Recently moved and having trouble meeting people


  • Jul 17, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    Hi

    I recently moved from New York to Florida and have been struggling to meet people in the area.

    It's such a desolate sprawl of strip malls and gated communities it's hard to meet people outside of work or school. I guess there's clubs and bars, but even back in New York I never really went out and don't have much experience with the scene. And I'm nervous about dipping my toe in now, especially since I don't have any friends in the area to make a trip of it with. Besides i"m not 21, although I'm not sure how strict gay bars about 18+.

    Idk, any suggestions?
  • metta

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    Jul 17, 2015 6:59 AM GMT
    http://lgbt-social-group.meetup.com/cities/us/fl/boca_raton/
  • metta

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    Jul 17, 2015 7:15 AM GMT
    http://www.glbtnearme.org/GLBTNearMeResults.php?zip=33442&miles=15&category=Youth&submit=Search



    http://www.glbtnearme.org/GLBTNearMeResults.php?zip=33442&miles=15&category=Sports&submit=Search
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    Jul 17, 2015 7:21 AM GMT
    Go to Bike America, at Quiet Waters Park (it's in Deerfield - one of my hangouts).

    Actually go there on Wednesday night. Demo a bike for a night ride - it's free. You'll meet all sorts of cool people...some gay, some bi, most closeted, over half sexy.

    Totally win-win place to meet people. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 17, 2015 7:24 AM GMT
    Oh and I forgot to mention, 100% of them are bicycle nerds who'll keep you entertained for hours on the latest boring bike gadgets that you'll never use. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 17, 2015 2:23 PM GMT
    theproductofboredom said... recently moved from New York to Florida and have been struggling to meet people ...
    Makes you think how different NY is from where the OP wound up (Florida). Is the grass gay enough for you?
  • davfit

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    Jul 17, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    don't blame yourself it's most likely its the area your in
    when I moved to sobe it was tough so I visted fort lauderdale
    met a lot of people.
  • davfit

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    Jul 17, 2015 4:52 PM GMT
    don't blame yourself it's most likely its the area your in
    when I moved to sobe it was tough so I visted fort lauderdale
    met a lot of people.

  • Jul 17, 2015 6:53 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    theproductofboredom said... recently moved from New York to Florida and have been struggling to meet people ...
    Makes you think how different NY is from where the OP wound up (Florida). Is the grass gay enough for you?

    The grass is all cut to the exact same height.

    It's honestly creepy, like I slipped into some Steven King novel and the residents of my neighborhood are secretly lizard people or have a black chitinous exoskeleton.
  • PRDGUY

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    Jul 17, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGo to Bike America, at Quiet Waters Park (it's in Deerfield - one of my hangouts).

    Actually go there on Wednesday night. Demo a bike for a night ride - it's free. You'll meet all sorts of cool people...some gay, some bi, most closeted, over half sexy.

    Totally win-win place to meet people. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sounds like I'm going to have to do a trip back home to Florida

  • Jul 17, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
    Do Gay bars card much compared to straight bars?
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    Jul 17, 2015 10:31 PM GMT
    I'd think you'd be welcomed at the boardwalk where an old friend used to drag me to keep him company while he got drunk though it wasn't my thing. I'd usually leave as soon as he'd become drunk and belligerent, the signal being that he'd start bashing Democrats. Side story. Anyway that's this place http://boardwalkbar.com/

    If I remember right it's mixed but mostly older aged group there for the younger people working the place so they could probably tell you were else to go. If you can't get in as a customer (I've no idea as to policy, really not my scene and so I never paid that close of attention to it) then you could probably get a part time job there to meet people.)

    And I see by your profile that you mention Brazil so you might already know that just south of you in Pompano is a pretty substantial Brazilian population including Deerfield. So maybe if you got involved with activity there you'd have immediate common base to develop friendships.

    Particularly this https://www.facebook.com/brazilianfestpompano
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    Looks like October so I'd bet they need volunteers, you'd be in time to get involved with that.

    Or if you are not studying EMT at FAU (don't know if they offer) then you could take other classes there to increase your odds of meeting people. Mabye some writing classes which could be interactive among students.

    Otherwise if you get high you could probably easily meet your age group on the beach, in Deerfield the hang used to be in the south section, not right at the pier but after the beach/parking road jogs. Or in Pompano around the pier.

    If you swim, Pompano has an aquatic facility near the little airport where you might meet people. To the north, we used to hang at the Boca inlet bridge and jump off but I'm pretty sure they don't allow that anymore so probably your best bet would be the beach at Palmetto. Another place kids hang is the mini-inlet up in Boynton/Ocean Ridge. I know my niece and her boyfriend used to go there quite a bit just as I hung out there when I was young so probably the same today.
  • ardeerd

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    Jul 18, 2015 1:16 AM GMT
    Have you tried meetup.com? There can be groups for whatever you're interested in.

    Dating sites/apps can also be a good place to make friends, believe it or not.

    How about classes in anything you like to do? Writing, standup, cooking, woodworking, etc..
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    Jul 18, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
    theproductofboredom saidDo Gay bars card much compared to straight bars?
    Yes, usually moreso than straight bars, because of the under-18 guys who try to get in. Straight bars consider it an inconvenience. Gay bars risk date-rape and pedophilia charges.

  • Jul 19, 2015 12:38 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    theproductofboredom saidDo Gay bars card much compared to straight bars?
    Yes, usually moreso than straight bars, because of the under-18 guys who try to get in. Straight bars consider it an inconvenience. Gay bars risk date-rape and pedophilia charges.

    Good to know.

    Idk, seemed as good an option as any.

  • Jul 20, 2015 6:17 PM GMT
    one last bump
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    Jul 20, 2015 7:50 PM GMT
    There's a Bubble Gum Night for under 21 this Friday, July 24, at The Manor. The biggest and best disco in Wilton Manors, cover is $12. Friday's theme event is FantaSea, which begins at 11 PM. Not sure how early they'll let you in, but it tends to be a late scene there. You might wanna try their phone number.

    Not sure if a good venue to "meet people" in one sense, but if you just wanna party and dance where you don't have to be 21, surrounded by gays (and a fair number of straights), enjoy a good disco laser dance floor, maybe you can bring a friend so you're not alone. Bring lots of quarters for the curb parking meters (some also take plastic), and some cash if they have the valet in operation. Even soft drinks at the bar are pricey, though.

    BTW, we're going up to Deerfield Beach soon to have lunch with friends who live there, probably next week. We know what you mean about it being a bit barren for a young, single, gay male, at least in terms of night life.

    http://themanorcomplex.com/?page_id=2806