how he believed me to be more "manly" than him because I was able to put up with "the pain" that comes from bottoming and he couldn't
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    Jul 08, 2015 11:08 PM GMT
    What was up with the stock photography showing pensive (depressed bottoms?) men? Wow, I just learned the Ken Burns effect on my Macbook!

    Of course, the "straight-acting" macho dude I was raised to be immediately ticked off all of the effeminate traits the presenter displayed in his monologue.

    I'm going to admit it...it called me out. Happy to have watched this, and happy to have watched myself watch it from a more mature perspective.
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    Jul 09, 2015 12:17 AM GMT
    I've never heard of bottom shaming. None of my gay friends ever defined themselves exclusively as a bottom or top.

    I don't understand why would anybody be ashamed of being a bottom. I guess it's a generational thing.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 09, 2015 12:55 AM GMT
    Great discussion, certainly some important points to consider, definitely truth in what he conveyed.