"Not my type"

  • thefong1122

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    Jul 10, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    Hey all, so recently I've come out and trying to date. The guys that I'm physically attracted to are more athletic, rugged, and muscular. I've noticed that if I try to talk with people with those physique, 9/10 they simply say "sorry, not my type". For these types of guys, are they only attracted to people with their same body type? And yes, I do look at more than just looks. Thanks everyone!
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    Jul 10, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    haa haa
    I think it is actually quite polite to answer - sorry not my type, if they would answer honestly you might get insulted and upset seeing what people honestly think.
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    Jul 10, 2015 6:16 PM GMT
    Most gay/bi guys I know workout because they find the muscular body attractive, so they want it, I guess that explains why 9/10 are attracted to the same physique. icon_idea.gif

    I workout for the same reason really, I know it's going to take a while and a lot of work. Another reason is because I like to 1up myself and want someone that can do that as well. icon_twisted.gifBeing in shape shows a lot more than just a good looking body to me.

    I don't know if that made sense but that's my opinion :3
  • thefong1122

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    Jul 10, 2015 6:20 PM GMT
    Actually it is a polite answer lol and ok good to know that they are only attracted to their kind thanks guys icon_smile.gif.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 10, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    The birds of the feather flock together.

    The dudes who are pumping some serious iron are usually attracted to the guys who look the part, too.

    You have got to have some other, very serious attribute to attract their attention.

    Usually, it is either the extraordinary size of your equipment or the cash you may be willing to spend on them or both. Usually... not always. And not in every case.

    SC
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    Jul 10, 2015 7:17 PM GMT
    If you don't meet the requirements of your own preferred "standards" then you're only dissing yourself and should expect the same in return.
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    Jul 10, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
    Imma keep it real wit you.

    You are looking at guys who are out of your league. Sure you may find one or two who are into you, but by and large you don't have much of a shot.

    Hate to break it to you.
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    Jul 10, 2015 7:48 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidImma keep it real wit you.

    You are looking at guys who are out of your league. Sure you may find one or two who are into you, but by and large you don't have much of a shot.

    Hate to break it to you.


    Jmusc, you feeling OK? ^^wasn't even mean!
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    Jul 10, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi said
    jmusmc85 saidImma keep it real wit you.

    You are looking at guys who are out of your league. Sure you may find one or two who are into you, but by and large you don't have much of a shot.

    Hate to break it to you.


    Jmusc, you feeling OK? ^^wasn't even mean!


    Yes. Why?
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    Jul 10, 2015 11:57 PM GMT
    Why should they wanna be with u?

    They dedicate themselves to their fitness and health and work hard to achieve a good physique... and u think they should be into you?

    You're into them cuz they look fuckin good. You're not into them cuz they look like u, so why the fuck should they give u the time of day? Right?
  • Eli_jah

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    Jul 10, 2015 11:58 PM GMT
    That pic of the bug-eyed dog is ghastly.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jul 10, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    Import saidWhy should they wanna be with u?

    They dedicate themselves to their fitness and health and work hard to achieve a good physique... and u think they should be into you?

    You're into them cuz they look fuckin good. You're not into them cuz they look like u, so why the fuck should they give u the time of day? Right?


    Too... much... logic. Well, the human ego is irrational above all else.
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    Jul 11, 2015 12:38 AM GMT
    Mulignan saidThat pic of the bug-eyed dog is ghastly.


    Your mother is ghastly!!!
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    Jul 11, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    thefong1122 saidHey all, so recently I've come out and trying to date. The guys that I'm physically attracted to are more athletic, rugged, and muscular. I've noticed that if I try to talk with people with those physique, 9/10 they simply say "sorry, not my type". For these types of guys, are they only attracted to people with their same body type? And yes, I do look at more than just looks. Thanks everyone!

    Don't get discouraged. I see plenty of couples where one guy has an athletic body and the other doesn't. It's generally true that guys are attracted to their own physical type, but it's not an absolute.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 11, 2015 1:53 AM GMT
    You need to find a rugged, athletic guy who is insecure about his rugged athleticness so he'll someone he doesn't see as competition.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 11, 2015 1:56 AM GMT
    You can also try the "I don't find you hot or attractive" approach - reverse psychology. Play like you aren't interested and see if they respond to the challenge.
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    Jul 11, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    For one thing, you should let guys approach you instead of always approaching them. If you aren't taking this approach already, try it. You can attract some nice looking guys like this.

