Um I just found out I have herpes............

  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 14, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    So I decided to get tested for stds and I got my results back today and I have herpes. I walked out of my doctors office crying like a bitch and I'm so nervous and scared about what's gonna happen to me icon_sad.gif

    I have hsv-1 herpes. I didn't even know there was 2 types but there's hsv-1 and hsv-2. Hsv-1 is on the mouth like I have and hsv-2 is on your dick and stuff. Apparently hsv-1 is really common idk like that's supposed to make me feel better.....

    My doctor asked me if I have blisters on my mouth and I told him that I have for the past few months but I thought it was chapped lips...anyway I guess its not a good thing to have blisters because he gave me a prescription for some medicine that I have to take for the next 7 days. He said it should get rid of the blisters and if it doesn't I have to go on stronger medicine and I'm so nervous that this medicine isn't gonna work because I went untreated and didn't do anything bc I thought it was chapped lips for months.

    He also said that as long as I don't have blisters I can't spread it to other people but now I'm reading stuff online and I'm seeing stuff where it says that if I have oral sex at all w someone I can spread it to them.

    I have no idea what to do omg I've only had sex with one person in my whole entire life so far, my ex boyfriend. and I can't believe he gave it to me wow he took my virginity and I was in love with him. I don't even know if he gave it to me though because its not only spread through sex


    I know this sounds like a really stupid thing to worry about but I don't know if I'll ever even be able to kiss or do anything with a boy ever again in my whole life icon_cry.gif I hope that this medicine he gave me works and then the blisters go away wow I don't know wtf I'm gonna do if they don't

    Anyway if anyone on here knows anything or has this please let me know and reach out to me I'm so scared and don't know what to do.
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    Jul 14, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    Your doctor is wrong. You can spread herpes even if you are not having an outbreak. The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus. This is how asymptomatic, people who don't breakout, people spread the herpes virus.

    Your boyfriend may or may not have given it to you. Because the CDC doesn't recommend testing for herpes most STD test don't include it You generally have to request it or get a full panel. If your boyfriend gave it to you he may not have known he had it, most people don't. You could have also gotten it from someone else. Some kids get it from kissing other kids or kissing there parents on the lips.

    You do have to disclose your condition to those you have sexual conduct with. It sucks but herpes is not the end of the world. Its really just skin irritation for most of this who even show symptoms. Someone once told me herpes is an ass hole checker. Guys who are just using you for sex will turn you down when they find out you have herpes, leaving the guys who are actually serious about you as a person.
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    Jul 14, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    Calm down you'll be fine and will heal up. Cold sores happen and my sister has them occasionally. She's single but celibate.
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    Jul 14, 2015 6:44 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidYour doctor is wrong. You can spread herpes even if you are not having an outbreak. The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus. This is how asymptomatic, people who don't breakout, people spread the herpes virus.

    Your boyfriend may or may not have given it to you. Because the CDC doesn't recommend testing for herpes most STD test don't include it You generally have to request it or get a full panel. If your boyfriend gave it to you he may not have known he had it, most people don't. You could have also gotten it from someone else. Some kids get it from kissing other kids or kissing there parents on the lips.

    You do have to disclose your condition to those you have sexual conduct with. It sucks but herpes is not the end of the world. Its really just skin irritation for most of this who even show symptoms. Someone once told me herpes is an ass hole checker. Guys who are just using you for sex will turn you down when they find out you have herpes, leaving the guys who are actually serious about you as a person.


    What do you mean by "The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus."? I thought you have herpes for the rest of your life so what does shed the virus mean?

    Also you said I can spread it when Im not breaking out right? So what is this article talking about when they say-"For example, as long as you don't have herpes sores on your mouth, you can perform oral sex on your partner,"

    http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes-sex-life

    I know that article is about genital herpes so its different but what do they mean by that?? And my doctor said the medicine has gonna give me should get rid of the blisters for good but I'll always have herpes but now I'm seeing stuff about outbreaks so is it even possible to get rid of the blisters forever???

