Have you ever felt like allowing your boyfriend to hook up with other guys?

  • maikigaiki

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    Jul 15, 2015 2:48 AM GMT
    I was just curious about this fetish: letting your boyfriend have sex with other guys independently or actually being present while he does it. If you have had any experiences or desire to try, please comment.
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    Jul 15, 2015 3:15 AM GMT
    Never had a bf, but to some couples an open relationship may be what is needed to "spice" their personal love life. Not necessarily condoning this, but couples need to have a solid commitment towards one another before carrying out this type of relationship. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 15, 2015 5:28 AM GMT
    Only only on the other side. I've had several couples invite me over to fuck one of them while the other one watches. To be honest, I found it just too weird. I mean, if it was an outright three-way, that was fine. But there was always too much tension when the other guy just sat out and watched.

    One guy kept bringing his wife over to watch me fuck her. Then he'd take her home, then come back a couple of hours later to suck my cock. As if she didn't know icon_rolleyes.gif I had to break up with them because they kept showing up, drunk, on my doorstep when I was trying to work. (I work from home.) They didn't actually last too long as a couple. Duh. icon_neutral.gif
  • PRDGUY

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    Jul 15, 2015 6:06 AM GMT
    NO... on both counts.
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    Jul 15, 2015 7:32 AM GMT
    No, I'm selfish. I won't ever share the person I love. Hell to the no!
  • Wendigo9

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    Jul 15, 2015 8:32 AM GMT
    If it's a long-distance relationship, then it's bound to happen sooner or later.
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    Jul 15, 2015 9:31 AM GMT
    Back in the days when I pretended to be str8, there was a husband and wife I knew that were in a similar situation...

    Both young, agile, and highly sexually active, until the guy was hit by a car while riding his bike, paralyzed from the waist down, wholly unable to get it up anymore.

    They tried all sorts of ways to still enjoy sex, but he couldn't stand with the pain and immobility in any position they tried. So they agreed to let her invite guys over for her to bang... and he'd get to watch and often direct the action.

    How do I know this to be true? I once accepted their invitation while I was single and had no better offers.

    So... it can be the right thing in the right situation... or a very wrong thing in the wrong situation.
  • Coast

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    Jul 15, 2015 10:09 AM GMT
    I personally don't like the idea. Simply because of my personal belief that being in a boyfriend-boyfriend relationship means committing fully to one another icon_smile.gif
  • CJAS

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    Jul 15, 2015 10:48 AM GMT
    I'm in an open relationship and this works fine. It's about the emotional commitment you have to each other and sex is sex. You need to be honest with each other, set ground rules and be clear what you both will accept/won't accept.

    You ask about wanting to let your bf sleep with other guys rather than wanting to do the open rel thing though - i'm guessing because this turns you on or because you think/know he wants to? I'd be wary if it was because of any doubt about the relationship, but if it's not and it just feel's right/something you want to do (and he's into it!) i'd say go for it icon_cool.gif
  • wellwell

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    Jul 15, 2015 3:07 PM GMT
    no
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    Jul 15, 2015 4:33 PM GMT
    My relationship isn't Open, but it's not Closed either. We've had three-ways and other encounters. As long as it's safe and not a crutch--or ahem, pillar--of the relationship, it's pretty fun.
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    Jul 15, 2015 4:49 PM GMT
    MasterOfTheDomain saidNo, I'm selfish. I won't ever share the person I love. Hell to the no!


    WORDDD no one puts their dirty paws on my boy. well he doesn't exist actually but yeah AGRRED.
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    Jul 15, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    It's not for everyone, but for me, I find it completely natural. I'm in an open, polyamorous relationship and it works great for both of us - but that's the thing, both people have to be in the same mindset. It's not just about sleeping with other guys, it's really about open, honest communication, mutual respect, and a mature view on sexuality. We started this relationship discussing this concept from the get go, and found we both share the same belief systems. And maybe that's why it works so well for us - we started out this way and weren't trying to 'spice things up' in an existing situation...
    We both work with men's bodies in healing arts and appreciate male energies. He has other lovers and so do I...Plus we often play together with a third or small groups - sometimes sharing our lovers with each other or just playing with mutual friends. We always play safe when we're playing with others - whether we're together or apart.
    For us, it's about being committed at the heart. We have built a level of trust with each other (by being open and honest) which allows us to experience pleasure with others. I love to see him sharing himself with another guy (and frankly, I totally get off on watching him take a cock...but that's just me). We tell each other everything. Secrecy, pretending or being on the down low just doesn't make sense to us. Even when we're playing together, we're staying connected by checking in with a touch or eye contact, making sure the other is getting their needs met. It's not just physical, we truly care for our other lovers - sex without passion is pretty dull. It's this compassion that endears us to each other. And when it's just the two of us, the passion and lovemaking is off the charts!
    With that said, I don't want to make it sound like it's always easy. As humans, our ego's can try to interject sometimes, but when something like that comes up, we share what we're feeling and talk it through. All relationship requires nurturing. It's a continual process. We still continue to grow and explore new things with each other, and the more we do, the stronger our bond becomes. I love him like never before.
    We realize that as a society, we are unconventional. We consider ourselves to be very lucky. Like I said, this is not for everyone. But if you feel like it's something you want to explore, be honest with your intentions. Be honest with your actions. And most of all be open with your communications. Then start slow...

