MuchMoreThanMuscle saidReading the Facebook contributions toward the bottom of that article and you can clearly see that the majority of people's reaction to it is negative, and slightly snide. And with good reason, too.
I just read some of their comments. I think some people are taking the strained relationship between the father and the son to heart, which is understandable.
It would seem that the son did not live near the father which would seem logical, as most gay men move away to a city that is more accepting, therefore the mailing of the card.
The son sent it in 89' and died in 95' at age 45. That would make him about 39 when he sent it and the father somewhere probably around 65 at the time it was sent and in his mid 80's now.
It is unfortunate that society, especially our older society, from a quarter of a century ago, have had such a difficult time coming to grips with homosexuality, but that was way of the older generation, you can't change something that was ingrained into their minds and behaviors since childhood that easily.
What I took away from the story was that perhaps the father was still wrestling internally with, yes, his son whom he still loved, burning in Hell, because that was the belief system he grew up with and mentally he could not move beyond it. I also see this as maybe some sort of loving son's sign from the great beyond (if you believe in that sort of thing, which I do) that his son forgave his father for his ignorance, wishing him a happy father's day and his message could ease his father's anguish, who could finally come to terms and realize that gay people go to Heaven too.
I guess it is a matter of choice as to how you wish to interpret the story, and whether or not you choose to forgive those that have hurt us, or hold on to it. I'd rather just let it go once it no longer matters.