What does it mean when someone replies with "hey"?

  • dilfforrent

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    Jul 09, 2015 5:36 AM GMT
    If not interested, why not just ignore? Why bother with a reply that doesn't even make sense?
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    Jul 09, 2015 5:42 AM GMT
    dilfforrent saidIf not interested, why not just ignore? Why bother with a reply that doesn't even make sense?

    to be "nice", what else?
    some people consider ignoring someone is rude. This behaviour is something you should know unless you have no basic social skills.
  • dilfforrent

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    Jul 09, 2015 5:48 AM GMT
    If you write someone "sweet profile, I like beach volleyball too! let's go sometime!" IMO it's almost worse than being ignored to get a response that clearly ignores everything you said.
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    Jul 09, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
    dilfforrent saidIf you write someone "sweet profile, I like beach volleyball too! let's go sometime!" IMO it's almost worse than being ignored to get a response that clearly ignores everything you said.

    As I said, the guy was obviously trying to be polite.
    Since you cannot control other peoples reactions (and by the way his reaction was very normal), what is the point of this thread?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 09, 2015 6:19 AM GMT
    dilfforrent saidIf you write someone "sweet profile, I like beach volleyball too! let's go sometime!" IMO it's almost worse than being ignored to get a response that clearly ignores everything you said.


    It's all about you .... isn't it? icon_twisted.gif

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  • ardeerd

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    Jul 09, 2015 6:27 AM GMT
    I guess it would depend on what the message said. "hey" is not inherently bad.
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    Jul 09, 2015 6:52 AM GMT
    What's the dilemma here? You interpreted his "hey" reply as being not interested. Just move on.
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    Jul 09, 2015 8:38 AM GMT
    I'd say the respond tend to be equaly long and elaborated as the original message sent to break the ice. At least, that's how I do.

    Typically, a conversation just starting with "hey, you're cute" or anything like that does not give much to respond to... I always reply, but in that case, yeah : I keep it short too. I expect a minimum of conversation skills from others, it's anoying always be the one who bring up new topics, especially when you get very short answers, and no reciprocated questions in return ! xD

    Talking about something on the guy's profil you liked, asking opened questions (those you can respond by other thing than y/n) is a good way to avoid this basic "hey" as a respond in my opinion.
    If you get one of those anyway, well... yeah, that's probably a way to tell you "I'm not interested", but like others pointed out : at least the guy was polite enough to give you an answer, even if it's not an honest and precise one.
  • ai82

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    Jul 09, 2015 3:19 PM GMT
    idk...maybe it means "hey." If you look at it from the other side maybe the guy's just trying to introduce himself. If the first message I received from a stranger was lets meet up I might respond similarly...like hey, how are you, what's your name. Maybe you should respond with an introduction?
  • starboard5

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    Jul 09, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    David666k is most likely right. But this thread only underlines a larger point: communication over the Internet sucks. You really have no idea what the other person means. There's so much parsing and misunderstanding that can happen. Like a friend of mine says, look at it as a tool. If you're interested in someone try to take it to real time asap.
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    Jul 09, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    I would have just responded back: Hey?
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    Jul 09, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 09, 2015 11:51 PM GMT
    I say "hey" or "hey there" quite frequently, I think its better than replying with "hello". I don't see any issue.
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    Jul 10, 2015 3:11 AM GMT
    It means he's not interested really. He just wants to make a small talk to bait and see if you want to talk back or try to connect. It's just a short *Hi. icon_cool.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 10, 2015 3:16 AM GMT
    It means he was sexting you while driving but before he could complete his dirty thought he ran over a gaggle of schoolchildren and accidentally hit the send button.icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 10, 2015 4:39 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhat do gay horses eat?


    Haaaaaaaaaaaaaay!
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    Jul 10, 2015 5:01 AM GMT
    My last tindr convo went like this:

    Him: Hey
    Me: Nice cleavage
    Him: Haha thanks! How's it going?
    Me: (blah blah) Why are you up so late?!
    Him: Hey
    Me: Thx
    Him: What are you thanking?
    Me: what are you 'hey'ing?
  • mar0302

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    Jul 10, 2015 6:45 AM GMT
    Bjorkio saidI'd say the respond tend to be equaly long and elaborated as the original message sent to break the ice. At least, that's how I do.

    Typically, a conversation just starting with "hey, you're cute" or anything like that does not give much to respond to... I always reply, but in that case, yeah : I keep it short too. I expect a minimum of conversation skills from others, it's anoying always be the one who bring up new topics, especially when you get very short answers, and no reciprocated questions in return ! xD


    Completely agree.. I tend to ask open ended questions.. try to get conversation going.. if it doesn't work then it's time to move on.. but "hey" by itself doesn't tell you whether the person is bad at convo, uninterested, or interested but not sure how to start a chat..
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    Jul 10, 2015 5:54 PM GMT
    Maybe the person is socially awkward and uncomfortable with the comments you made.. Maybe he's driving and wants to at least acknowledge your msg but not go into a long conversation.. I personally believe it's rude not to at least say something back to someone even when it is perfectly obvious that they are not what I'm looking for.
  • FredMG

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    Jul 10, 2015 11:03 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should ask the person who says "hey" what they mean.

    I myself would use as part of a more complete thought like "Hey, how about we go grab a beer this weekend". though that never actually gets me a beer, it seems to be a little off putting.

    perhaps that's why guys just do the "hey" part.

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    Jul 10, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    They want to find out how thirsty/desperate you are. If you are enough, they will fish for some compliments or maybe even pump and dump you. So...they are best disregarded.
  • dilfforrent

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    Jul 14, 2015 5:34 AM GMT
    ^^Yeah that's the only explanation I can think of, otherwise it makes no grammatical sense!

    Aqueerius saidMy last tindr convo went like this:

    Him: Hey
    Me: Nice cleavage
    Him: Haha thanks! How's it going?
    Me: (blah blah) Why are you up so late?!
    Him: Hey
    Me: Thx
    Him: What are you thanking?
    Me: what are you 'hey'ing?



    Haha exactly!
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:01 AM GMT
    Ohno saidThey want to find out how thirsty/desperate you are. If you are enough, they will fish for some compliments or maybe even pump and dump you. So...they are best disregarded.



    Lol **Hey boo, icon_redface.gif lol this is why I like almost all of your posts, so blunt like a dart straight to the heart !! icon_redface.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_redface.gif