Somebody please... I really need help

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    Jan 29, 2009 8:48 PM GMT
    I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years a few hours ago. He told me that there is just no spark anymore. I don't know what to do. I'm lost and confused, i can't stop crying and the littlest thing pisses me off. Guys I really don't know what to do... I just... I just don't know. I love him so much......
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    Jan 29, 2009 8:53 PM GMT
    tasty_oblivion saidi can't stop crying and the littlest thing pisses me off.


    That is exactly what you are supposed to be doing. Have yourself a big old cry. Talk to a friend. Go do something fun. Come home and cry all over again. This too will pass.

    best of luck
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    Jan 29, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    Let out, let it go... get together with your friends.
    It's healthy to have a good cry over it, just down wallow in it and use friends and family to help you move forward.
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    Jan 29, 2009 9:35 PM GMT
    i don't know... I really want a hug... but I don't know these people that I live around lol.... *sigh* I'm trying to see if I can get a group of friends together... it's just not fair that all this time he's allowed me to believe that he loved me. He let me go on thinking that we were going to be together. I feel like such an idiot....
  • DCEric

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    Jan 29, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    Hey out there in Largo... cry, yell, scream, get it out of your system. Get yourself into DuPont in a week or two and have a good flirt with a guy.

    /The point of life is mistakes and let downs.
    //The challenge in life is recovering and learning from them.
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    Jan 29, 2009 11:52 PM GMT
    I recommend a big tank of Ben & Jerry's, and a really stupid movie (the unrated version of Epic Movie is a must, here).

    After that, get yourself a little rebound action.

    Key thing to keep in mind: it's not the end of the world.

    Now pick yourself up off your broken little ass, AND GET SOME FUCKIN' ICECREAM!!
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    Jan 29, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    Medicate with food.
    Cry your brains out.
    Jerk off.
    Get laid.
    Workout.
    Read a book.
    Rent a movie.
    Get a life.

    He DOES NOT feel the same way about you as you do about him, and you need to ACCEPT that. There are 7 BILLION folks in the world. There's someone else who is a better fit.

    End the self-destructive, self-pity, victim mentality, and go get a new boyfriend.

    The nice thing about the past is that it's the past. It's done. It's over. Time to move on. The future is likely even better.

    Pull your bootstraps up. Stand straight and tall. Become a real boy.
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    Jan 29, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    Yeah I know it hurts and you love him. But that is life sometimes. Believe me there are so many guys out there.

    Now go get some Chunky Monkey Ice cream.
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    Jan 29, 2009 11:58 PM GMT
    Rocky Road, Dude....YUMM.

    Nothing like satiety induced via sugar emulsified in fat. YUMM.
  • cityguy39

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    Jan 29, 2009 11:58 PM GMT
    I'm sorry, we have all been there. What you need now is your friends or your best friend who knows you. Trust me you will get over him, it took me two years to get over my first real boyfriend, we were together for 6yrs, I thought I would die, I didn't, you won't either. I have a question though, if he came back to you right now would you take him back? Could you trust him not to breakup with you again? Your very tender right now, this is not the time to make any rash decisions with him, you need time whatever you do.
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    Jan 30, 2009 12:06 AM GMT
    I'm a great believer that our American musical culture has provided us with more gems of wisdom, in the form of lyrical poetry, than we realize. Here's one from Dorothy Fields, to music by Jerome Kern, called "Pick Yourself Up":

    Nothing's impossible, I have found.
    For when my chin is on the ground,
    I pick myself up, dust myself off,
    Start all over again.

    Don't lose your confidence if you slip.
    Be grateful for a pleasant trip,
    And pick yourself up; dust yourself off;
    Start all over again.

    Work like a soul inspired
    'Til the battle of the day is won.
    You may be sick and tired,
    But you'll be a man, my son.

    Will you remember the famous men
    Who had to fall to rise again.
    So take a deep breath;
    Pick yourself up;
    Dust yourself off;
    Start all over again.


    Not really talking about romance, but I like the general motivational sentiments about not giving up.

    Here's where Ginger Rogers sings those lyrics to Fred Astaire in Swing Time, 1936. He's pretending to need dancing lessons from her, in order to get a date with her. He manages to get her fired, so he dances with her to prove to her boss what a great teacher she is:

    g
    BTW, this dance number was done in 2 short takes, and a final very long take, one of the longest uninterupted duets ever done on film. Showing why Astaire & Rogers are still the greatest dancing team in history.
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    Jan 30, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    Hang in there, partner. I know it's tough, but just ride it through. And, please, don't do anything ridiculous. Leave your ex alone. Don't stalk, don't call, don't even fart in his general direction.

    Cry it out, then get some rest. Go to the gym, go for long walks, play a video game (duh!), stay away from listening to sad songs, watch a lot of Comedy Central but stay away from Lifetime!

    Do NOT eat a lot of fatty foods. That will only make you feel worse. I like the ice cream idea, but stick with something like a pint of frozen sorbet or some low fat popcorn. Build up your confidence by building up your body. Don't go gettin' all Jobba the Hut on us. Being miserable is bad enough, but being fat and miserable is simply the worst.

