Do you respond to all messages on Grindr

  • Matthew56

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    Aug 11, 2015 9:57 AM GMT
    Do you or ignore those that do not take your fancy
  • Aspruhaa

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    Aug 11, 2015 11:10 AM GMT
    I usually ignore the weird ones.
    Other than that I respond to everyone, if at least to tell the person politely that I'm not interested. icon_smile.gif
  • Muscles25

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    Aug 11, 2015 12:17 PM GMT
    NO. I'd spend all day there if I did. I don't respond to the weird ones, the ones without pics, the ones without filled out stats, the ones with no profile, or anyone who lists their body type as "average" or "slim" or "large."

    Other than that, I'll probably consider responding.
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    Aug 11, 2015 1:27 PM GMT
    This causes me great inner turmoil. I like to think I'm a nice guy, and try and respond to all messages; because I remember when I was that overweight ugly 18 year old just tryin' to find some lovin' and that feeling you get when some dude you think is great ignores or blocks you... I feel like it's me doing my tiny little part to raise the standard of gay interaction just a fraction across the board.

    That said, I don't tend to reply to one word messages, gross/nasty/rude shit, "pics?/looking?/Bottom?" (Even if the answer is Yes). If you say something nice, or ask a genuine question I'll reply regardless if they're my type or not.

    And I do get annoyed when I try and be nice and polite and people get bitchy about it. Isn't it better to say a polite "Thanks but not my type" etc. than just to ignore or block?

    It gets exhausting having this conversation inside my head with myself every time I get a message from somebody in whom I'm not interested, so I usually just block... it saves everybody's time and energy and data plan.icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 11, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    I always respond, if only to acknowledge the guy's effort. Too many guys on Grindr and other hook-up apps are exceedingly self-engrossed that they fail to understand how difficult it is for many guys to initiate conversation. Regardless of how we look now, every single one of us will get old, develop wrinkles, inevitably suffer from the effects of gravity, gain fat where tight muscles used to be, etc. When we're old and decrepit, some of us will realize how mean-spirited and disrespectful we've been towards others.
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:10 PM GMT
    What's grindr?
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:15 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI always respond, if only to acknowledge the guy's effort. Too many guys on Grindr and other hook-up apps are exceedingly self-engrossed that they fail to understand how difficult it is for many guys to initiate conversation. Regardless of how we look now, every single one of us will get old, develop wrinkles, inevitably suffer from the effects of gravity, gain fat where tight muscles used to be, etc. When we're old and decrepit, some of us will realize how mean-spirited and disrespectful we've been towards others.


    Preach it brother XD That is why one must capitalize on his youth before one gets old and wrinkly D:
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    Aug 11, 2015 3:49 PM GMT
    I anguish about this. As a well known civil rights activist, I'm of the firm belief that no one should feel less than, nor feel that they are alone in The World, and that everyone deserves a certain level of respect, and decorum. That being said, some folks are so crass, so lazy, so immature, so disrespectful, and so oblivious of what I consider social ques, sometimes, I end up blocking them.

    All that being said, if you've seen my Grindr profile it has my full name (Chuck Gudgel), accurate information, and I'm often at, or near the top of ratings sites (Highest on VGL app last week). I try to be kind, but, if you won't give me a full name, a decent picture and are generically creepy, I'll usually did you "You're not my type. Best of luck in your journey. Have great day. Good bye." That's often met with hateful remarks regarding a Napoleon complex, or steroids, or conceit, etc.

    My friend, who is half owner of The Dallas Voice, and I were discussing this one day. He said, "Just block them. It opens up more squares for decent people." He has a point but it goes against my nature of being kind.

    At the end of the day...I DON'T DO CREEPY. If you have low self acceptance, want in my ass, nameless, are a fat ass...etc., it's just not gonna' work.

    Become what you'd like to attract. You can tell me 500 times how hot I am, but, if you're a fat ass, I just don't feel the same way. That doesn't make me evil. That expresses that I'm human. Get over it. Your proclamation as gay is not a ticket into my bedroom.

    If you're a pictureless, headless, creep, that has low self acceptance, you won't like me, and I won't like you. I'm not your shrink.

    Lead. Empower. Never coddle.
  • hfx_velo

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    Aug 11, 2015 4:11 PM GMT
    I'll give polite replies to all but if one guy really stands out, I'll put more effort into my response for him. Nothing irks me more than if one puts more effort than a simple "hi" and gets not response.