    Second, you clearly have a type, so you should understand that the type of guys that you like have their own types.

    And lastly, spend more time looking at faces than bodies. The eyes have it and some guys can be incredibly sexy without being muscular. You just might find that this helps you broaden your prospects.
  • bro4bro

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    Jul 11, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    So, let me get this straight...

    You want a guy who'll put in all the hard work, just so you can reap the benefits?

    I've heard this story before somewhere.

    Oh yeah - it's The Little Red Hen.

    The moral goes something like this: Maybe if you'd got off your fat ass and put the work in when you had the chance, you could have had a nice piece of cake now.
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    Jul 11, 2015 5:49 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidThe moral goes something like this: Maybe if you'd got off your fat ass and put the work in when you had the chance, you could have had a nice piece of cake now.

    Yes, if you obsess about yourself and spend all your time at the gym, selfishly ignoring everyone and everything else, you too can be a prick!

    No, you're looking at the small percentage of guys that look great and yes, many work hard to establish that look (no doubt about that) but you may be fishing in the wrong pond for someone that is truly your type. Remember, the 6 pack will eventually turn to a keg and the pecs will begin to sag. Evaluating someone for who they are, how they treat you and others and how they got to where they are are much better qualities than just based upon a hot body.

    True attraction is well beneath the 6-pak! Now in all fairness to bro4bro (despite his rude comment), caring for yourself, including working out and watching your diet, will generally result in more attention. Your single picture however does not allow for a true assessment of how you look. Good luck.
  • brendanmuscle...

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    Jul 11, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
    BP201 saidIf you don't meet the requirements of your own preferred "standards" then you're only dissing yourself and should expect the same in return.

    ^^ this

    Its just the reality. for example I expect a similar level of interest in working out that I put in my own body in a partner
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    Jul 11, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
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    bro4bro saidThe moral goes something like this: Maybe if you'd got off your fat ass and put the work in when you had the chance, you could have had a nice piece of cake now.

    Yes, if you obsess about yourself and spend all your time at the gym, selfishly ignoring everyone and everything else, you too can be a prick!

    No, you're looking at the small percentage of guys that look great and yes, many work hard to establish that look (no doubt about that) but you may be fishing in the wrong pond for someone that is truly your type. Remember, the 6 pack will eventually turn to a keg and the pecs will begin to sag. Evaluating someone for who they are, how they treat you and others and how they got to where they are are much better qualities than just based upon a hot body.

    True attraction is well beneath the 6-pak! Now in all fairness to bro4bro (despite his rude comment), caring for yourself, including working out and watching your diet, will generally result in more attention. Your single picture however does not allow for a true assessment of how you look. Good luck.


    Well, shit. I think I love you. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 11, 2015 6:21 AM GMT
    OP Key Words are:

    #attraction
    #rugged
    #muscular
    #athletic
    #looks
    #Boring <----Maybe this is what they really see in you!!!
    #date


    In time we shall all sag like good old schwarzenegger and look what happened to him.

    I like these key words:

    #funny
    #smart
    #talented
    #unique
    #loyal
    #cultured


    Point? Don't look for things that are further than you can realistically find. Improve your self daily and be the guy above. ALL the #keywords
  • Zigs_01

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    Jul 11, 2015 6:30 AM GMT
    It's obvious to some people that others want to date who are good looking as themselves. Being fat won't get you a muscular person.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 11, 2015 6:35 AM GMT
    Are you "athletic, rugged, and muscular"? If not, then this is going to be your first obstacle. You need to be where the "athletic, rugged, and muscular" hang out, and in order to do that, you have to be one. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2015 7:14 AM GMT
    Seems cold, unpersonal and everything, but... at least, it's blunt and clear. Just be glad you're fixed that soon, instead of beeing misslead ;) Just move on to another one, and if physical appearance is THAT important to you on a guy, maybe try to reciprocate on this, and improve yours as well ? icon_rolleyes.gif