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  • giodude

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    Jul 19, 2015 12:57 PM GMT
    I don't know if any of you have noticed by my photos, but I'm really skinny.

    So this year i decided to start weight training and improve my diet, but nothing works - i cannot gain weight. I've just come back from a five week holiday in which I've done NOTHING but eat and sleep. I stuffed my face with healthy food like veggies, liver, chicken and the like, and carbs (had loads of rice and potatoes with every meal except breakfast) and junk food, and not gained a solitary pound. I'd like to gain muscle, for aesthetic purposes and to aid in martial arts (I'm fast but get knocked flat easily) but nothing seems to work. Lifting weights has definitely made me stronger, but i haven't grown any bigger whatsoever.

    My metabolism is like a bullet train - everything i consume gets burned off just by breathing, and it's frustrating.

    Personally I find it attractive when guys are toned to buff, but I don't expect it because I can't expect things from people that I can't give back. I'm really trying my damnedest to look my best and gain some weight, but nothing sticks to me - it all falls off. Does anyone know of any foods/supplements i can take to gain weight - not even muscle, but just weight. Anything at all, really, because even size 28 pants fall off my body if they're not a small make of skinny jeans.
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    Jul 19, 2015 3:24 PM GMT
    I was really skinny all through high school and it wasn't until I turned 23 or 24 that I decided to address it.

    To gain weight: I loaded up on fattening foods ( not daily) but I took weekly trips to McDonalds and ate Double Quarter Pounder Value Meals and Fries and Large sodas, I also ate a lot of ice cream and cake. The pounds came on slowly but surely and after about 4 or 5 months I gained 10-15 pounds that is when I hit the gym and started working out, lifting 3 days a week, adapting to a much healthier diet and started loading up on the protein shakes. The end result: While I am not totally buff like LL Cool J or Channing Tatum, I am much more comfortable with my body, I look a lot better than I did when I was younger. Good luck!!!
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    Jul 19, 2015 3:30 PM GMT
    giodude said... not even muscle, but just weight...
    go for the muscle mass. Structure a diet around exercise.
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    Jul 19, 2015 3:48 PM GMT
    Poor giodude D: By the way, I like the Pokemon pun incorporated in your profile name. Anyway, I can relate because I had a difficult time gaining weight. However, I attributed it to my high metabolism when in fact, it was because I was not eating enough to gain weight much less maintain it. I highly recommend using this calorie calculator to determine your maintenance and decide from there.

    http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/

    He is a very good source for fitness and nutrition. You should learn about macros to optimize your body composition.

    Good luck! And fight!
  • giodude

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    Jul 19, 2015 5:54 PM GMT
    It is my metabolism - i have haemolytic anaemia, a condition where my red blood cells die off quickly and my body struggles to replace them, so the food that i eat goes to producing more blood for me.

    For instance if i draw blood and fill three vials i took two days off schools and all i could do was eat and sleep in order to replace the blood i'd lost, and i ate constantly like every twenty minutes. It's genetic - my mother has it and so did my late grandmother whose family is riddled with blood diseases. I'm fortunate this is the only one i got.
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    Jul 19, 2015 8:51 PM GMT
    STAY THIN HANDSOME,YOU'VE HOPEFULLY HAVE PLENTY OF TIME TO GAIN,DONT RUSH IT,WHEN YOU TURN 3,YOU'LL GET A SPREAD
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    Jul 19, 2015 9:15 PM GMT
    I have the same problem, I consder me extremely slim/skinny but that would be advantageous because I can eat so long as I want.icon_biggrin.gif
  • metta

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    Jul 19, 2015 9:38 PM GMT
    Have you spoken to a professional dietitian that is aware of your health issues?

    I don't know but you might want to try drinking protein shakes with every meal. Eat more eggs and milk shakes. I have known people to gain weight on any of those three things.
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    Jul 19, 2015 9:58 PM GMT
    Wait about 15 years. It's tough to add muscle fast.

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    Jul 19, 2015 10:23 PM GMT
    To the OP,

    I'll gladly swap my problem with yours.

    I find it difficult at times to keep my weight down, and to make things worse, I was told by a nurse that I was a sitting duck for diabetes.

    But over a space of three years I did succeed in losing up to four stone, but to this day my weight fluctuates.

    Although I am not aware of the seriousness of your red corpuscle ailment, with me, I had to have open heart surgery earlier this year to treat a regurgitating aortic valve.
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    Jul 20, 2015 1:08 AM GMT
    Some good advice so far for general muscle gain but I'd see a diet ism who can give you Taylor's advice.

    Nonetheless, I'm another skinny guy a few years older than you. You'll tone up as you get older and your metabolism will slow down naturally. Without hitting the gym or using supplements I already am, albeit slowly though

    If you want to quicken the process it will take a bit of time before you see results, sometimes years to get the physique you want.

    Keep in mind too that you can have a nice and toned body but guys will still reject you for whatever reason, sometimes it's arbitrary. Consider it a blessing in disguise.
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    Jul 20, 2015 1:34 AM GMT
    Take heart in knowing that the best gym bodies usually started out as ectos.
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    Jul 20, 2015 1:35 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidTake heart in knowing that the best gym bodies usually started out as ectos.


    Very true


    Caloric Surplus.. learn those words buddy. 500 extra calories/day gets you 1lb a week. 1000 extra gets you 2lbs a week. Anything more isn't considered healthy. If you're in a rush to gain you can go out and eat fattening unhealthy food, you'll get bigger along with health problems and risks that go with it.