    Why not consider taking up boxing, or hitting the pool, or something like that? You know, Cesar Milan likes to get out a dog's frustrations by running the hell out of them. The same concept works here. You won't think about it if you focus on something that keeps you physically active. It also will help you sleep better at night.

    And when you're finally on track, that piece of shit will probably come knocking on your door, looking for some of that hot, well built, tight ass you have been working on. So, you let him in, force him on his knees, stick your dick in his mouth, force him to tell you how hot he thinks you are ... then cum on his face and kick his ass out the fucking door.

    Men suck, right?
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    Jan 30, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    cry your eyes out until you can't cry any more... then cry some more.. do what ever will make it easier, fuck everything else, you wanna eat something eat it, you wanna cry, cry, you wanna curl up in a little ball under the blankets then you do it cause damn, you deserve to let it all out...

    then in a few weeks, you'll pick your self back up and start healing...
  • Hunter9

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    Jan 30, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    You're 18 and had a 3 year relationship? Consider yourself lucky and end the pity party ASAP
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    Jan 30, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    Hunter9 saidYou're 18 and had a 3 year relationship? Consider yourself lucky and end the pity party ASAP
    age does not invalidate someones emotional pain sweet heart!
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    Jan 30, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    thank you guys. I'm feeling a little better after a nap. I don't think that friend thing is going to happen for a while though. I think I'll spend more time on the treadmill
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    Jan 30, 2009 9:35 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Hunter9 saidYou're 18 and had a 3 year relationship? Consider yourself lucky and end the pity party ASAP
    age does not invalidate someones emotional pain sweet heart!


    lilSpanker is my idol! For real!
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    Jan 30, 2009 9:39 AM GMT
    tasty_oblivion saidthank you guys. I'm feeling a little better after a nap. I don't think that friend thing is going to happen for a while though. I think I'll spend more time on the treadmill


    Good man. Set obtainable, realistic goals for yourself and achieve them. It's time to break through that chrysalis and stand on your own two feet.
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    Jan 30, 2009 10:12 AM GMT

    Jsttennis77, are you back? icon_eek.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 30, 2009 11:13 AM GMT
    Look at it this way. You are free to date and have sex with other people. That....FREEDOM. If he say there no more spark anymore, why bother with him. There all kind of other far more handsome men around that are more deserving that this guy. My bf of 3 years cheat on me, lie to me, take advantages of my trust . I love him so much that I accept the arrangement, until I discovered what a fool I am and start looking for other men and enjoy playing the field again.

    Hug from me and enjoy being single.

  • MattyC0709

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    Jan 30, 2009 11:42 AM GMT
    Go on YouTube and find as many funny videos as possible. That's what I do when I feel really sad and pissed off.

    You like Lara Croft? The guy who makes these vidoes rocks:

    Lara's Voiceovers:


    Crazy Croft:


    Animated Croft:
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    Jan 30, 2009 11:45 AM GMT

    muttskins - that's just depressing. i think i'm going to retract my hopeful posts on the "Suicide" thread. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 30, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    Ok I'm sorry but nothing is funnier then guys dancing to this song icon_lol.gif






    I'm don't know who this is but I love him for having the balls to do that^^
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    yay post 200!
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    Jan 31, 2009 12:33 AM GMT


    Hey tasty_oblivion,


    Here's two songs for you - the first about now, and the second about what the future holds for you.

    Interesting how one leads into the other, and you know, life's like that.

    Good.

    -us old guys (hence the disco!)






    Dr. Hook & the Medicine Show Better Love Next Time :
    I'm your friend, you can talk to me.
    I read your face, I see misery.
    'Cause the one you love has left you dry,
    Don't start believin' that you're gonna die.
    Just pick your heart up off the floor,
    And try, try again.

    You'll find better love next time, baby.
    Don't give up and I know you're gonna find,
    Better love next time, baby.
    Someone will be waitin' down the line,
    With better love, better love,
    Better love, better love next time.

    Sometimes it's better to let it all go.
    I've been there and I think I should know.
    So, have a good cry, wash out your heart.
    If you keep it inside it'll tear you apart.
    Sometimes you lose but you're gonna win,
    If you just, if you just, keep hangin' in.
    You'll find better love next time, baby.
    Don't give up and I know you're gonna find,
    Better love next time, baby.
    Someone will be waitin' down the line,
    With better love, better love,
    next time.......

    ..........I was sittin all alone
    Watchin people get it on,
    with each other
    They were dancin cross the floor
    turnin movin back and forth , they were lovers
    One more lonely night for me
    I looked up , what did I see

    Chorus:
    Sexy eyes movin cross the floor
    got me wantin more
    Sexy Eyes " sexy , sexy "
    Sexy eyes gettin down with you , I wanna move with you Sexy eyes

    I got up and took your hand and we both began to dance to the music
    Ooh , your magic cast a spell
    It didnt take long til we fell and we knew it

    No more lonely nights for me
    this is how its gonna be

    Chorus:
    Sexy eyes movin cross the floor
    got me wantnin more
    Sexy Eyes " sexy , sexy "
    Sexy eyes gettin down with you , I wanna move with you Sexy eyes


  • DCEric

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    Jan 31, 2009 12:39 AM GMT
    Here is another one for now... deals with both the loss, and the belief that the other persons actions are not explainable.



    Did you stand by me? No not all.