Dearest Creeper,

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    Jul 26, 2015 11:23 PM GMT
    Today I was mad creeper on while at the gym. Was in the shower just minding my own business, whistling away and getting all clean after busting my ass amd getting sweaty. All of a sudden some guy walks by, now I had assumed he was just going about his business and going to take a shower in one of the stalls nearby. Well as I was getting all soaped up I see him walk by again. I turn back around and mind my own business. The curtains aren't the most solid, rather a bit see through even though they have color. But they should've been solid enough that he shouldn't have really been able to watch me. Well I go to turn around and all of a sudden. I see him standing right outside my stall, clearly looking right at me. I instantly turn around and hope he didn't see me notice him. I pick up my whistling again trying to act all cool and collected when I was clearly a little shaken. I go to turn and turn back because he's still standing there, only I think he noticed I had seen him. The guy stood there for a good five minutes. No mind you I wear glasses and or contacts, well I had neither on so I couldn't really make out what he looked like. The whole time I was hoping he would just go away and not try entering my stall. I was also wishing I had a workout partner because then I could've at least called for em to come save me. Eventually the guy went away. Though I have an inkling that he was the one hovering in the locker room.

    Have any of you ever had an experience like this? I seriously felt like I was going to have to do a naked throw down cause it was mad creepy. Needless to say I dressed as fast as I could and got the hell out of there. Can't wait till I move to Washington state, there I at least have someone I can workout with and that will have my back.
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    Jul 27, 2015 12:36 AM GMT
    You shoulda done the same thing I did when I had a creepy stalker stalking at a nude beach a few years ago. I yelled "stop stalking me unless you enjoy jail!" loud enough for everyone around to hear.

    I never saw a creepy old fart walk so fast to get off the beach. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 27, 2015 12:57 AM GMT
    I'll remember that for next time. I was more or less preparing myself for a naked fight. It was really creepy. My usual response for someone staring is "take a picture, it'll last longer." But I was in the full nude and it was spooky. I was more shocked that it actually happened and didn't know what to say or do.
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    Jul 27, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou shoulda done the same thing I did when I had a creepy stalker stalking at a nude beach a few years ago. I yelled "stop stalking me unless you enjoy jail!" loud enough for everyone around to hear.

    I never saw a creepy old fart walk so fast to get off the beach. icon_lol.gif


    Yasss, make that bitch run laps to save his freedom
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    Jul 27, 2015 11:42 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou shoulda done the same thing I did when I had a creepy stalker stalking at a nude beach a few years ago. I yelled "stop stalking me unless you enjoy jail!" loud enough for everyone around to hear.

    I never saw a creepy old fart walk so fast to get off the beach. icon_lol.gif


    Amazing.

    I don't have the guts to yell like that.
  • brickboy1966

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    Jul 27, 2015 1:37 PM GMT
    Blow your rape whistle.
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    Jul 27, 2015 2:22 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSome verbal acknowledgement such as what Paul recommended is a good idea.

    But also, I kinda pictured your scenario with you whistling. And I kinda get the impression that you whistling while in a public shower also brings unwanted attention to yourself. So perhaps keep that in mind for the future.


    Noted, no more whistling in the shower unless at home. I've a knack for doing it when alone and in my own world, and naturally the shower is one of those places where I'm spaced out.

    Next time I'll definitely say something along the lines of what he said.
  • jeepguySD

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    Jul 27, 2015 3:05 PM GMT
    I had a similar experience a few years ago in an LA Fitness locker room.

    I noticed a very creepy guy leering at me while I was showering after swimming laps. My response was simply to snap the shower curtain over to make it clear his gaze was not welcome. He took the hint and went away.

    Had he been attractive, I think the story would have proceeded differently.
  • AttisXVI

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    Jul 27, 2015 5:28 PM GMT
    I think of creepers similarly to the way I think of earth worms.

    Ick. Don't touch me.

    But the world is normal as long as you exist.
  • Svnw688

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    Jul 27, 2015 5:50 PM GMT
    Forum Troll, I mean ForuhmTroll....are you, per chance, trolling us? Because this story sounds flame troll-tastic.
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    Jul 27, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    I have a few at my gym, gross and creepy.

    One person I told him nothing is ever going to happen with him even if he was the last man left on earth. He never bothered me again.

    Another one went away after I told him how creepy and pathetic he looked.

    Then the third one just took the hint from middle finger.