    Sorry omg I'm so confused thanks!
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    Jul 14, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    pazkilimanjaro saidThink that it's kind of cute to see you panicking over something that isn't a std.

    You have the cold sore on your mouth herpes. There's different types of herpes but only 1 of them is a std. The one you have is not the one on your dick herpes. That's type 2. Type 1 is nothing really. Only thing is that if you have a cold sore on your mouth, you can give someone genital herpes if you suck their dick.


    So if I don't have the cold sore I CANT spread it to other people?
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    Jul 14, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    2bnaked saidCalm down you'll be fine and will heal up. Cold sores happen and my sister has them occasionally. She's single but celibate.


    So are cold sores and herpes the same thing?? Does everyone who's had a cold sore have herpes?
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    MrFuscle saidYour doctor is wrong. You can spread herpes even if you are not having an outbreak. The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus. This is how asymptomatic, people who don't breakout, people spread the herpes virus.

    Your boyfriend may or may not have given it to you. Because the CDC doesn't recommend testing for herpes most STD test don't include it You generally have to request it or get a full panel. If your boyfriend gave it to you he may not have known he had it, most people don't. You could have also gotten it from someone else. Some kids get it from kissing other kids or kissing there parents on the lips.

    You do have to disclose your condition to those you have sexual conduct with. It sucks but herpes is not the end of the world. Its really just skin irritation for most of this who even show symptoms. Someone once told me herpes is an ass hole checker. Guys who are just using you for sex will turn you down when they find out you have herpes, leaving the guys who are actually serious about you as a person.


    What do you mean by "The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus."? I thought you have herpes for the rest of your life so what does shed the virus mean?

    Also you said I can spread it when Im not breaking out right? So what is this article talking about when they say-"For example, as long as you don't have herpes sores on your mouth, you can perform oral sex on your partner,"

    http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes-sex-life

    I know that article is about genital herpes so its different but what do they mean by that?? And my doctor said the medicine has gonna give me should get rid of the blisters for good but I'll always have herpes but now I'm seeing stuff about outbreaks so is it even possible to get rid of the blisters forever???

    Sorry omg I'm so confused thanks!


    Note that the CDC is using the term genital herpes to refer to HSV-1, and HSV-2. Both forms can be present on many areas of the body. Wrestlers sometimes get them on their thighs. Herpes tends to like warm wet body parts though. It is possible, but very unlikely to spread herpes from one body part to another on yourself. Very, very unlikely but still possible. You can spread cold sore to your partner's penis or anus. You should use protection, condoms for oral sex and a barrier for anal sex. Which would make it genital herpes even though its HSV-1, which is more commonly associated with the mouth.

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm

    Basically shedding means you are having a non visible outbreak. The virus is active but you don't have blisters. No medication will make it go away forever. Maybe you will be lucky and only have one outbreak and never have another. Maybe you will have very infrequent outbreaks months and years apart.

    http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/viral_shedding.htm
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    2bnaked saidCalm down you'll be fine and will heal up. Cold sores happen and my sister has them occasionally. She's single but celibate.


    So are cold sores and herpes the same thing?? Does everyone who's had a cold sore have herpes?


    Yes cold sores is the nicer way of saying you have oral herpes. You can tell people you get cold sores if you are uncomfortable with the term herpes.
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    You better start writting your will, just in case.
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:16 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    NYC_BOI said
    MrFuscle saidYour doctor is wrong. You can spread herpes even if you are not having an outbreak. The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus. This is how asymptomatic, people who don't breakout, people spread the herpes virus.

    Your boyfriend may or may not have given it to you. Because the CDC doesn't recommend testing for herpes most STD test don't include it You generally have to request it or get a full panel. If your boyfriend gave it to you he may not have known he had it, most people don't. You could have also gotten it from someone else. Some kids get it from kissing other kids or kissing there parents on the lips.

