Dancing while taken

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    Aug 11, 2015 2:12 AM GMT
    Quick poll to get you guys opinion.

    Do you think it's wrong to dance with another guy when you're in a monogamous relationship? No kissing or any crap like that, just dancing.
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    Aug 11, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    A dance is fine. Now, if it's one of those grinding dances, that might not be a problem, but if it's just friendly dancing it's ok.
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    Aug 11, 2015 2:23 AM GMT
    Depends. As long as your ankles don't show and you have a proper chaperone it should be fine.
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    Aug 11, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    Wtf? Are you trying to invent problems that could ruin a relationship?

    If a dance is considered cheating, that is only a symptom of a doomed relationship, where one party has lost all trust and/or self confidence and then resorts to controlling behavior.
    My advice: RUN!
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    HolyHex001 said
    Do you think it's wrong to dance with another guy when you're in a monogamous relationship? No kissing or any crap like that, just dancing.

    Not wrong at all. So long as it's not done on the sly.

    I dance with our friends, with my husband watching, and he dances with them, too. We're friends, we don't feel threatened, all of us in secure relationships. We dance to have fun, and that's all it means to us.
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:34 AM GMT
    Don't make a big deal out of it or it will become a big deal.
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:49 AM GMT
    I don't do jealousy so dance with whoever you want. My problem is finding an honest guy. If you are open and honest with me, I'm game for most things.
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    Aug 11, 2015 11:42 AM GMT
    HolyHex001 saidDancing while taken. . .

    Taken while dancing--Now THAT's a problem icon_surprised.gif
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    Aug 11, 2015 12:13 PM GMT
    I mentioned we don't have trouble dancing with others. But my late partner did (during our time together we only used the "husband" term a few times among friends, since many of them did, although all of us weren't legally married back then).

    He was intensely jealous, as he himself admitted. One time while dancing he left the dance floor to get us drinks, and I continued by myself. The DJ started using flashing lights, and being epileptic I closed my eyes behind the sunglasses I wore on the dance floor for that purpose. Unseen by me was another guy who started to dance "with" me.

    All of a sudden I heard my husbear's (another term popular with our local friends) bass voice booming menacingly, just returned from the bar. Popping my eyes open I realized what had happened.

    Suddenly the dance floor became motionless, with the music still playing, all eyes on us, as he threatened the interloper with dragging him out into the parking lot for a beating. The scared guy literally ran away, and fortunately my own explanation was accepted, since I wasn't in the mood to get a beating myself that evening. The DJ played on and everyone resumed dancing.

    The lesson, at least with some men, is to clear it with him first before you go off dancing with another guy. It can be quiet innocent in your own mind, but not to a jealous husband, partner, BF or date. Assume nothing on your own, and ask your man first. Dancing with others could be perfectly OK, or it could trigger a big confrontation.
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    Aug 12, 2015 1:01 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidI don't do jealousy so dance with whoever you want. My problem is finding an honest guy...


    see how you are. I bet the partner would think you the honest guy if you asked first. Art_Deco is so correct.
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    Aug 12, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    JDuderrr said
    HolyHex001 saidDancing while taken. . .

    Taken while dancing--Now THAT's a problem icon_surprised.gif


    Since when? Dancing is often what one does on the vertical that one hopes very much will move to the horizontal later in the evening.
  • mar0302

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    Aug 12, 2015 9:03 AM GMT
    .. if you're worried about your guy dancing with someone else then you've got bigger issues..
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    Aug 12, 2015 3:04 PM GMT
    Being able to dance *at all* is my problem!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 12, 2015 5:14 PM GMT
    EVERY SO OFTEN I see an actual good dancer at a nightclub. And they are always dancing alone. The guys dancing with each other do some version of: jumping in place, step-tap-step-tap-nervous-look-step-tap, grind-twerk-hump.

    I figured it out. 1) The mating dances are frontal/dorsal. 2) The rave (drugged) dances are up/down. 3) The never-wanted-to-be-caught-dead-doing-this-oh-what-the-fuck dances are lateral. 4) The good dancers have to (must) move through all three axes of space, and there ain't no room for a partner (or klatch).

    When you dance with another guy (and you're going to be seen by your partner) you'd better be doing 3 or 4, you slut.

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    Aug 12, 2015 5:47 PM GMT
    livstud2001 saidBeing able to dance *at all* is my problem!icon_biggrin.gif


    Alcohol is a good cure for that
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    Aug 12, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    i'll be honest, i personally wouldn't like it and I'd be a little jealous because dancing with someone else is considered as flirting. i wouldn't do that to my partner, it's disrespectful.
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    Aug 12, 2015 11:53 PM GMT
    HolyHex001 said
    livstud2001 saidBeing able to dance *at all* is my problem!icon_biggrin.gif


    Alcohol is a good cure for that


    Haha! Isn't that just going to make me 'fall with style'? icon_lol.gif