    (you might also want to check out some body electric workshops)
  • whytehot

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    Jul 16, 2015 12:37 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidMy relationship isn't Open, but it's not Closed either. We've had three-ways and other encounters. As long as it's safe and not a crutch--or ahem, pillar--of the relationship, it's pretty fun.


    That makes it open you slut icon_lol.gif
  • Buddha

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    Jul 16, 2015 12:51 AM GMT
    I sometimes like to watch, so I can think it's pretty hot to see my boyfriend with another guy. I say watch but I like to be pretty close, like making out with either of them. And then I like to join in, I think that's really hot.

    It's good most of the time, there was just this one time where I totally just lost it and walked out, and sat down on the curb in the city for half-an-hour in the middle of the night.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 16, 2015 1:07 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidMy relationship isn't Open, but it's not Closed either. We've had three-ways and other encounters. As long as it's safe and not a crutch--or ahem, pillar--of the relationship, it's pretty fun.

    Let's just say it's ajar.icon_lol.gif
  • supreme_fit

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    Jul 16, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidOnly only on the other side. I've had several couples invite me over to fuck one of them while the other one watches. To be honest, I found it just too weird. I mean, if it was an outright three-way, that was fine. But there was always too much tension when the other guy just sat out and watched.

    One guy kept bringing his wife over to watch me fuck her. Then he'd take her home, then come back a couple of hours later to suck my cock. As if she didn't know icon_rolleyes.gif I had to break up with them because they kept showing up, drunk, on my doorstep when I was trying to work. (I work from home.) They didn't actually last too long as a couple. Duh. icon_neutral.gif


    damn that's hot. I got a stiffy reading that while on the treadmill. that must've made you feel pretty studly. being worshipped by a cuckold loser and his wife..did u ever creampie her snatcheroo?
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    Jul 16, 2015 10:41 AM GMT
    Allowing.
    Letting.

    You have a /&%# #&)#&"% attitude. Let me rephrase that for you:
    "Would you ever make an arrangement with your boyfriend where he fucks other guys? Possibly fucks other guys with you watching."

    Yes, if I thought it was hot (and I felt like I was still his main squeeze and he loved me). I don't know if I would find it hot enough, haven't tried it.
    I would feel weird about a one-sided open relationship though. If he was off fucking other guys but I was required to be monogamous. That sounds like an unhealthy relationship.
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    Jul 16, 2015 1:54 PM GMT
    FYI:
    keep in mind the OP has one post and claims to be from Alcobendas, Madrid, Spain
    remarkable native English abilities tho
    i mean if it matters go pour your heart out here
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    Jul 16, 2015 4:26 PM GMT
    whytehot said
    mickeytopogigio saidMy relationship isn't Open, but it's not Closed either. We've had three-ways and other encounters. As long as it's safe and not a crutch--or ahem, pillar--of the relationship, it's pretty fun.


    That makes it open you slut icon_lol.gif


    I'd consider it open if my business trips had some sort of hall pass arrangement. No, whenever the situation comes up, it's more or less discussed (or eyebrow-eyebrow-winked) first. Closed-ish. The guy's gotta be rawwwr.
  • runnersteve

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    Jul 21, 2015 5:08 AM GMT
    I've been married 20 years and think it'd be hot. But we've got young kids and, seriously, who has the time?
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    Jul 21, 2015 6:16 AM GMT
    supreme_fit said
    mindgarden saidOnly only on the other side. I've had several couples invite me over to fuck one of them while the other one watches. To be honest, I found it just too weird. I mean, if it was an outright three-way, that was fine. But there was always too much tension when the other guy just sat out and watched.

    One guy kept bringing his wife over to watch me fuck her. Then he'd take her home, then come back a couple of hours later to suck my cock. As if she didn't know icon_rolleyes.gif I had to break up with them because they kept showing up, drunk, on my doorstep when I was trying to work. (I work from home.) They didn't actually last too long as a couple. Duh. icon_neutral.gif


    damn that's hot. I got a stiffy reading that while on the treadmill. that must've made you feel pretty studly. being worshipped by a cuckold loser and his wife..did u ever creampie her snatcheroo?


    LOL. No. I didn't want to end up in the middle of that lawsuit. I always pulled out and spooged on her face.