I do I tell if the guy is with a date or a friend?

  • beanie123

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    Aug 15, 2015 11:37 PM GMT
    Hi everyone,

    So when I go to a regular bar, it's pretty simple when a girl is with her boyfriends or just friends. In this world, it's hard cuz that distinction isn't very clear. I see a few cute guys when I go out at night but I just don't know how to tell if the guy is with his friends or his date. Is there a good way to find it? If I need to ask, is it okay to walk up to him and ask? I know it's very rude to ask such question to a girl when she's with her boyfriend so want to be cautious here.

    Thanks for the help.
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:12 AM GMT
    Normally if the guy is very friendly his date or boyfriend will be mean mugging every dude who walks by
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 16, 2015 1:14 AM GMT
    If they are sucking face, you can safely assume they are on a date. If they are eyes are wandering every which way, they are out with their wing men.
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 16, 2015 2:18 AM GMT
    You could introduce yourself and ask "Would your friend mind if I bought you a drink?" If he says, "that's my boyfriend," then you could respond with, "oh, I guess I better not. Sorry to bother you!" And then you go on your merry way. Guaranteed no one will take offense to you asking politely like that.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 16, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    duh...ask the "friend".

    "...are you two together or is he single?" harmless enough.
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    Aug 16, 2015 5:05 PM GMT
    Why does it even matter?!

    Leave to the hetero creeps the old "can I offer you a drink" kind of approach. You're supposed to have a real, casual conversation starter -- one you could have with just anyone. Let his prosody and subtext tell you if he's interested. If mid conversation you realize he shows no curiosity, all you have to do is say you need to go to the bathroom.
  • beanie123

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    Aug 17, 2015 6:05 AM GMT
    Great, so I guess I can either ask the friend or offer the guy a drink. That sounds like a good start.

    Here is my next question--I'm pretty small and I am into much bigger guys. Normally guys would feel their ego hurt if a girl has to offer him a drink. Would this be an issue in my case?
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 17, 2015 8:16 AM GMT
    beanie123 saidGreat, so I guess I can either ask the friend or offer the guy a drink. That sounds like a good start.

    Here is my next question--I'm pretty small and I am into much bigger guys. Normally guys would feel their ego hurt if a girl has to offer him a drink. Would this be an issue in my case?


    Nope. Hardly anyone would take any offense if you offer him a drink. It may be a convo opener, which may or may not lead to 'other things'. So, do not assume that a guy who accepts your offer IS now really interested in jumping your bones. He may be open to some convo, and will move on as soon as someone more to his liking shows up, or he may choose to see if he and you can have some fun together.

    SC
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 17, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
    It's easy. Just get your wingman to trip one of them. Then you help him up and ask him if he's okay. Tell him he took quite a fall and if you'd only known you'd have been there to catch him. Eye contact. At this point, a boyfriend will cut in. If everyone stops and stares at the fairy tale unfolding in front of them, you have a single man.