    You do have to disclose your condition to those you have sexual conduct with. It sucks but herpes is not the end of the world. Its really just skin irritation for most of this who even show symptoms. Someone once told me herpes is an ass hole checker. Guys who are just using you for sex will turn you down when they find out you have herpes, leaving the guys who are actually serious about you as a person.


    What do you mean by "The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus."? I thought you have herpes for the rest of your life so what does shed the virus mean?

    Also you said I can spread it when Im not breaking out right? So what is this article talking about when they say-"For example, as long as you don't have herpes sores on your mouth, you can perform oral sex on your partner,"

    http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes-sex-life

    I know that article is about genital herpes so its different but what do they mean by that?? And my doctor said the medicine has gonna give me should get rid of the blisters for good but I'll always have herpes but now I'm seeing stuff about outbreaks so is it even possible to get rid of the blisters forever???

    Sorry omg I'm so confused thanks!


    Note that the CDC is using the term genital herpes to refer to HSV-1, and HSV-2. Both forms can be present on many areas of the body. Wrestlers sometimes get them on their thighs. Herpes tends to like warm wet body parts though. It is possible, but very unlikely to spread herpes from one body part to another on yourself. Very, very unlikely but still possible. You can spread cold sore to your partner's penis or anus. You should use protection, condoms for oral sex and a barrier for anal sex. Which would make it genital herpes even though its HSV-1, which is more commonly associated with the mouth.

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm

    Basically shedding means you are having a non visible outbreak. The virus is active but you don't have blisters. No medication will make it go away forever. Maybe you will be lucky and only have one outbreak and never have another. Maybe you will have very infrequent outbreaks months and years apart.

    http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/viral_shedding.htm


    THANK YOU!!!!!!! wow omg youve been a huge help I'm sitting here reading all these diffent articles and they all say different stuff and my doctor was so vague so I was so confused omg thanks!!
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    MrFuscle saidYour doctor is wrong. You can spread herpes even if you are not having an outbreak. The virus sheds from time to time so even if you don't have any outbreaks you can still shed the virus. This is how asymptomatic, people who don't breakout, people spread the herpes virus.

    Your boyfriend may or may not have given it to you. Because the CDC doesn't recommend testing for herpes most STD test don't include it You generally have to request it or get a full panel. If your boyfriend gave it to you he may not have known he had it, most people don't. You could have also gotten it from someone else. Some kids get it from kissing other kids or kissing there parents on the lips.

    You do have to disclose your condition to those you have sexual conduct with. It sucks but herpes is not the end of the world. Its really just skin irritation for most of this who even show symptoms. Someone once told me herpes is an ass hole checker. Guys who are just using you for sex will turn you down when they find out you have herpes, leaving the guys who are actually serious about you as a person.




    "Cold sores are contagious. From the first tingle to healing, the virus spreads through direct contact. Avoid close physical contact and do not share towels, utensils, or beverages.


    Recognize the Signs of an Outbreak

    Don’t be fooled by a cold sore that’s contagious before you even see it. When you feel that tingling, itching, or burning on or around your lips, the contagious cold sore is already forming. Take the same precautions you would as if there was actually a visible cold sore."

    https://www.abreva.com/about-cold-sores/spreading-cold-sores/
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    David666k saidYou better start writting your will, just in case.


    I really think I am going to wow I can't even have sex with people without using a condom and no guy is gonna want to fuck me knowing I have herpes anyway whether I'm using a condom or not so I would probably be better off dead icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    pazkilimanjaro said
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    pazkilimanjaro saidThink that it's kind of cute to see you panicking over something that isn't a std.

    You have the cold sore on your mouth herpes. There's different types of herpes but only 1 of them is a std. The one you have is not the one on your dick herpes. That's type 2. Type 1 is nothing really. Only thing is that if you have a cold sore on your mouth, you can give someone genital herpes if you suck their dick.


