CANT CUM DURING SEX!!!! What the fuck!!

  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 29, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    So I've been hooking up with this really really really cute boy and I like him A LOT. I'm 20 and he's also 20. We just started talking and we tried to have oral sex twice and I couldn't cum twice. I have no idea why. The first time he sucked my dick forever and nothing was happening so he eventually just gave up. Then I blew him and he came. Second time he tried to blow me again and nothing happened so he gave up after like almost a half hour (might have been longer) and we just chilled and talked and hung out. Were still getting to know each other and I haven't fucked him yet but I'm sooooo nervous. He's so fucking sexy and hot and he has a sexy FAT ass and an amazing muscular body and omg he's so hot. He's too good for me and I think that's making me insecure and that's why I can't cum. Also, he's a bottom and he wants me to fuck him. I've only been with one other guy before this, my ex and he always fucked me. I've never fucked a guy before so I feel like there's a lot of pressure to please this boy and make him feel good and it's making me so nervous.

    We've talked about building our relationship into something more and yeah we just started talking but we both like each other a lot. After the second time it happened he didn't seem aggravated but after our date he texted me saying I need to do something or it's going to affect our relationship. I can cum when I jerk off and he thinks it's because I've been jerking off a lot and I have been. Before I met the guy I'm talking to now I haven't done anything with a guy since March and I've jerked off like everyday. I was doing some searches on it and apparently my dick became so used to my hands and another guys mouth or ass just doesn't feel the same. So I guess I just have to give up jerking off for a while...but will that work? Or am I never gonna be able to cum during sex ever again? :'(
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 29, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    It sounds like the pressure is getting to you and you're getting performance anxiety. You like him and you want to please him, but this has got you too nervous. You need to relax.

    There's no reason that frequent masturbation in and of itself should affect our ability to climax. If you're jerking off too vigorously (like dry humping a mattress or death-gripping your dick) then you might have inadvertently trained yourself not to respond to normal sexual stimulation. Stop jerking off like that and get yourself a fleshlight so that you can re-train your dick.

    Lastly, something you wrote struck me as "off:"

    NYC_BOI said...he didn't seem aggravated but after our date he texted me saying I need to do something or it's going to affect our relationship.


    What relationship? Hooking up twice and your chats before that? Right now you're just having fun and exploring each other's bodies, you're not boyfriends yet. Implying that you have a problem that needs fixing is obviously not the right way to get you to feel better about it or help you get over it. He should take a chill pill and not make it about your jizz but rather about mutual pleasure. You're obviously pleasured by him even if you're not cumming.

    Tell him how you feel. How you like him a lot and that it's making you nervous and that you think it's affecting your performance. Also tell him that you're not a natural-born top, so he's going to have to teach you how he likes it and show you the ropes. If he's not patient enough to do that and to help you get over your non-climax issues, then he's not worth seeing anyway.

  • mystery905

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    Jul 29, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    Maybe he's doing it wrong, seriously!

    There's more to sucking cock than inserting it into one's mouth...
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    Jul 29, 2015 8:53 PM GMT
    Only men cum, bois only take.
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    Jul 29, 2015 10:39 PM GMT
    Relax, enjoy the hell out of the blowjob. And if you want to cum and you don't think whatever he's doing at the time is going to get you there, take over and finish by jerking off. Any gay guy worth his salt will enjoy watching that and help you by kissing you, rubbing you, tweaking your nips, whatever.

    And that's ok! icon_smile.gif
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 29, 2015 10:47 PM GMT
    mystery905 saidMaybe he's doing it wrong, seriously!

    There's more to sucking cock than inserting it into one's mouth...

    He's not doing anything wrong lol he gives amazing blow jobs. I guess it's just because I'm so nervous and I'm so used to jerking off so I need to not masturbate for a few days and just chill
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 29, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidIt sounds like the pressure is getting to you and you're getting performance anxiety. You like him and you want to please him, but this has got you too nervous. You need to relax.

    There's no reason that frequent masturbation in and of itself should affect our ability to climax. If you're jerking off too vigorously (like dry humping a mattress or death-gripping your dick) then you might have inadvertently trained yourself not to respond to normal sexual stimulation. Stop jerking off like that and get yourself a fleshlight so that you can re-train your dick.

    Lastly, something you wrote struck me as "off:"

    NYC_BOI said...he didn't seem aggravated but after our date he texted me saying I need to do something or it's going to affect our relationship.


