Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?

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    Jul 29, 2015 9:19 PM GMT
    Hey, Am I wrong cuz I noticed that it's usually tops who pick up first, tops asks bottoms out, to the cinema for instance...
    U know I am bottom, and It was always like this, other men picked me first ( ee.g my ex-es) ? whats more, I really liked it that way..

    I look back and realize that at the vey beginning of the relationships men tried to 'chase' me, trying to get me and later on hen I felt somehting to them I opened up I gave my heart still expecting them to ask me out from time to time ( of course it wasnt as important as just hugging them or kissing or just meeting) s

    so why is that? Is anything wrong with me? After my last relationship I blame myslef that maybe it was my fault, I shouldn't have asked him to hug me ( But i really wanted it, even once a day icon_sad.gif )

    Hot to find a balance in a relationship, where both partners 'try' the same ....
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    Jul 29, 2015 10:15 PM GMT
    Sounds like you are confusing a dude using you as a cum dump as true affection. Then when you open up he fucks off and finds the next bottom in need of hard dick. Most guys who approach you only want to fuck you.
  • bobbobbob

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    Jul 29, 2015 10:17 PM GMT
    Here's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.
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    Jul 30, 2015 12:09 AM GMT
    Well yeah, it's common sense.
  • NYC_BOI

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    Jul 30, 2015 12:50 AM GMT
    It doesn't always have to be like that though. A guy that's a bottom and likes to be fucked should have enough confidence to be able to go up to a guy that's a top and talk to him. We're men, not kids at our first school dance.
  • LostSailor

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    Jul 30, 2015 1:29 AM GMT
    Let some hot young asian bottom approach me!
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    Jul 30, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    bobbobbob saidHere's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.


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    Jul 30, 2015 6:25 AM GMT
    You'll do better if you don't oversexualize the initial encounter.
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    Jul 30, 2015 3:26 PM GMT
    bobbobbob saidHere's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.


    I think he's either self-absorbed or self-centered. Still not good, right?
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    Jul 30, 2015 3:28 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    bobbobbob saidHere's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.


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    Rude
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    Jul 30, 2015 6:37 PM GMT
    a "bottom" can ask a "top", speaking from experience. don't be shy. go for what u want.
  • bobbobbob

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    Jul 31, 2015 1:14 AM GMT
    bobbobbob saidHere's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.


    MasterOfTheDomain said I think he's either self-absorbed or self-centered. Still not good, right?


    Right!


    bobbobbob saidHere's your entire history in RJ

    Is it like the tops usually approach bottoms ( picking up) ?
    on Jul 29, 2015 at 3:19 PM
    How can I differenciate a little bit dominated sex from rape?
    on Jul 03, 2015 at 9:27 AM
    I think it's over, Could you guys share your opinion on that?
    on Jul 14, 2015 at 11:35 AM
    Why do I check out other guys while being in a relationship. I feel gulity for doing this.?
    on Jun 14, 2015 at 11:47 AM
    Could you guys help me out please? My relationships is breaking..
    on Jun 11, 2015 at 3:50 PM
    Is/ should having gaysex be considered a sin?
    on May 11, 2015 at 3:39 AM

    You've started 6 threads, commented on none but your own in spite of the fact that there are many that are more interesting that yours.

    It appears you are just a troll.


    MrFuscle said1088469.jpg


    MasterOfTheDomain saidRude


    I don't think it's rude because I'm not worried if he meant it as an insult or not. If he meant it as an insult the joke is on him. I am a grandfather of six and 2 weeks into being a great grandfather to a little girl and any day now to a little boy... I'm proud of being a grandfather and having a 22 year old gay grandson. My first man and I were raising our sons together in the 1970s - Before Mr Fuscle was born. (look at his profile and tell me what's wrong with it) I'm the first one to step out front about my age... It doesn't hurt me to have other point it out to me. Most of the lame little superficial fags who do obviously plan to live short miserable lives instead of long happy ones. I wish them rapid success with that.
  • popobtc

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    Jul 31, 2015 11:29 PM GMT
    No, not true
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    Aug 01, 2015 12:19 AM GMT
    the answer you seek is quite simple. They chase you because they want one thing- sex. And should you give it up too easily they more likely will have nothing they want from you anymore. You can try and postponing his initiations for sex as long as you can, However you will know within a week or so what their true intentions were base on their interactions with you. Because lets face it, you hear so many women complaining how men are such foul pigs, well, it's no exception even with gay men.

    As a fellow gay man who is about my age, you need to know the difference from your own fantasies and reality. Now-a-days a prince charming doesn't just show up from some shallow forest singing his heart away on his love of his first sight on you, because chances are you are just one of many from his sex app meet ups he sings his song of the sirens for.

    If you really want a guy to ask you out, and have some meaning behind it. I highly suggest you take things slow with the guys you meet. As they are more willing to respect you over time, rather then a one night stand of passion founded purely by lust. Also don't be clingy. Because if your life simply just revolves around one person (and I say this in the kindest way possible) but you'll need to find a life. Find hobbies that interest you, and be good at it, because it's always nice to see men who can excel in what they love doing most.

    Wishing you the best.

  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 12, 2015 8:30 PM GMT
    The idea of tops being more forthcoming and asking a perceived bttm for a date is a cultural trait in many cultures, including Polish. There is nothing wrong or right about it.

    If you are hooking up with guys in your peer group, the chances are that they are simply playing field and working on improving their scoreboard. Sure, there are exceptions, but this is the default.

    You may want to start on a slower note. Sure, sex is important but if the guys perceive you as being only too willing, your chances of building a more of meaningful relationship are diminishing. Give a guy the chance to invest some time and effort into getting where he wants to get.

    More importantly, do not allow them to see you simply as a sex object. Show that you have other attributes, too, that make you worth getting involved with. Develop interests that can be shared, and indicate clearly that you have the personality that can enrich other people's lives. Guys who are willing to top or bottom are a dime a dozen. Guys who are keepers are the ones most guys are after.

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