Affirmations in a starting relationship.

  • reed1993

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    Aug 05, 2015 6:14 PM GMT
    I guess I should start out by saying that my "love language" is definitely words of affirmation. I tend to be open in relationships, and express how I feel.

    I'm starting out something that seems to be progressing into a relationship with a guy, and we do pretty good together in person. We've been talking for 6 months or so, and started hanging out in person about 2 months ago. We've both discussed how we feel and we like each other and we both see it heading for a relationship. The issue is we only get to see each other a couple times a week so we're left texting to communicate in between.. The thing that bothers me about this is everything can be great in person then when it comes down to him texting I get almost no feedback of anything remotely like a relationship.. no affirmations, anything. I've spoke to him about this and he understood and said he would try, but nothing came of it yet.

    I sort of feel outrageous for thinking that I would like to hear more feedback from him.. and maybe it has to do with my own insecurities? I don't know. Do you guys think it's reasonable to expect some affirmation over text in the beginning of a relationship? I just like to be reminded every now and again that things are pointing in the right direction, affirmations seem like the best way for this. ~
  • reed1993

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    Aug 05, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
    Derp, wrong section ahaha, I'll report in the proper one.
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    Aug 06, 2015 7:10 AM GMT
    reed1993 saidDerp, wrong section ahaha, I'll report in the proper one.


    Texting never fails to end relationships for me. Messages can
    be received out of order or not at all , they can be misconstrued or too simply to convey complex miscommunication etc. Let things of the heart be communicated personally.
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    Aug 06, 2015 8:22 AM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    reed1993 saidDerp, wrong section ahaha, I'll report in the proper one.


    Texting never fails to end relationships for me. Messages can
    be received out of order or not at all , they can be misconstrued or too simply to convey complex miscommunication etc. Let things of the heart be communicated personally.


    I love texting its like getting little post it notes.
  • Amira

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    Aug 06, 2015 12:21 PM GMT
    Newer relationships tend to have that tension of eagerness and usually it comes at different levels depending on the person involved. It's an issue a lot of people go through, you may feel that you express more than the other person. You have to also consider that his love language may be the complete opposite, but even with that said if you two don't see each other often he has to learn to communicate openly for the better of growing the relationship further. If that isn't happening you have to decide if the lack of affirmations is something you can bypass if you compare the other qualities.. You should also ask yourself if you are wanting affirmations because you express them? If your affirmations are genuine, reciprocation shouldn't always be needed.
  • ai82

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    Aug 07, 2015 3:24 AM GMT
    I'm confused...what exactly do you want him to do? Do you want him to say he loves you or just thinking about you? I'm terrible with texts... I get them then forget about them or I go over several times what I'm going to send to make sure it's clear...or they're just tooooo long.
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Aug 08, 2015 3:58 AM GMT

    Honey ... there is one "love language" and its silence. The two of you spend a couple days a week together. Let him ruminate over you, your visage in water color, ever present, reappearing through out his mind. These "meaningful" texts are a bad idea. Stop doing them. Affirm your feelings for each other in person. Leave the texting to wish him a good week after he returns home from visiting you and then let the sentiment stay with him until he sees you again. I love when a guy does it this way and guys are receptive to this approach, I've found.
    By all means, express how you feel, in person. Text don't convey emotion, a fundamental problem with them. No, no, let your lips do the talking.