The Perfect One

  • ChicagoSteve

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    Jul 17, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    Just curious as to the experience of others. Most of us have our types. If you have been lucky enough to have met your type, and I am talking about a guy who is physically right down your alley, and, at least in your mind, the guy of your dreams, and you connected with him. What was the outcome? Are you still together? Did it fizzle out? Basically, what I am asking is the age old question of love at first sight.
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    Jul 17, 2015 2:29 AM GMT
    ChicagoSteve said... talking about a guy who is physically right down...


    relationship issues have little or nothing to do with the physical.
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    Jul 17, 2015 3:34 AM GMT
    Ah.... Summer of 1995 in Maine I met the man of my dreams but our fling only lasted a few months before distance intervened. I've had no contact with him since then. Same thing with another dreamboat I was seeing in early 2014, though he and I are still long distance friends.

    I've been in two long-term relationships (1997-99 and 2003-12) but neither of those guys were "the man of my dreams"...
  • jeepguySD

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    Jul 17, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    Yes, I found my perfect man several years ago. Everything about him was exactly what I had always hoped for in a man: handsome, muscular, masculine, tough as nails but also gentle, kind, caring, compassionate, charming. And we were great together, until he was "saved." He became a born again Christian and believed that God "cured" him of his attraction to me (and other men). He and I are still very close, but now only as friends.
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    Jul 17, 2015 4:22 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    ChicagoSteve said... talking about a guy who is physically right down...


    relationship issues have little or nothing to do with the physical.


    Agreed and I don't believe in the perfect guy.
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    Jul 17, 2015 4:47 PM GMT
    No such thing as a truly 'perfect' guy, but I did meet a hunky stud right here in Forums. We're still together, since 2008. Never actually met until 2009, and just did the e-mail and phone calls for about a year. Met finally at an airport. Hit it off beautifully right from the start. He lived on the east coast, and I lived 3000 miles away. After a number of cross country visits, he moved to California with me, and got a great job in Silicon Valley. Here we are. Who knew you could meet The One on a web site? That's why I can't get too annoyed with this site, or leave it entirely. There are good guys here, and a number of them we've met and are friends with.
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    Jul 17, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    Yes, there have been a few; guess I'm lucky.
    The first, when thought of, still causes me to catch my breath...both Marines before don't ask don't tell--something neither of us could over come.
    The second: Young enough to be my son.
    The third: same story as jeepguySD.

    But, here's the deal; the last one, the forever one of 15 years now, did not start out as the perfect one...
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 17, 2015 7:30 PM GMT
    The guy I love, my partner, was not the man of my dreams until we met. Stay open to surprises. They're so much better than predictability.
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    Jul 17, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    Wow... that kinda bites. Sorry to hear but glad you're still friends. I'd de-convert him. icon_twisted.gif

    jeepguySD saidYes, I found my perfect man several years ago. Everything about him was exactly what I had always hoped for in a man: handsome, muscular, masculine, tough as nails but also gentle, kind, caring, compassionate, charming. And we were great together, until he was "saved." He became a born again Christian and believed that God "cured" him of his attraction to me (and other men). He and I are still very close, but now only as friends.
  • mybud

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    Jul 17, 2015 8:07 PM GMT
    Superficial guys always look for perfection when the reality is,it's those imperfections that make us unique. I like imperfect, and I'll eat my fill.
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    Jul 17, 2015 8:58 PM GMT
    There's no thing as a *perfect guy. A lot of guys want perfection and they're staying single for a long time. Some of the *hot perfect guys i met in the past, we just hooked up and I didn't really keep in contact with them. I've been in and out of love about 2-3 times in the past and those guys are far from perfect. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 17, 2015 9:09 PM GMT
    wen i think about it.. none of them were perfect. Our views of what is perfect change wen we like someone. None of the guys ive loved were perfect in terms of their appearance. and far from the "ideal" of wat i dream of. but wat i loved wasnt because of that.. but because they were so much more then that.
    so i dont believe in "LOVE" at first sight.. more like infatuation at first sight?
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    Jul 17, 2015 10:46 PM GMT
    As many other guys have said it, there is no perfect guy for you. Yes, there should be initial attraction, but relationship shouldn't be just based on that or it will fizzle out sooner than you expect. There should be connection, and feelings which aren't just born out of your lust for him.
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    Jul 18, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    I met a hot, world renowned photographer from France last year. We hooked up most of 2014 but then he found a bf and it kinda just stopped. He has perfect to me....icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Jul 18, 2015 11:38 AM GMT
    Just started thinking about it coming off a long marriage; I'll keep you posted.
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    Jul 21, 2015 12:40 AM GMT
    Guys who just want to search for that *perfect guy are stuck in that Disney Princess phase of looking for their prince charming. Lol, so how's that working out so far? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif