Why do you consider black guys unattractive?

  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 20, 2015 8:17 PM GMT
    Uh oh, I started a race thread... icon_eek.gif But seriously, this is not going to be a downer/angry post but more of myself wanting to understand.

    Just to set it straight, I don't care if a guy is not attracted to black men. You like what you like. I get it. We all have preferences. Personally, I think every creed of man is appealing. But I just want to hear from the guys who aren't attracted to black guys and what is it about them that turns you off of them.

    I'm not going to throw stones or try to change your preferences. But I want to hear what is it about them that you don't like? Physical, mental, etc. It doesn't matter. Be as honest as you can be if you're open to share about your disinterest. If you don't really have a reason, it's probably best to not share as I want to hear some reasons no matter what they are.

    If you're a black guy who is not into other black guys, I'd like to hear why that is as well. Again, this is not a judging thread. I'm asking this because I want to understand.
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    Jul 20, 2015 8:19 PM GMT
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    Jul 20, 2015 8:25 PM GMT
    well I like nordic type men with pale/light brown skin, pinkish lips and brown hair, blue/green/hazel eyes and northern mentality, must be due to the fact I come from northern Europe myself. icon_cool.gif

    but other people can be very good looking too
    like Michael Ealy,Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman, I find 50 cent an intelligent man which is attractive and for some reason I always used to love watching Anthony Mackie in movies
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    Jul 20, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    I have no racial preference, but black men don't seem to like me and it's mostly White or Hispanic men who do, so that is who I engage. It's also a turn-off that a lot of black gay men are on the down low or closeted. I like men who are secure.
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    Jul 20, 2015 9:02 PM GMT
    I go for the Martian leaders... and they are green!!!
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    Jul 20, 2015 9:05 PM GMT
    BloodFlame saidUh oh, I started a race thread... icon_eek.gif But seriously, this is not going to be a downer/angry post but more of myself wanting to understand.

    Just to set it straight, I don't care if a guy is not attracted to black men. You like what you like. I get it. We all have preferences. Personally, I think every creed of man is appealing. But I just want to hear from the guys who aren't attracted to black guys and what is it about them that turns you off of them.

    I'm not going to throw stones or try to change your preferences. But I want to hear what is it about them that you don't like? Physical, mental, etc. It doesn't matter. Be as honest as you can be if you're open to share about your disinterest. If you don't really have a reason, it's probably best to not share as I want to hear some reasons no matter what they are.

    If you're a black guy who is not into other black guys, I'd like to hear why that is as well. Again, this is not a judging thread. I'm asking this because I want to understand.



    I see where you're coming from with this, but honestly I think if people were to answer this question, it would only cause hurt and feelings of worthlessness. (Maybe not to you, but it could hurt other black men who visit the thread who are already struggling with low self esteem.) I think it's best just to accept that none of us will ever be everyone's cup of tea and leave it at that.
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    Jul 20, 2015 9:21 PM GMT
    Im over Tyrone.

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  • martinaston

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    Jul 20, 2015 9:41 PM GMT
    your post title feeds into the same poison you claim bugs you (as you can see already in some replies).
    dont conflate your own failure to pull under the 'all black guys' banner.
    we beautiful, we dont need approval.
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    Jul 20, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    martinaston saidyour post title feeds into the same poison you claim bugs you (as you can see already in some replies).
    dont conflate your own failure to pull under the 'all black guys' banner.
    we beautiful, we dont need approval.


    Oh please, lets stop acting like there are not white, Hispanic, Asian, and black gays who do not find black men attractive. That is all the OP is asking. You guys are reading way too much.
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    Jul 20, 2015 10:09 PM GMT
    I'm into guys, regardless of skin color....Isn't it hard enough just being gay? And then to have to worry about being a minority? icon_lol.gif If you like me you like me, if you don't, go fuck yourself! kidding obviously. icon_lol.gif


    I don't understand the whole skin color thing either....white guys aren't all that, black guys aren't all that, latino guys aren't all that neither are Asian guys...No race is better than another.

    In fact today this white guy on Grindr told me today "I've never been with a black or latin guy before"....I told him "Hmm it's just like being with a white guy from how I understand it!" He didn't know what to say. I don't get why gays feel the need to categorize each other based on skin color when we're ALREADY IN THE SAME BOAT! Like honestly, if "being gay" were the Titanic (minus the lifeboats haha), we're all going in the water regardless! I guess your "preference" would be whether you prefer to go in first or last!

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    Jul 20, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    BlackCat saidI'm into guys, regardless of skin color....Isn't it hard enough just being gay? And then to have to worry about being a minority? icon_lol.gif If you like me you like me, if you don't, go fuck yourself! kidding obviously. icon_lol.gif


    I don't understand the whole skin color thing either....white guys aren't all that, black guys aren't all that, latino guys aren't all that neither are Asian guys...No race is better than another.

    In fact today this white guy on Grindr told me today "I've never been with a black or latin guy before"....I told him "Hmm it's just like being with a white guy from how I understand it!" He didn't know what to say. I don't get why gays feel the need to categorize each other based on skin color when we're ALREADY IN THE SAME BOAT! Like honestly, if "being gay" were the Titanic (minus the lifeboats haha), we're all going in the water regardless! I guess your "preference" would be whether you prefer to go in first or last!

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    Jul 20, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
    And no shade whatsoever to the OP or anyone else who this may be directed to, but the reason why I hardly ever have anything to say in race threads is because when people are caught up on skin color or any other bullshit like that, it's just ignorant and off my radar....and honestly I can't deal with ignorance. I soar above that shit, so get on my level and then we can talk.

