Craigslist people are so damn weird

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    Aug 05, 2015 11:40 PM GMT
    So my roommate gave me short notice that he wants to move out and get his own place. I think his new boyfriend is pressuring him but hey we all gotta learn those lessons somehow.

    I asked my friends and coworkers if they knew anyone who needed a place. They didn't. I put up an add on craigslist. I got a few replies even though it was 6 weeks away and people don't think that far ahead. One was a dude who worked in the same plaza as me which is 1.5 miles from my apartment. We talked on the phone for 15 mins and agreed to meet each other briefly around work time, just to size each other up. After that we agreed to have him come over and check out the apartment and the complex.

    I called him about 15 minutes before I was going to leave for work. I didn't want to be rude if he was on his way. That's when he tells me he can't make it. He never reschedules or keeps in contact.

    Three weeks later I run into him taking a break with his coworkers. He is practically begging to move in. I am confused. I told him the requirements of being added to the lease and the application deposit. I invited him over to check out the place and he never shows or reschedules. Now he is begging me in front of his coworkers and I am feeling bad. I had already decided to fuck it and rent the place myself. My roommates room will be my spa.

    Another guy got really weird and kept asking me about nudity and got mad when I told him under no circumstance will I ever help a roommate pay for rent or any other bill. I do not lend money to my roommates.

    Then there are all the people who want a room with a private bath, in a good area, in the heart of the city. utilities included for $500 a month. Seriously?

    The saddest thing I saw was an HIV positive top looking for a HIV positive bottom who is down on his luck and needs a place to stay. The bottom would have to be open to bare back sex. Ugh, I can't deal.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 06, 2015 3:29 AM GMT
    This is why anybody who can afford it, lives alone.
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    Aug 06, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidThis is why anybody who can afford it, lives alone.
    +1
  • Apparition

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    Aug 06, 2015 6:52 AM GMT
    always live beside a university, roommates are plentiful and short lived.
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    Aug 06, 2015 8:21 AM GMT
    Apparition saidalways live beside a university, roommates are plentiful and short lived.


    So true. I actually live near several universities and several medical schools. I took over my friends lease and she had 5 different roommates in 18 months. No thank you.
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    Aug 06, 2015 8:49 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidThis is why anybody who can afford it, lives alone.


    Having roommates has its benefits. Yes I'm going back to living on my own.
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    Aug 06, 2015 11:31 AM GMT
    I've been getting tired of living alone. I don't see love in the wings and I forgot to have children to check up on me so the older I get the more I like the idea of a housemate. I did purposely get myself a large enough house for that option, and even went onto craigslist a few times but got creeped out.

    Like most things though, it's probably just a numbers game so I might give that another try. There's good people out there. Just have to luck into them.
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    Aug 06, 2015 1:22 PM GMT
    Own your place, pay cash or a sizable down payment and never have a roommate who does not blow you every morning. Simple life, no games or headaches.
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    Aug 06, 2015 2:10 PM GMT
    a craigslist post is a struggle for both parties.
  • daveindenver

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    Aug 06, 2015 2:26 PM GMT
    I guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha
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    Aug 06, 2015 3:24 PM GMT
    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    You're very attractive. That plays a role in most things in life. Especially the gay community lol.
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    Aug 06, 2015 3:26 PM GMT
    pellaz saida craigslist post is a struggle for both parties.


    It can be but I tend to be very upfront in my post so there is not much of a guessing game from me. In the end I decided since I can afford the place on my own. Why take the risk of adding someone who might be a low life. I found my current roommate on A4A and he actually worked out well. Glad he's going though. nudity here I come.
  • NursePractiti...

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    Aug 06, 2015 4:54 PM GMT
    My old room mate in Denver ran an ad looking for a roommate after I moved out. Told me he got the weirdest responses. People offering, "trade" for rent, drugs, "when my parents send the money", etc. Just weird.
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    Aug 06, 2015 5:23 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    You're very attractive. That plays a role in most things in life. Especially the gay community lol.


    +1



    I bought my home with my best friend. That worked out really well until he died. I have thought about renting out a room...but never end up doing it.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 06, 2015 6:53 PM GMT
    If people will not do what they agree to do and will not keep their commitments, write them off. One failure with a good explanation may be OK, but more than that is not acceptable.
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    Aug 07, 2015 5:49 AM GMT
    Honestly people are just flaky in general. If you really want a new roommate, set up an open house time like on the weekend that's convenient for you. Set up sort of a short interview-phase like 7-10 mins. The people who come, will check out the place and you can also check them out. Go with your top 2-3 choices. I'd just simply ignored weird messages asking for free-rent or whatever.
  • jperfit

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    Aug 07, 2015 11:18 AM GMT
    Dont kid yourself, people are weird on here as well, they just have better pics
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    Aug 07, 2015 2:27 PM GMT
    I have a few rental properties and I'd been successful in the past getting long-term tenants from Craigslist (and I'm talking about high-end tenants, those who can pay in excess of $3000/month). So, while there are many flakes on CL, there's also an equal number of respectable, ethical people who use it.
  • NerdLifter

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    Aug 07, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAnd the worst is people showing interest and then totally flaking on you with no communication or heads up.