    So if I don't have the cold sore I CANT spread it to other people?


    You can only spread the mouth cold sore when it's on your face. The shedding and all that other shit is for type 2 herpes.


    Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh wow OK! That's good omg I was honestly so depressed thinking that I'll never be able to kiss a boy or suck a dick or eat an asshole ever again and I know that's such a stupid thing to worry about but omg I've been talking to this guy who I really like and I wanna meet him soon and I thought that now I'll never be able to do anything with him

    And my doctor said he thinks the medicine will get rid of the sores for good but I'll see if it works a week from now omg I'm so nervous icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:33 PM GMT
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    pazkilimanjaro said
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    pazkilimanjaro saidThink that it's kind of cute to see you panicking over something that isn't a std.

    You have the cold sore on your mouth herpes. There's different types of herpes but only 1 of them is a std. The one you have is not the one on your dick herpes. That's type 2. Type 1 is nothing really. Only thing is that if you have a cold sore on your mouth, you can give someone genital herpes if you suck their dick.


    So if I don't have the cold sore I CANT spread it to other people?


    You can only spread the mouth cold sore when it's on your face. The shedding and all that other shit is for type 2 herpes.


    Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh wow OK! That's good omg I was honestly so depressed thinking that I'll never be able to kiss a boy or suck a dick or eat an asshole ever again and I know that's such a stupid thing to worry about but omg I've been talking to this guy who I really like and I wanna meet him soon and I thought that now I'll never be able to do anything with him

    And my doctor said he thinks the medicine will get rid of the sores for good but I'll see if it works a week from now omg I'm so nervous icon_cry.gif


    Some people go into remission and never have another outbreak. Some get one once every year. Some more often. If there is a trigger try to stop it.
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    David666k saidYou better start writting your will, just in case.


    I really think I am going to wow I can't even have sex with people without using a condom and no guy is gonna want to fuck me knowing I have herpes anyway whether I'm using a condom or not so I would probably be better off dead icon_cry.gif


    David is so helpful that way icon_rolleyes.gif
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    David666k saidYou better start writting your will, just in case.


    I really think I am going to wow I can't even have sex with people without using a condom and no guy is gonna want to fuck me knowing I have herpes anyway whether I'm using a condom or not so I would probably be better off dead icon_cry.gif


    David is so helpful that way icon_rolleyes.gif

    And you're an idiot if you believe a word from this troll.
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    Jul 14, 2015 7:49 PM GMT
    David666k said
    timmm55 said
    NYC_BOI said
    David666k saidYou better start writting your will, just in case.


    I really think I am going to wow I can't even have sex with people without using a condom and no guy is gonna want to fuck me knowing I have herpes anyway whether I'm using a condom or not so I would probably be better off dead icon_cry.gif


    David is so helpful that way icon_rolleyes.gif

    And you're an idiot if you believe a word from this troll.


    Even if he is a troll, other people may be reading this.
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:08 PM GMT
    David666k said
    timmm55 said
    NYC_BOI said
    David666k saidYou better start writting your will, just in case.


    I really think I am going to wow I can't even have sex with people without using a condom and no guy is gonna want to fuck me knowing I have herpes anyway whether I'm using a condom or not so I would probably be better off dead icon_cry.gif


    David is so helpful that way icon_rolleyes.gif

    And you're an idiot if you believe a word from this troll.


    If you think I'm trolling you're the idiot. Anyway I don't care if you believe me what the fuck
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:21 PM GMT
    pazkilimanjaro said
    NYC_BOI said
    pazkilimanjaro said
    NYC_BOI said
    pazkilimanjaro saidThink that it's kind of cute to see you panicking over something that isn't a std.

    You have the cold sore on your mouth herpes. There's different types of herpes but only 1 of them is a std. The one you have is not the one on your dick herpes. That's type 2. Type 1 is nothing really. Only thing is that if you have a cold sore on your mouth, you can give someone genital herpes if you suck their dick.


