Your mobility and its effects on your attitude

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    Aug 09, 2015 9:07 PM GMT
    Have you had an injury where your attitude has completely changed your "gayness"?

    My shoulders hurt and I needed to have that rest and ice packs and this has made my outlook very difficult in maintaining friendships and relationships.

    The constant worry and the uncertainty that injury will get better. That has not changed my "gayness" in anyway and this injury will not make me straight whatsoever.

    Do you think injuries can make you straight?
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    Aug 09, 2015 9:08 PM GMT
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    Aug 09, 2015 9:09 PM GMT
    Bonaparts, I will glad if you could add some input and maybe some of your experiences with injuries and if it has affected your sexuality?
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    Aug 09, 2015 11:48 PM GMT
    While I am confused about the question it is quite common for people to become depressed from an injury. I was doing so well and lost 96 pounds. I had a bad back injury from the gym and it completely demoralized me. I gained 30 pounds back and I haven't been able to loose it in 8 months because I feel like such a failure. I know its silly. I'm still down 60lbs nearly two years from where I started but being overweight and gay is one of the toughest first world problems you can have.
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    Aug 09, 2015 11:56 PM GMT
    SpinnerMuscle saidDo you think injuries can make you straight?
    Some straight people obviously think so. That's why they become violent with us.
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    Aug 10, 2015 12:16 AM GMT
    I have a shoulder problem as well. When I do chest exercises my shoulders hurt. I think I have a bone spur so I will see my doctor tomorrow or I will try to. It seems like a bone of some in between the acromion and the shoulder. Like an extra dome sticking out...
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    Aug 10, 2015 12:41 AM GMT
    SpinnerMuscle said
    Do you think injuries can make you straight?

    Good grief NO! Why in the world would an injury make us straight?

    It happens that my back is acting up badly right now, one of my military service-connected disabilities. A damn painful inconvenience, I need my husband to pull me out of bed, and I had to start using the walker to get around the house.

    But I just tolerate it, on the assumption it will pass in a few days as it usually does. I can put up with anything if I know it's only temporary.

    WHY would pain make me become straight? Or want to become straight? I fail to see the connection.
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    Aug 10, 2015 2:29 AM GMT
    humans are the thinking animals but there is a natural instinct to express aggression as a natural response to pain.
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    Aug 10, 2015 2:48 AM GMT
    bonaparts said

    Why the fuck do u keep doing that?
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    Aug 11, 2015 1:13 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    SpinnerMuscle saidDo you think injuries can make you straight?
    Some straight people obviously think so. That's why they become violent with us.


    DING DING
  • tazzari

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    Aug 11, 2015 1:24 AM GMT
    After 4 disastrous ankle operations, I'm reliant on crutches; basically chair- and crutch-bound for 2 years now. It's made me a bit sour at times, and less "interested" for stretches of time - But less gay? Not hardly!
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    Aug 11, 2015 5:15 AM GMT
    LostSailor said
    bonaparts said

    Why the fuck do u keep doing that?

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    Aug 11, 2015 11:41 AM GMT
    Three+ years ago I had a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). It was nearly deadly. A chunk of concrete fell from an interstate bridge over a city street and the chunk of concrete fell through my open car sunroof, hitting the crown of my head. It knocked me unconscious, shattered my skull and caused major brain and head damage. They had to do surgery to remove pieces of bone and other debris from my brain, as well as the clot, and left it open to relieve some of the pressure from the swelling of the brain. I was not expected to live. I was kept in a coma for about 2weeks. I did survive....I was put into physical and occupational therapy and worked with different neuro psychologist, councilors, etc. All through the many months of healing and recovery, I had no memory or the recent past, and had to rediscover that I was gay....It was strange. I am still recovering memories, I had to be essentially retrained to be me...going through the rediscovery of my being gay was interesting. It was innocent and initially just part of becoming me again.
    Things have changed for me. The memory is still damaged and I have a black hole in my memory. I am back at work, I am gay and DO ENJOY SEX, but have apparently switched from being a vers bottom to a top with a serious oral talent. LOL! So yeah, I have experienced loss of identity, orientation, etc and some things just take time to surface.It was strange that all of these people and specialist knew who I was and had a real good detailed knowledge of me...and knew that I was gay, but never told me...It was me coming out all over, to people that knew me already. The interview process of my family, coworkers and friends to get all of these parts of me must have been exhaustive...and they put it all back for the most part....When I went through Chemo last summer, I lost interest in any sex, but it was not the trauma that the TBI caused....