Talking to a cute guy and he didn't reply to my text?

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    Aug 04, 2015 11:13 PM GMT
    Late last week a really cute guy messaged me on Grindr. He didn't have a pic, but sent one in his first message. Totally my type, but he messaged me at like 2 AM so I didn't see it until the next morning which is when I replied.

    He didn't sign on for a couple of days after that, and when I saw he was on, I messaged him again (this was on Sunday). We started talking and really hit it off right off the bat. I asked him if we could exchange numbers and he happily agreed. He texted me first shortly after and we went back and forth pretty much the entire day on Sunday. We even set up a date for Friday night.

    Yesterday, I texted him around 2 PM and just said "Hey stud, how's your day going?". Still haven't gotten a response. Granted, he told me he's a supervisor in retail, so he could just be busy with work and perhaps tired when he gets home. I don't know...it's just weird how we hit it off so well and he was the one who messaged and texted me first and now it's like he fell off the face of the earth.

    I don't want to be obsessive, but this would be my first date with a guy and he's the first one I've talked to who is actually my type and that I've had a good conversation with.

    Do I text him again, and if so, when? I want to know if our date is still on for Friday, but if I don't hear back, I guess I'll have my answer. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 04, 2015 11:18 PM GMT
    tomorrow ask him if the date is still on
  • LostSailor

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    Aug 04, 2015 11:21 PM GMT
    That sounds SOOOOOO annoying.
    Good luck.
    hate not knowing where I stand with a guy.
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 05, 2015 5:43 AM GMT
    I hope you got pictures. And if you did, I hope you ran a google search on them.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Aug 05, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    Troll he found someone else.
  • hebrewman

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    Aug 05, 2015 8:28 AM GMT
    forget it and move on. NEXT.
  • josephmovie

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    Aug 05, 2015 8:30 AM GMT
    I would contact him one more time, but not just to ask if the date is still on. I'd say that you are still looking forward to catching up and what bar/time/whatever would you like to meet at? If you just ask "is the date still on" they might just troll you with simple "yeah" string-him-along type answers.

    A more complex question that means the recipient has do a bit of work and if they are trolling you or just being annoying then they won't respond.

    At least you'll know where you stand.
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    Aug 05, 2015 12:11 PM GMT
    HEBREWMAN saidforget it and move on. NEXT.


    this. sounds like you're new to the grindr scene. expect that A LOT not only on grindr, but on all the gay dating apps.

    Rule #1. NEVER READ INTO THE CONVERSATION TOO MUCH. if you do you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

    Rule #2. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger. Cliche, but true especially when dealing with guys on grindr etc. Grow some thick skin and learn how to see through the bullshit on these apps. People can (and will) say anything they want.

    good luck.
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    Aug 05, 2015 12:43 PM GMT
    Completely unrelated rant regarding your text to him. I HATE the "hey stud" "hey sexy" texts especially from someone that I've hit it off with. If we've texted some and exchanged names/numbers, I'd like to drop the pick up lines and communicate a little more personally and with something of substance. To me "hey stud" just says, "I still think you're really hot!!!". That doesn't separate you from the other guys who think he's hot.

    For me what works is something like "Hey Sam. Hope all is well. Did you see this? [insert cool video/article/news story]... Crazy!" It gives you both something to comment/connect about potentially and relaxes things a little.

    End of rant lol. Hope you end up working things out.
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    Aug 05, 2015 3:35 PM GMT
    He didn't have a pic but he sent it in his first message. If that's the only image he's sent, he might be a cat fish. Did you get his name? Add him or see if he's on Facebook? If you're in any doubt that he's a real guy, it'd be best to find out before a physical meeting. Especially since you found him on Grindr, I've seen waaay too many guys using other gay guys I know as profile pictures.
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    Aug 05, 2015 3:36 PM GMT
    Also, if you already texted him, just leave it. Especially if you're just starting out, you don't want to set yourself up as the guy who's an after thought. If he thinks about you at all. If he doesn't keep up, it speaks to how invested he is in you.
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Aug 05, 2015 5:20 PM GMT
    He isn't horny anymore. This is Grindr we are talking about, not e-harmony nor OK Cupid.