    So if I don't have the cold sore I CANT spread it to other people?


    You can only spread the mouth cold sore when it's on your face. The shedding and all that other shit is for type 2 herpes.


    Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh wow OK! That's good omg I was honestly so depressed thinking that I'll never be able to kiss a boy or suck a dick or eat an asshole ever again and I know that's such a stupid thing to worry about but omg I've been talking to this guy who I really like and I wanna meet him soon and I thought that now I'll never be able to do anything with him

    And my doctor said he thinks the medicine will get rid of the sores for good but I'll see if it works a week from now omg I'm so nervous icon_cry.gif



    The herpes virus is quite common and most people have the type 1 shit anyway. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Read somewhere that over 70 percent of the population has it. Chickenpox and shingles are also different version of the herpes virus.

    Good that you got tested and are making it a habit. They say that most of the population that has genital herpes don't even know they have it. They never ask to get tested for it or don't have any visible symptoms though they may have been exposed to it. With the misinformation going around about hiv prevention drugs like PreP. People often forget about viruses like genital herpes which you can get from unprotected sex when there isn't a visible outbreak or when a guy might be shedding.


    Wow thanks! The more I find out about it, the less nervous and scared I am but I just really hope that I can like kiss guys and stuff and enjoy my life and I'm really hoping this medicine works and it gets rid of the blisters but I've had these blisters for a few months and I thought it was just chapped lips so idk I hope not getting treated for all that time doesn't mean this medicine won't work icon_cry.gif And yeah I know I'm so happy I got tested wow this was my first std test and I didnt even have to ask to get tested for herpes specifically which is great bc I never would have thought to do that especially because I was neg for everything else
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:33 PM GMT
    Dude.....most everyone I know gets cold sores from time to time. Chillax! At least you didn't get the gift. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:38 PM GMT
    "With the misinformation going around about hiv prevention drugs like PreP."

    Like Michael Weinstein? In his anti-Truvda crusade?
    He is virtually alone within the HIV health field.
    http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/09/10/michael_weinstein_of_the_aids_healthcare_foundation_hates_truvada_don_t.html

    PrEP works if taken as prescribed. No one ever said it prevented other STD. PrEP is approved by the FDA.
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    Jul 14, 2015 8:50 PM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    If you think I'm trolling you're the idiot. Anyway I don't care if you believe me what the fuck


    either a troll or another 13 year old girl that's taken over this site...Home schooled???
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    Jul 14, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    You ought to be careful but seems no reason to freak. I don't get cold sores but I sure have seen them on lots of people. Googling I found this:

    https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#safe=off&q=percent+of+population+cold+sore
    About 50 percent to 80 percent of US adults have oral herpes


    so I knew it was high but I didn't know how high. By that it sounds like getting it or not having it is nothing but a matter of luck.

    Also I've read babies can get it from their parents' kisses so don't let it make you feel badly about sex.

    I'd think you've only two issues, trying to not infect an uninfected other by the timing of it but also not engaging in sex which can further infect you if you've an open sore at that time.

    What I do get are canker sores inside the mouth, just a few times a year. Tiny things but sometimes they can hurt. Usually they might develop after I've done some damage like bit the inside of my cheek or something. That's a genetic thing but a lot of people have that too. It just means that while I've got one, I protect myself by not engaging in oral sex for those days. And that's not even an open sore, just a little white bump. This type of stuff is not a big deal. Just deal with it.
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    Jul 14, 2015 9:17 PM GMT
    Another thing I don't understand is ok let's say this medicine works and it gets rid of the blisters and then I don't have an outbreak for a long time. Can I makeout with a guy and um how do i phrase this.... swap spit? Or no even if I'm not having an outbreak I could still give it to a boy by making out and tasting each others tongues??? I'm so worried about this omg wtf icon_cry.gif if I can never make out with a guy again I'm gonna be so depressed