    THIS. I've had 4 potential roommates flake right before signing a lease, which was a waste of over two months of my life looking at units in the DC area. I ended up biting the proverbial bullet and renting a studio apartment by myself.
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    Aug 07, 2015 4:33 PM GMT
    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    Same here! I never owned any property but I never had any trouble either finding someone to sublet an apartment I'd already signed on for or finding an apartment to sublease for an internship or for just a semester. It might be the way you worded the ad, is it still online? Can you link it?
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    Aug 07, 2015 4:36 PM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidHonestly people are just flaky in general. If you really want a new roommate, set up an open house time like on the weekend that's convenient for you. Set up sort of a short interview-phase like 7-10 mins. The people who come, will check out the place and you can also check them out. Go with your top 2-3 choices. I'd just simply ignored weird messages asking for free-rent or whatever.


    Definitely good advice.

    "I can't sign a lease but I promise to pay every month in cash!"

    Nope.

    "My employer will be paying for all of my expenses, please forward him the cost of everything and also your bank information."

    Next.

    Don't indulge with people who seem like they're almost certainly not viable or just a plain scam.
  • FRE0

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    Aug 07, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidYou meet a lot of human trash on craigslist.

    I've had such a headache over the years just trying to sell furniture and similar items.

    People would respond asking if I would give away for free whatever I'm trying to sell. Or would offer me odd trades.

    And the worst is people showing interest and then totally flaking on you with no communication or heads up.


    True, but there are also good people on Craig's List.
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    Aug 08, 2015 5:47 AM GMT
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    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    Same here! I never owned any property but I never had any trouble either finding someone to sublet an apartment I'd already signed on for or finding an apartment to sublease for an internship or for just a semester. It might be the way you worded the ad, is it still online? Can you link it?


    I think you and the other guy misinterpreted this thread. I find it hard to believe every person you have ever dealt with on craigslist has been a normal well adjusted person. I never said it was impossible for me to find someone. I have found roommates in the past on craigslist. My current roommate is from A4A. However there are weird people on craigslist. A woman had her baby cut out of her stomach by another woman on craigslist. icon_rolleyes.gif

    http://houston.craigslist.org/roo/5154627853.html
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    Aug 08, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
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    Animus said
    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    Same here! I never owned any property but I never had any trouble either finding someone to sublet an apartment I'd already signed on for or finding an apartment to sublease for an internship or for just a semester. It might be the way you worded the ad, is it still online? Can you link it?


    I think you and the other guy misinterpreted this thread. I find it hard to believe every person you have ever dealt with on craigslist has been a normal well adjusted person. I never said it was impossible for me to find someone. I have found roommates in the past on craigslist. My current roommate is from A4A. However there are weird people on craigslist. A woman had her baby cut out of her stomach by another woman on craigslist. icon_rolleyes.gif

    http://houston.craigslist.org/roo/5154627853.html
    I find it oddly insane how people blame the internet's websites (a4a, craigslist, grindr, RJ, etc) for things that go bad in their lives.

    Obviously it's the people who regularly make bad decisions that have things go wrong in their lives...regardless of which online media outlet they choose to advertise it with.
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    Aug 08, 2015 6:04 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MrFuscle said
    Animus said
    daveindenver saidI guess I'm the weird one.

    I've had tons of success finding roommates on Craigslist. It's all about how you word your ad. I've had a couple duds (kicked them out) but overall great, met good guys I'm still friends with, AND they Paid For My Mortgage too....not that there's anything wrong with that. Ha


    Same here! I never owned any property but I never had any trouble either finding someone to sublet an apartment I'd already signed on for or finding an apartment to sublease for an internship or for just a semester. It might be the way you worded the ad, is it still online? Can you link it?


    I think you and the other guy misinterpreted this thread. I find it hard to believe every person you have ever dealt with on craigslist has been a normal well adjusted person. I never said it was impossible for me to find someone. I have found roommates in the past on craigslist. My current roommate is from A4A. However there are weird people on craigslist. A woman had her baby cut out of her stomach by another woman on craigslist. icon_rolleyes.gif

    http://houston.craigslist.org/roo/5154627853.html
    I find it oddly insane how people blame the internet's websites (a4a, craigslist, grindr, RJ, etc) for things that go bad in their lives.

    Obviously it's the people who regularly make bad decisions that have things go wrong in their lives...regardless of which online media outlet they choose to advertise it with.


    The internet just exposes you to people. Its up to you to determine how you deal with them. I will say that if I were a woman I would never use craigslist. To many perverts and sickos.

    I found my first room in my current city on craigslist. It was an interesting place. Tons of untraditional people. I learned a lot there.

    I could have found a good roommate on craigslist. My biggest mistake was posting so early. If I posted again today I'd get dozens of good replies. The early weirdos just gave me time to realize the opportunity in turning the extra bedroom into a spa.