It's time I guess..


  • Jul 31, 2015 6:27 AM GMT
    We've been together for a long time.. He's a nice, caring, honest, faithful person. He respect my feelings, my decisions, everything.. But in these 2 years, I haven't really enjoyed sex with him. Majority of the bed experience with him was handjob/blowjob. Once awhile I would request doing the "real thing" but ended up he can't endure the pain "even though I'm only using my finger to lossen him up, or he came before he could put in my hole. He refuse to go see the doctor for help..

    I need advice.. Should I use a better reason to end this relationship so he doesn't feel bad or what?
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    Jul 31, 2015 8:46 AM GMT
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    Jul 31, 2015 10:05 AM GMT
    Have you had him masturbate a few hours before you have sex? He'd probably last longer. It seems a bit petty to break up over how they perform in bed.
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    Jul 31, 2015 11:53 AM GMT
    This is your first post on RJ?
    Nothing like putting pressure on your partner to make you happy, regardless of possible medical issues... That's a LOUSY, very shallow, self-centered reason. Get some better lubes, try some different toys, relax on the "West Virginia foreplay"...of "brace yourself bitch!", try a desensitizing lube on his penis to see iff he can last longer, have him clean out and purge if he is going to bottom....there seems to be a learing opportunity here that could also strengthen the relationship....but you want instant gratification and no investment... you a hoe....he's not, teach him some techniques ObiWon!
  • AttisXVI

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    Jul 31, 2015 12:16 PM GMT
    I was like "maybe you need to try something diff-" and then I saw he's a quickshot. That's no fun. If you aren't sexually compatible, it won't work out. Your sex drive is greater than his ability, and your preferences are not compatible with his comfort.
  • 5100s

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    Jul 31, 2015 1:05 PM GMT
    Anal sex isn't the "real thing", it's just one of many forms of sexual expression. A lot of men like it, and a lot of men don't.

    If I find a man extremely attractive, just touching or even standing up against him in a crowded room is heaven. Otherwise the most skilled practitioner of anal sex in the world would leave me totally cold.

    I suspect he doesn't find you all that sexually attractive either, so why don't the two of you just become friends?
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    Jul 31, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    Two years? Are you insane? Such sexual incompatibility would have had be run within two hours. You get what you deserve and if you are so unwilling to actually make a decision, then you get to hang with mr premature boring sex guy.
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    Jul 31, 2015 2:09 PM GMT
    Interesting first post. Two years is far to long to waste time with someone you aren't compatible with. I don't know if both of you were wasting time or if it was more one sided, but regardless it's important to be honest. Be up front about why you want to end the relationship.
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    Jul 31, 2015 3:28 PM GMT
    wasnt there another relationship post along these lines? That is a relatively new member posting upset about a 2 year old relationship. Wanting to leave. Knowing the realjock.com site; its a reasonable question to ask is if these are not the same person?
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    Jul 31, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    pellaz saidwasnt there another relationship post along these lines? That is a relatively new member posting upset about a 2 year old relationship. Wanting to leave. Knowing the realjock.com site; its a reasonable question to ask is if these are not the same person?


    No posts and zero profile - Is it not reasonable to ask if he's a troll?
  • FRE0

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    Jul 31, 2015 5:16 PM GMT
    5100s saidAnal sex isn't the "real thing", it's just one of many forms of sexual expression. A lot of men like it, and a lot of men don't.

    If I find a man extremely attractive, just touching or even standing up against him in a crowded room is heaven. Otherwise the most skilled practitioner of anal sex in the world would leave me totally cold.

    I suspect he doesn't find you all that sexually attractive either, so why don't the two of you just become friends?


    ^^^ Right ^^^

    From reading the personal advertisements in the "Advocate" in the early 1970s, it was obvious that anal sex was not very popular. The advertisements were specific about what was wanted:

    FA = French active, i.e,. sucks
    FP = French passive, i.e., likes to be sucked
    GA = Greek Active, i.e., top in anal
    GP = Greek passive, i.e., bottom in anal
    V = versatile

    FA & FP were the least commonly specified. It is unclear why preferences have changed and why Greek now seems to be an absolute requirement for many guys. Perhaps it is because of expectations or because they assume that that is the only way gay men have sex.

  • Jul 31, 2015 6:14 PM GMT
    I still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..
  • AttisXVI

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    Jul 31, 2015 7:52 PM GMT
    makeoutmonster saidI still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..


    So break up with him. What good is a hot piece of ass if all you can do is look at him? You might as well watch porn.

    You can find someone more compatible with your needs and he can find someone more compatible with his needs.

  • Jul 31, 2015 10:04 PM GMT
    AttisXVI said
    makeoutmonster saidI still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..


    So break up with him. What good is a hot piece of ass if all you can do is look at him? You might as well watch porn.

    You can find someone more compatible with your needs and he can find someone more compatible with his needs.


    I don't want to hurt his feelings by using this reason to break up with him..
  • FRE0

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    Aug 01, 2015 12:05 AM GMT
    makeoutmonster saidI still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..


    It seems that the main problem is his lack of consideration.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 01, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    makeoutmonster said
    AttisXVI said
    makeoutmonster saidI still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..


    So break up with him. What good is a hot piece of ass if all you can do is look at him? You might as well watch porn.

    You can find someone more compatible with your needs and he can find someone more compatible with his needs.


    I don't want to hurt his feelings by using this reason to break up with him..


    He doesn't seem concerned with your feelings. However, before being sure of that, you should make certain that he knows your feelings.

  • Aug 01, 2015 12:18 AM GMT
    FRE0 said
    makeoutmonster said
    AttisXVI said
    makeoutmonster saidI still find him attractive.. But when I want it.. He couldn't give it to me. On the other hand, he would hand&blow job me till I'm drained.. Which that's not what I want.. Sometime when he turns me down, I would masturbate instead. And it felt great.... Sometimes I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me..


    So break up with him. What good is a hot piece of ass if all you can do is look at him? You might as well watch porn.

    You can find someone more compatible with your needs and he can find someone more compatible with his needs.


    I don't want to hurt his feelings by using this reason to break up with him..


    He doesn't seem concerned with your feelings. However, before being sure of that, you should make certain that he knows your feelings.


    He does know how I feel... His respond to it was he felt guilty for not fulfilling my needs. But I kept telling him it's fine I don't want to force you.
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    Aug 01, 2015 2:08 PM GMT
    Then you aren't honest with him because it's not "fine." Stop playing games. Stop trying to spare his feelings. Do him and yourself a big favor and breakup pronto. This will not end well either way.