Seeking Help From My Fellow Bottoms

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    Oct 05, 2007 9:28 AM GMT
    So, I have no idea how to ask the question other than to just blurt it out and get the answers.
    How do you bottom?
    I mean, I know that sounds weird, and I need to explain.
    I am a versatile/bottom and I love to bottom. It is just that no matter how much I douche and make sure that I am clean (and empty in there), when he really gets going and I start to get some amazing pleasure, my body starts to do this thing where I get this huge warning sign that I have to go to the bathroom. Out of fear, I pull off of him so that nothing happens, and nothing does happen. My body just gets a “re-boot” and it feels like it never happened. But when he gets back in a going, after awhile, it does it again.
    It drives me crazy cause much more than I like to top, I REALLY LOVE to bottom and I just think that it is annoying for me (and must be very odd and possibly annoying for my top). Is it me, or do I just need to get my body better used to it?

    Then, after that . . . do any of you have any tips to bottom a top’s brains out?icon_wink.gif


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    Oct 05, 2007 1:45 PM GMT
    eventualy you will get better control of your muscles and be able to distinguish between what is what so to say.

    I must admit well done on putting this up theres a thousand and one questions Id like to ask about this subject and have never dared!!!!

    One thing I worry about is I heard that the protein in sperm can cause damage to the intestines, I dont know if its true or not!!!!

    As for what makes a mind blowing bottom well one thats as equally active as a hard thrusting top, learn to tease them with your muscles until they beg for mercy that normally does the trick

    Big respect for putting this up, and would welcome the input of some more experience bottoms as Im kinda still in my infancy stages, mind you my bf is hung like a horse so probably have an arse like Grand Central station now!!!!!
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    Oct 05, 2007 6:00 PM GMT
    Make sure after you douche that you get as much of the water out as poss. This might make you feel like you have to 'go' during anal. Esp if you're getting plowed and it's moving around in there. Douche like an hour before yu think it might happen if you can. Hey t'rows my bday, maybe I'll go get laid! Heee.....
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    Oct 05, 2007 11:02 PM GMT
    Maybe you should try to give yourself more time after douching before the sex?
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    Oct 08, 2007 2:28 PM GMT
    Wow, TiggerHeight, I haven't done top or bottom very much either way, but recently I was bottoming with a small-ish hung guy and I felt the same sensations as you did, like I really had 'go' really bad all of a sudden; and had him exit, but there wasn't anything of the sort happening at all. Think I love being tops a heck of a lot more though.
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    Oct 08, 2007 3:38 PM GMT
    I agree with bfg1... tease your tops cock head with your anal ring... don't let him plow you until you are ready... once in, rpip him tighter with your ass muscles... drives them nuts.. helps to work your ass muscles daily... pulse (clench) while riding in the car or sitting in a chare...
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    Oct 08, 2007 5:45 PM GMT
    Not much of a doucher - I play with toys in the bathroom a couple of hours or so and that seems to trigger me to empty. I tend to be a bit rough with myself and
    that seems to trigger a mucal response where I make my own "lube" (buttwater!)

    Always a pleasant surprise - and it feels so great when that "pops" icon_smile.gif It's messy but clean if you know what I mean ;)

    BTW - The toy isn't so fat that that my partner gets a wide, loose ride.
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    Oct 09, 2007 7:40 PM GMT
    Do you have to doustch?
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    Oct 09, 2007 8:09 PM GMT
    n8dagrt, I feel that I do. No matter what, I want to make sure that I am clean in there and take no chances.

    P.S. Thank you to everyone that has responded. I am getting a lot of help. Thanks.

    Now . . . if only I had a boy friend.icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 09, 2007 9:01 PM GMT
    douching isnt mandatory but is advisable if you aint received before. But theres a few guys along the way I sure as heck wished they had douched! Had to leave my windows open 3 days after one ! Nearly turned me straight again!!! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 12, 2007 3:15 AM GMT
    OK, from what I have tried and what i have heard that sensation is fairly normal, I think it has to do with the fact that the lower intestine reacts to having something in there with an urge to expell it. Basicaly your body is used to having to go to the washroom whenever there is a arge mass in that area. Hence when you are bottoming it can cause your body to feel the need to defecate. In my personal experience, it has not really had anything to do with douching, and can all depend on where the guy hits on the inside. Hope this is helpfull.
    P.S. Gaining control helps can help to repress said urge, and give him extra pleasure.
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    Oct 16, 2007 2:23 AM GMT
    Waterdragon said it perfectly
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    Oct 20, 2007 4:44 AM GMT
    Try practicing with a dildo icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 20, 2007 4:58 AM GMT
    becareful with douching, if you douch too much you make it impossible for the good bactiria in your rectum to grow back and you can start getting serious infections
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    Oct 22, 2007 7:42 PM GMT
    It could be air. When my men are pounding me hard and it feels so devine, they are also pumping me full of air which gives those bowel feelings.
    I take extraordinary precautions to clean out, I fast the day before and take a series of enemas and then check before we get started.
    A good fart and it clears right out, it's usually just air pumped into me.
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    Nov 06, 2007 12:33 AM GMT
    bfg1
    are u bottoming bareback? if not u shouldn't have to worry about protein in ur intestines.
    Also, u guys should try the shower attachments to hose urself out.