    If you want something more meaningful than a fuck-date it's time to graduate from Grindr.
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    Aug 05, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    He changed his mind, doesn't want to go out with you anymore. Either that, or he's just a troll or one of those online player type.
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    Aug 05, 2015 7:51 PM GMT
    sounds like catfish. I hope he wasn't your mom just playing a game with you.
  • mybud

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    Aug 05, 2015 9:55 PM GMT
    Wait til he texts you back...If that doesn't happen..give it a day...no response after that...Move on.
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    Aug 05, 2015 10:07 PM GMT
    No, you don't text him again.
    Someone who is genuinely interested will do whatever it takes to stay in touch, look at you, you're here posting on a forum because of him. Why? Because you are genuinely interested...
    You know how you interact with someone when you're really REALLY into them, and to be honest, you have to expect a guy to give you the same amount of interest, that means never beg for an answer, if he really wanted to give you one, he would have. That being said, there's also a possibility he's still interested but something may have come in between, just wait, if he still doesn't answer by tomorrow, just forget about him. May suck for you, but unfortunately that is how online interaction works!
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    Aug 06, 2015 12:11 AM GMT
    Well it's Grindr so you shouldn't be at all that surprised that he hit you up at 2am. Dude was horny and looking.

    Fast foward...dude is now acting interested until someone better comes along and what's to bang instantly.
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    Aug 06, 2015 1:34 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidWell it's Grindr so you shouldn't be at all that surprised that he hit you up at 2am. Dude was horny and looking.

    Fast foward...dude is now acting interested until someone better comes along and what's to bang instantly.


    Amen. nothing good happens during the wee hours of the morning.... 2AM. come on' that should have been the FIRST RED FLAG.
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    Aug 06, 2015 4:20 AM GMT
    Could have been a scammer just looking to harvest your phone number. Even if you did suggest exchanging phone numbers, he might have still be a scammer. Those types do send messages early in the morning. No matter what the reason, just let it go. Take yourself out on Friday night and have a good time.
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    Aug 06, 2015 12:44 PM GMT
    He actually texted me back yesterday morning. We chatted and I mentioned that I texted him the other day but figured he was busy at work and said "yeah my bad for not answering back". I asked him if we are still on for Friday and he said yes. I asked him where he wanted to go, and no reply. -_- But he said he had work from 2-11 yesterday. He texted me back "hey" at 1:30 AM.

    So I guess he is interested, just seems to work crazy shifts and is probably a busy guy.

    I do want to ask for more pictures before meeting up though. I only saw the one he sent. Would it be weird to ask for more?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 06, 2015 12:52 PM GMT
    Avoid Grindr like the bubonic plague from here on out.
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    Aug 06, 2015 5:25 PM GMT
    ant811 saidHe actually texted me back yesterday morning. We chatted and I mentioned that I texted him the other day but figured he was busy at work and said "yeah my bad for not answering back". I asked him if we are still on for Friday and he said yes. I asked him where he wanted to go, and no reply. -_- But he said he had work from 2-11 yesterday. He texted me back "hey" at 1:30 AM.

    So I guess he is interested, just seems to work crazy shifts and is probably a busy guy.

    I do want to ask for more pictures before meeting up though. I only saw the one he sent. Would it be weird to ask for more?


    No harm in asking. I personally don't send pictures anymore. Apparently I am really ugly because guys who ask me for more pictures never contact me back afterwards, even if I have multiple pictures of me on my profile. They could also be collecting pictures as well. At this point I don't take guys who keep asking for pictures seriously.
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    Aug 07, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    ant811 said I asked him if we are still on for Friday and he said yes. I asked him where he wanted to go, and no reply. -_- But he said he had work from 2-11 yesterday. He texted me back "hey" at 1:30 AM.

    So I guess he is interested, just seems to work crazy shifts and is probably a busy guy.


    If he was actually interested in a date he would suggest a place and time, no matter how busy he may be.

    Vague responses without a place and time just mean he is "busy."
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    Aug 07, 2015 1:54 PM GMT
    I replied to his "hey" text from 1:30 AM yesterday after I got to work that morning a little before 10 AM. He never replied. Last night, I saw that he was on Grindr a few hours ago. I texted him a "hey, are you alive? Lol" and never heard back. Our date was supposed to be tonight but it doesn't look like it's happening. I'm done.
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    Aug 07, 2015 7:34 PM GMT
    Update: so in a shocking turn of events, I texted him again because at this point I'm just like "fuck it". I then saw him on Grindr again and messaged him. He wrote back instantly and I asked him if he got any of my texts. He said no and that maybe he should restart his phone. We chatted more and I told him I still want to go out tonight. He agreed and I asked him if this one place would be okay and he said yeah. I asked him what time he gets out of work, he said hopefully 7 so I told him we will go at 9 but to give me a heads up when he gets out.

    He also asked if I had any other pics and I told him yeah but asked if he does as well. He sent me another pic and I sent him mine and he complimented me. I also asked him what he was looking for and told him to be honest and he said friends and fun, but possibly more if there's a connection, which is pretty much what I'm looking for as well.

    I hope this goes well...