    I wish more of these men would actually go to gym to work out, rather than hanging around in shower area for hours.
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    Jul 27, 2015 6:06 PM GMT
    I think handling it yourself by making it obvious his leering is unwelcome is your first step. If that doesn't work try flirting with him, get him to reveal his name, get a good description of him, and promptly reported him to the person on duty and asked for a number to call so as to make sure someone with authority gets the message (very often the guy behind the counter doesn't give a damned).
  • TheBaise

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    Jul 27, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
    Had one at my gym / he would sit on the bench or at a machine staring at me for long periods between sets. Then, he'd follow me into the showers and gaze at me / never speaking. Later he started standing too close as I benched or did curls / just standing there. Creepy. I told him to give me some space and to get back to his program. He went away for awhile but was back in a couple of days. I reminded him again to get away from me. Didn't work. Then I said in an ugly way / Get the hell away from me! Others heard it. He finally slinked away / all butt hurt.
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    Jul 27, 2015 8:39 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry this incident happened to you.icon_sad.gif I've experienced a somewhat similar incident many yrs ago. Not as creepy, just pathetic. But I think Paulflexes has a good point. Just yell something to that effect. And/OR what you could do is grab your own cam-phone (assuming you have one, and have it readily handy with you), aim it right at the creep, and say something like "I've always wanted to get a pic of a creepy stalker! Say 'cheese'!!" That would (hopefully) send him runnin'...

    Best wishes always... icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 27, 2015 8:42 PM GMT
    nobody has ever done that to me, I guess that means I am ugly icon_sad.gif
  • FRE0

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    Jul 28, 2015 2:04 AM GMT
    Twice, at the downtown YMCA in Minneapolis, I had such experiences.

    The Y had completely open showers. Once, while my face was covered with soap, I felt the guy next to me reaching for my penis. I struck out at him with my fist but because I couldn't see, I missed. However, it did have the desired effect. After that, he was afraid of me which was fine.

    Another time, while I was changing in preparation to use the indoor track (it was winter), a young black kid, perhaps about 16, asked me where the weight room was; I told him. Later, after running a few miles, I went to the shower room. The same black kid took the shower directly opposite me. He stared at me continuously while having an erection. I responded by pretending that I didn't see him and actually turned my back to him; I had to use mental tricks to avoid getting an erection myself. Then he walked to the door to the pool, opened it slightly, and looked out; that was a transparent way for him to look at my front. Then, when I walked to the drying area to get dry, he followed me, still with an erection. Later, he followed me to my locker and watched me get dressed, still with an erection. He was a good looking kid, but there was no way I was going to let anything happen and the whole thing made me exceedingly uncomfortable. I can't imagine how anyone could have the chutzpah to act like that, especially in a shower with several other men present. They had to be aware of what was happening and I wondered what they thought. Fortunately it never happened again.
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    robbaker saidThat's why i never take showers at them gay or straight commercial gyms .


    In other words, you let them affect the way you choose to live.
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    Are you gay ? must not be , only a frightened sheltered homo flob would be unable to get hard balls to confront his locker room sugar daddy .
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    I've been in this situation, which may have been him legitimately waiting for an open shower stall. I've had it happen. So I just assume that's the case, and would say to him, in a voice that carries: "Are you waiting for a shower? I just got in, I'm gonna be a while yet."

    Puts him on the spot. If he says yes and is legit he'll go vulture for another stall when it opens first. If he's a stalker or voyeur he's gonna make himself scarce. Or when you get out there are other empty stalls and he's still been hanging around there, you know he really is a stalker, whom you might report to management. Problem solved without physical or verbal confrontation.
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    bonaparts saidnobody has ever done that to me, I guess that means I am ugly icon_sad.gif
    Lucky you. icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    FRE0 said
    Twice, at the downtown YMCA in Minneapolis, I had such experiences.

    ...The same black kid took the shower directly opposite me. He stared at me continuously while having an erection.

    Yah know, I hardly know any guys who haven't told me stories about seeing hardons in open gang showers, usually at the Y. Other than in Army training, when we had to jump from bed still with morning wood and rush to the latrine showers, or of course in gay bathhouses, where stiffies were de rigueur (or is that de rigid?), I've never seen that in the civilian world myself. Maybe someday my luck will change. icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 28, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    That's what GYMS are 4-----show and tell!!

    Flaunt it and walk proud of your manhood. lol

    So much attention I can't stand it.
  • mybud

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    Jul 28, 2015 5:28 AM GMT
    The only creepy thing that ever happened to me at the gym was somebody stealing my sweaty underwear and socks from my gym bag. I try not to dwell on it much.
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    Jul 28, 2015 5:32 AM GMT
    I did steal a white towel once at the gym icon_lol.gif


    IT WAS AN ACCIDENT, I thought it is mine, came back home home, had 2 in the bag, Winning
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    Jul 28, 2015 7:34 AM GMT
    Grow a pair. Say to him, "Knock that shit off, ya' fucking creep!" He'll flee.

    I deal with this shit, too.

    Some gay folks are mentally ill. The closet cases, the creepers, those that don't have a sense of decorum / no social skills.

    You have to set boundaries with them.

    Empower. Lead. Never coddle.