SilverRRCloud saidNot much will change for anyone if you choose abstinence. The sun will still rise in the east, and other dudes will be still having the fun they want to have. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
Guys may or may not be having romantic interest in you. If you stick with your rules, and deny them sex, they will move on. Life is too short for anyone to wait and see how your rules work out for them.
So, you befriend a dude, and he says, he is romantically interested in you. He may or may not be saying the truth. You, then, turn him down on the sex bit, because you have your rules. The guy moves on because he sees you as a sexually negative person who is making it difficult for both you and him to have sex, and check if it works for you.
More likely than not, you are creating your own problems by denying the reality of the fact that hardly anyone wants to invest his emotions, energy, time and money before making sure that you are sexually compatible.
I have no problem with what you are saying. Honestly I have no desire to invest my time in a guy who can't wait a week or two to have sex. I am not playing games. I just want to go on a few dates before I have a dick in my mouth.
The problem I have is that knowing I am not willing to have sex very quickly guys still date me and then become frustrated when I don't drop everything to please them. My favorite was the guy who came on really strong. After turning him down for a week he says never mind and reveals he has a girlfriend. I also loved the dude who kept pressuring me to go back to my place for sex. It turns out he got into an argument with his family and was kicked out. He wanted to fuck me so he could spend the night. Then their is the friend who refused to spend time with me outside of work unless it was at my place. This guy made it very clear I wasn't his type. He constantly told me he liked younger guys and didn't want a relationship. When I would tell him what I was looking for, we were "friends", he would claim he was that guy. Yet every time I invited him out; movies, bar, karaoke, he would ignore me. Then the next day he is asking to come over.
I am not playing games. I am being very upfront. Hell if a guy told me, "all i want to do is fuck you, no friendship, no relationship," I'd be all for it. At least he is being honest. If the dude is dangling friendship or romance in front of my face but can't even spend two weeks getting to know me before fucking me I don't want him. Yet gay men continuously tell me they are cool with not having sex, and then pressure me for sex.