    What relationship? Hooking up twice and your chats before that? Right now you're just having fun and exploring each other's bodies, you're not boyfriends yet. Implying that you have a problem that needs fixing is obviously not the right way to get you to feel better about it or help you get over it. He should take a chill pill and not make it about your jizz but rather about mutual pleasure. You're obviously pleasured by him even if you're not cumming.

    Tell him how you feel. How you like him a lot and that it's making you nervous and that you think it's affecting your performance. Also tell him that you're not a natural-born top, so he's going to have to teach you how he likes it and show you the ropes. If he's not patient enough to do that and to help you get over your non-climax issues, then he's not worth seeing anyway.



    Thank you!! It sounds like all I really need to do is stop jerking off so much or stop jerking off the way that I'm doing it. I do death grip my dick a lot and it feels amazing so maybe I did train my dick to only respond to that. I don't know :/ I'm gonna try to not jerk off at all for a week and I hope that helps lol
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 29, 2015 10:59 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said

    And don't jack off for a few days


    Your pics r making it really hard to not do that

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    lol but seriously thank you!! I was so nervous I was never gonna be able to cum during sex ever again lmfao
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    Jul 29, 2015 11:07 PM GMT
    You've been asking about herpes, HIV and other problems.....you are anxious, deal with those issues first. Then you will relax.

    If you are topping he might appreciate a 45 minute session ;-)


    If getting blown is too passive, be more aggressive by face fucking.
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    Jul 30, 2015 2:28 AM GMT
    you are young… sometimes its not about the 'cum', rather the road that leads you there … don't get all hung up on it.. just enjoy! icon_biggrin.gif
  • mystery905

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    Jul 30, 2015 3:04 AM GMT
    hairyandym saidyou are young… sometimes its not about the 'cum', rather the road that leads you there … don't get all hung up on it.. just enjoy! icon_biggrin.gif


    Exactly!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 30, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
    maybe he just gives bad blow jobs
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 30, 2015 3:35 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidmaybe he just gives bad blow jobs


    He doesn't lol his blow jobs feel amazing
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    Jul 30, 2015 4:14 AM GMT
    NYC_BOI saidCANT CUM DURING SEX!!!! What the fuck!!
    Maybe you're just straight and in the closet. icon_razz.gif
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 30, 2015 4:16 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    NYC_BOI saidCANT CUM DURING SEX!!!! What the fuck!!
    Maybe you're just straight and in the closet. icon_razz.gif


    Hahaha I've known I wasn't straight since I was 5 when this girl kissed me and I started crying lol
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    Jul 30, 2015 4:18 AM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    paulflexes said
    NYC_BOI saidCANT CUM DURING SEX!!!! What the fuck!!
    Maybe you're just straight and in the closet. icon_razz.gif


    Hahaha I've known I wasn't straight since I was 5 when this girl kissed me and I started crying lol
    Your mum don't count. icon_lol.gif
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 30, 2015 5:06 AM GMT
    Why do my threads keep getting removed from the main page meanwhile the mods let people say so much racist and transphobic shit on here constantly? That's fucking stupid
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    Jul 30, 2015 5:18 AM GMT
    NYC_BOI saidWhy do my threads keep getting removed from the main page meanwhile the mods let people say so much racist and transphobic shit on here constantly? That's fucking stupid


    They aren't moved. The other threads were commented on since the last post on your thread.
  • metta

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    Jul 30, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    Every body is different. Not everyone can finish by doing the same thigns. Why not have him give you a bj and then finish off by jacking off? Try different things. Let him bottom and see how that works for you. Experiment, be safe, and have fun. The more you pressure yourself and worry about it, the more trouble you may have.
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    Jul 30, 2015 2:22 PM GMT
    You need a patient older lover and stop desensitizing your cock by masturbating so much.
  • bobbobbob

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    Aug 01, 2015 2:11 AM GMT
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    Aug 01, 2015 3:09 AM GMT
    you're watching too much porn, and jerking off. I've been with guys that had to have porn on while we did it, and it was pretty sad.
  • bobbobbob

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    Aug 01, 2015 6:28 AM GMT
    The leading cause of failure to ejaculate in twinkie little bitches trying to be tops is THEY ARE NOT TOPS.. they are bottoms and most likely femmy girlie high pitched ones....