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    Jul 20, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
    Attraction seems to be somewhat based by what other people around you think is attractive, and the ideal beauty that people aim for is determined by the mass media.

    It sounds really contrite but I do base it a lot on personal experience so do with it what you will.
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    Jul 20, 2015 10:28 PM GMT
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  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 20, 2015 10:30 PM GMT
    no_direction saidAttraction seems to be somewhat based by what other people around you think is attractive, and the ideal beauty that people aim for is determined by the mass media.

    It sounds really contrite but I do base it a lot on personal experience so do with it what you will.


    Hm, interesting. Yes, I feel that depending on where you live, you're more prone to seeing certain things that can turn someone off.

    Radd saidI see where you're coming from with this, but honestly I think if people were to answer this question, it would only cause hurt and feelings of worthlessness. (Maybe not to you, but it could hurt other black men who visit the thread who are already struggling with low self esteem.) I think it's best just to accept that none of us will ever be everyone's cup of tea and leave it at that.


    I know that this could potential open up some unwanted feelings which isn't the intent. I just wanted to hear how the guys who aren't attracted to black men and why they feel that way. I know that at the end of the day, you won't be everyone's cup of tea but what's the harm in learning why for something like race?

    James_Thunder_Early saidI have no racial preference, but black men don't seem to like me and it's mostly White or Hispanic men who do, so that is who I engage. It's also a turn-off that a lot of black gay men are on the down low or closeted. I like men who are secure.


    Hmm, that's an understandable side. I was in the same boat where a lot of black men didn't seem to like me so I got along better with non-black men. But I did end up meeting some down to earth, average black men as I got older.

    And you are certainly right about the down low men. Seems to be a lot of them out there so I can understand wanting a man who's secure with himself. I'm the same.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 20, 2015 10:32 PM GMT
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    That's an interesting conversion though something feels a little off. If you don't mind me asking, was that graph for a dating site?
  • Matthew56

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:12 PM GMT
    BloodFlame saidUh oh, I started a race thread... icon_eek.gif But seriously, this is not going to be a downer/angry post but more of myself wanting to understand.

    Just to set it straight, I don't care if a guy is not attracted to black men. You like what you like. I get it. We all have preferences. Personally, I think every creed of man is appealing. But I just want to hear from the guys who aren't attracted to black guys and what is it about them that turns you off of them.

    I'm not going to throw stones or try to change your preferences. But I want to hear what is it about them that you don't like? Physical, mental, etc. It doesn't matter. Be as honest as you can be if you're open to share about your disinterest. If you don't really have a reason, it's probably best to not share as I want to hear some reasons no matter what they are.

    If you're a black guy who is not into other black guys, I'd like to hear why that is as well. Again, this is not a judging thread. I'm asking this because I want to understand.



    Do you really need to be told it's because of the gay racial hierarchy where white/caucasoid men are on top of the gay racial hierarchy black men second and that white men are the most desired and treasured in the gay world
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:13 PM GMT
    There is NO fucking gay hierarchy. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    No disrespect to the OP I'm happy that he is expressing his opinion and saying what has been on his mind but this is just my little two cents of the outcome of this thread.


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    As for me. Similar to what BC said race doesn't matter at all and everyone is allowed to have a preference.

    I don't see nothing wrong with it




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  • Matthew56

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:18 PM GMT
    1AlanZSky saidThere is NO fucking gay hierarchy. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.




    If you were black you wouldn't be saying that
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:26 PM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    1AlanZSky saidThere is NO fucking gay hierarchy. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.




    If you were black you wouldn't be saying that


    SO you are just going to wallow in self pity and worship the white man?

    We are all equal and we are all human beings. No race is above another. A white man can be just as stupid as another black man. Race is irrelevant.

    Human.

    Are you really going to bow down to this "gay hierarchy"?

    Your feelings betray your intentions.

    Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.

    Yoda is small and green. I suggest you listen to Yoda.

    Stop complaining.
  • Matthew56

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    1AlanZSky said
    Matthew56 said
    1AlanZSky saidThere is NO fucking gay hierarchy. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.




    If you were black you wouldn't be saying that


    SO you are just going to wallow in self pity and worship the white man?

    We are all equal and we are all human beings. No race is above another. A white man can be just as stupid as another black man. Race is irrelevant.

    Human.

    Are you really going to bow down to this "gay hierarchy"?

    Your feelings betray your intentions.

    Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.

    Yoda is small and green. I suggest you listen to Yoda.

    Stop complaining.


    Yep pretty much as I feel validated when I get attention off them sounds sad but when you are trying to compensate for being black you know you are greying somewhere with your efforts in trying to look good when they give me attention
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Jul 20, 2015 11:34 PM GMT
    You don't choose to be black! Nor do you choose to be white.

    How is this difficult to understand?!

    You can choose to help others understand this.

    You are worrying about things that you simply cannot control and you are creating problems for everyone else!

    Enough of this.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 21, 2015 12:12 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said

    Do you really need to be told it's because of the gay racial hierarchy where white/caucasoid men are on top of the gay racial hierarchy black men second and that white men are the most desired and treasured in the gay world


    Yeah, I've heard about this so called hierarchy but I don't completely buy into it. I personally believe the only people who do are the people who try to date only one specific race. Since I'm not exclusively into one race, I don't see the reason to buy into it.

    Anyway, let's try to stay on topic and not turn it into Black vs White. That's not what this thread was about. I just want to hear the objective side of things. For those of you who don't feel any attraction towards black men, is there a specific reason whether physically or mentally why you feel the way you do?



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    Jul 21, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    I'm not particularly attracted to black people, however the best ass in RJ is black, Id date the guy anytime. What I mean is there are almost always exceptions.