Moving to Another Continent for Love

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    Jul 09, 2015 2:06 AM GMT
    Hi guys,

    So, i saw someone asking for advise and i read a few quite good ones. So ill give it a chance.

    Heres the situation. I met this guy through a ver similar site as this one, we started talking on skype and all of the sudden a whole year went by and we have either skype, email or whatsapp every single day since we met. We called each other boyfriend once we had like 5 months of knowing one another. Both generated feelings for each other and i did fall in love with this great guy.

    So at one point i decided that i was going to travel to his country which is all the way around the other side of the world. And we finally met in person, we hit it off pretty good and both could feel each others love. Now, we both really want to be together but that means i will have to move all the way there, and as much as i want to do that, I cant stay there more than 3 months as it is not legal to stay more. I will have to be traveling every 3 months back and forth. If it all works out and we are good for each other then we will get married at one point so we can finally be together, but as we all know, there is a chance it might not work out. What i need advise from is: Would you risk your job or whatever you have in your contry for love?

    I need some advise as i really scare if it doesnt work out i will come back home to nothing to come back to and start from 0.

    Thanks guys and sorry for the long post. icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Jul 09, 2015 4:19 AM GMT
    If it was true love, from the depths of my soul, I'd go.
  • hebrewman

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    Jul 09, 2015 8:26 AM GMT
    so. you are in south america, and he is where? why can't he come to you? you're the one making the move? sounds suspicious to me, but, then again, i'm not as electronically connected as you young lads are. think about it. what happens if the 'love' fizzles out? where will you be then?
    one must weigh the odds for a big move like this.
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    Jul 09, 2015 3:15 PM GMT
    If his location is Greece, I would do my best to get him to move to Argentina. Moving to Greece is like tossing your future into a well.
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    Jul 09, 2015 4:02 PM GMT
    For myself, the question would be: Does the idea of the adventure of moving around the world for a few months sound interesting and appealing enough to me on it's own merits that I'd do it even if a relationship with a guy I know there doesn't last?
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    Jul 10, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    I was in a very similar predicament a few months back. My situation was more precarious as the "love" was only one sided. (Yes, I know that I'm beyond moronic.) However, here is how I see it. I've been obsessed over this guy for years. Not knowing whether he reciprocates these feelings is not letting me move on. So, wasting a year or two would be a small price to pay for closure.

    I realize that your situation is very different. But, do you really want to ask yourself "what if" for the rest of your life? Isn't it worth wasting a year or two of your life?
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    Jul 10, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    You all are making really good points!!...im def thinking more now with those questions you guys have asked.

    I def dont want to ask myself "What If"... Is just that little part of me that is scared of things not working out and to come back to my country and start all over again. But there is also a chance that it will work out.

    Have talked to my bf and he said something i do agree with and it really hit me hard... "Is either take the risk or end things" as we both dont want to be in a long distance relationship nor an online relationship... Reason why im the one moving is cause he will lose more than i do by moving.
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    Jul 10, 2015 4:29 AM GMT
    He could have at least visit you for a few times, so he'll learn about your country and your culture. That way he wouldn't lose anything.
  • wellwell

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    Jul 10, 2015 11:36 AM GMT
    I'm down; let's try Brazil ?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jul 10, 2015 12:35 PM GMT
    KJSharp saidIf his location is Greece, I would do my best to get him to move to Argentina. Moving to Greece is like tossing your future into a well.
    Moving to deeply troubled Greece is like jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Think twice about this major move because Greece is a financial and economic basketcase and if this relationship deteriorates than how are you going to support yourself in a turbulent, bankrupt societyicon_question.gif
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    Jul 13, 2015 5:16 AM GMT
    Thanks guys!!...and No, its not Greece!!... ;)