    That and I will be honest to people straight up if I am interested in them or not. No one likes to be left hanging.
  • Muscles25

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    Aug 11, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    Anyone who has to say "as a well known civil rights activitist" isn't a well known civil rights activist. Saying that sounds so Donald Trump.

    I gave up being polite because you tend to get bitchiness back from the slim, fat, and average.

    I also won't respond if someone just texts a dick pic or says top or bottom without at least saying "hi" first.

    But I don't think I have to respond to people who are out of shape who contacting me. I'm sorry but I live in a realistic world, not a fantasy one. I've worked really hard on my body and I'm just not there for the enjoyment of those who don't do the same.

    Sorry
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 11, 2015 5:08 PM GMT
    I now have 439 unread messages on grindr. At this point scrolling through and trying to read them all is just...nah. And I'm not gonna just delete all my messages.
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    Aug 11, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    I answer about 50% of those messages.

    Part of it being that most messages are from people that I am not interested in (ok, so i usually say a little something because of the times I've been blatantly ignored and know the feeling) the other part being the ones that are just wierd. Then there are the ones that sent a week + ago when I wasnt on and most of them never get back at that point anyway(and 1 of them was someine I REALLY wishes I was there the answer initially :'( bleh. .....)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 11, 2015 6:18 PM GMT
    Nope, I answer 0% .. since I don't have nor have ever had a Grindr account. But if I did, I'd certainly answer only those that seemed to make the most sense. I don't answer all messages on other sites nor do I accept all FB friend requests.
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    Aug 11, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    Not really no, I respond to guys who I think are normal. Lol, I don't log on Grindr often, like twice a week.
  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 11, 2015 8:23 PM GMT
    I respond to all ,even guys who aren't my type ,or are in Egypt Jordan or Syria [that's what happened when u live in a small country] the only ones i don't answer are the fake ones [easy to spot]
  • Timbales

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    Aug 12, 2015 12:11 AM GMT
    unless someone is rude, yes I do
  • PRDGUY

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    Aug 12, 2015 12:17 AM GMT
    JeanDeau saidThis causes me great inner turmoil. I like to think I'm a nice guy, and try and respond to all messages; because I remember when I was that overweight ugly 18 year old just tryin' to find some lovin' and that feeling you get when some dude you think is great ignores or blocks you... I feel like it's me doing my tiny little part to raise the standard of gay interaction just a fraction across the board.

    That said, I don't tend to reply to one word messages, gross/nasty/rude shit, "pics?/looking?/Bottom?" (Even if the answer is Yes). If you say something nice, or ask a genuine question I'll reply regardless if they're my type or not.

    And I do get annoyed when I try and be nice and polite and people get bitchy about it. Isn't it better to say a polite "Thanks but not my type" etc. than just to ignore or block?

    It gets exhausting having this conversation inside my head with myself every time I get a message from somebody in whom I'm not interested, so I usually just block... it saves everybody's time and energy and data plan.icon_neutral.gif


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    Being new to Grindr this week... this sums up my feelings exactly! the worst ones are "I can be there in 5 minutes I want to suck you off" without any hello how are you doing -especially the ones at 330am!
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    Aug 12, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhat's grindr?

    it's the fem Tinder
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    Aug 12, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    Grindr is just for my personal amusement, so no, I don't answer all.
  • waccamatt

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    Aug 12, 2015 5:48 AM GMT
    If they're legitimate messages I'll respond. If they say, "looking", "'sup" or something like that, then I usually don't.
  • NursePractiti...

    Posts: 232

    Aug 12, 2015 8:28 AM GMT
    Most of grinder seems to be bots, porn ads and fake profiles lately. I quit using it. They need to start verification.
  • mystery905

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    Aug 12, 2015 8:54 AM GMT
    Yes, I do, even if only to respond with 'thanks for the greeting, but you're not my type'.

    I treat others the way I want to be treated.
  • mar0302

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    Aug 12, 2015 8:58 AM GMT
    I have loads of unread messages on grindr.. I can't be arsed to be honest... and if I message someone and don't get a response then it's clear that they're not interested.. life's too short to waste time on things like this.. find someone that responds and that you like too.
  • andreduce

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    Aug 12, 2015 9:42 AM GMT
    F**k no. Why the heck would you do that?
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    Aug 12, 2015 10:35 AM GMT
    I don't take it too seriously at all so don't bother replying to all the messages I receive.