    Someone suggested seeing a professional dietician and if you're serious about it you should. Not too many here are qualified to give you the solution. (Especially with your blood condition). I'm a certified personal trainer and even me, legally, I couldn't tell you what to eat, only make suggestions. Go find a professional. Just remember to gain weight you HAVE to consume more calories than you burn. No other way around it.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 20, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    I can understand your frustration OP. The best thing you can do and I know it's hard is to keep eating more frequently. But definitely consider seeing a dietician as they may be able to offer a solution for you.

    But as for the big muscle guys, be very wary. While there are some who are naturally that big (with the hard work and years of lifting), there are a good amount who do cycle with steroids. I'm in no way shaming these men, I'm just saying this so you get a good glimpse that not everything is what they seem. Steroids don't magically give you the big muscles but they help tremendously with recovery time. That's why the muscles tend to react and grow quicker assuming you keep working to your limit.

    But nonetheless, I wish you the best. If all else, your metabolism will slow down when you get into your late 20s, early 30s and gaining weight shouldn't be as big an issue.
  • CheeseKraut

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    Jul 20, 2015 8:22 PM GMT
    [quote]
    Personally I find it attractive when guys are toned to buff, but I don't expect it because I can't expect things from people that I can't give back.
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    Yes, you can. Expect away!
    Why would you have to be what you are attracted to?

    People, even gay guys icon_biggrin.gif, are attracted to happy, healthy positive people.
    Aside from the weight gain tips, make sure you look at being a good and fun person to be with, ok?



  • rdberg1957

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    Jul 21, 2015 5:12 AM GMT
    There are many guys who are attracted to skinny guys. There are guys who are attracted to bears. There are younger guys attracted to much older guys and vice versa, but they tend to not live in the same town. Heavy, light, black, white, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern, Swedish. Just know that you are attractive to someone and pay attention to your own attractions. If working out makes you feel good about you, go for it. But you don't have to be buff to be loved. Confidence, a sense of humor and affection are very attractive.

    BTW, I didn't notice that you were particularly skinny. You are young; this usually changes with age. I was very thin in high school (5'11", 155), but gained lots of weight over the next 12 years (24icon_cool.gif. I battled weight thereafter.

    "Personally I find it attractive when guys are toned to buff, but I don't expect it because I can't expect things from people that I can't give back." No! No! No! The point is that you know who you are attracted to. That's good. All that is necessary is that you find someone you are attracted to who is attracted to you and you don't have to change yourself for that to happen. Not that this is necessarily easy, but it does happen often enough.

    Many gay men are able to work through this and develop happy relationships. Some (like me), spent many years chasing after fantasy men instead of noticing the men in front of them who were sweet and loving and wanted to be with them. I am 58 and after 36 years of pursuing fantasies, I decided it was better to have a happy relationship with someone who wasn't my type physically, but is really very much my type emotionally. The physical is starting to come along.

    Have you thought of the advantages of being skinny? I hope you find ways to enjoy your body as it is. Today, I am 240lbs, but play tennis 2-3x/week, play racquetball usually once/week. I lift weights here and there. I love playing tennis. I would still like to be thinner so I could play better. That may happen yet, but notice I'm 58 and still wanting my body to be different than it is. It's a pretty good body, I'm in good health. Have you tried dancing, yoga, or other sports where being a lightweight is an advantage? The most important thing for you is that you find a way to love others and love yourself--that is where your happiness lies.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 22, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
    rdberg1957 saidThere are many guys who are attracted to skinny guys. There are guys who are attracted to bears. There are younger guys attracted to much older guys and vice versa, but they tend to not live in the same town. Heavy, light, black, white, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern, Swedish. Just know that you are attractive to someone and pay attention to your own attractions. If working out makes you feel good about you, go for it. But you don't have to be buff to be loved. Confidence, a sense of humor and affection are very attractive.

    BTW, I didn't notice that you were particularly skinny. You are young; this usually changes with age. I was very thin in high school (5'11", 155), but gained lots of weight over the next 12 years (24icon_cool.gif. I battled weight thereafter.

    "Personally I find it attractive when guys are toned to buff, but I don't expect it because I can't expect things from people that I can't give back." No! No! No! The point is that you know who you are attracted to. That's good. All that is necessary is that you find someone you are attracted to who is attracted to you and you don't have to change yourself for that to happen. Not that this is necessarily easy, but it does happen often enough.

    Many gay men are able to work through this and develop happy relationships. Some (like me), spent many years chasing after fantasy men instead of noticing the men in front of them who were sweet and loving and wanted to be with them. I am 58 and after 36 years of pursuing fantasies, I decided it was better to have a happy relationship with someone who wasn't my type physically, but is really very much my type emotionally. The physical is starting to come along.

    Have you thought of the advantages of being skinny? I hope you find ways to enjoy your body as it is. Today, I am 240lbs, but play tennis 2-3x/week, play racquetball usually once/week. I lift weights here and there. I love playing tennis. I would still like to be thinner so I could play better. That may happen yet, but notice I'm 58 and still wanting my body to be different than it is. It's a pretty good body, I'm in good health. Have you tried dancing, yoga, or other sports where being a lightweight is an advantage? The most important thing for you is that you find a way to love others and love yourself--that is where your happiness lies.


    While the bold is true to a degree, it doesn't help all that much for the OP.

    The thing with the OP and other guys like him, us (Because I'm in the same boat too) is that we have (and I'm sorry if I'm making assumptions OP, correct me if I'm wrong) a very big attraction to the muscular kind of men. Some worse than others but I think in the grand scheme of things, we know we have men who are interested in us but often they aren't the men we want.

    It's the "chasing what you can't have" type mentality. So some of us try to adapt and change into something that's desirable to that who we desire, even if we have no desire to change.

    But I think that's where it ends because the OP sounds like he wants to gain the weight for himself. I personally like my stature and can't picture myself bigger/heavier than 140-150. But I wish the OP good luck and hope that he finds a way.