Aug 11, 2015 9:57 AM GMT
Do you or ignore those that do not take your fancy
DOMINUS saidI always respond, if only to acknowledge the guy's effort. Too many guys on Grindr and other hook-up apps are exceedingly self-engrossed that they fail to understand how difficult it is for many guys to initiate conversation. Regardless of how we look now, every single one of us will get old, develop wrinkles, inevitably suffer from the effects of gravity, gain fat where tight muscles used to be, etc. When we're old and decrepit, some of us will realize how mean-spirited and disrespectful we've been towards others.
JeanDeau saidThis causes me great inner turmoil. I like to think I'm a nice guy, and try and respond to all messages; because I remember when I was that overweight ugly 18 year old just tryin' to find some lovin' and that feeling you get when some dude you think is great ignores or blocks you... I feel like it's me doing my tiny little part to raise the standard of gay interaction just a fraction across the board.
That said, I don't tend to reply to one word messages, gross/nasty/rude shit, "pics?/looking?/Bottom?" (Even if the answer is Yes). If you say something nice, or ask a genuine question I'll reply regardless if they're my type or not.
And I do get annoyed when I try and be nice and polite and people get bitchy about it. Isn't it better to say a polite "Thanks but not my type" etc. than just to ignore or block?
It gets exhausting having this conversation inside my head with myself every time I get a message from somebody in whom I'm not interested, so I usually just block... it saves everybody's time and energy and data plan.
paulflexes saidWhat's grindr?