please, need help and advice on this

  • goya_doya_111

    Posts: 4

    Aug 15, 2015 11:39 PM GMT
    hi all,

    so this is my first time posting in these forums, so here it goes. I'm a 21 year old gay guy who has recently gotten into this whole health and fitness thing.

    I was overweight for all of my teenage years, and wasn't very active either. I struggled a lot with different forms of disordered eating. becoming more comfortable with my sexuality made me more interested in losing weight, and I resorted to unhealthy methods to achieve this -- mostly restriction and binging.

    Since I started college, I did a lot of reflective work on myself and have faithfully tried to overcome my harmful eating habits. I did all of the things that people tell you makes you have healthy nutrition: I drink plenty of water, no soda or sugary beverages, avoid processed foods, eat plenty of fruits and veggies, and avoiding added sugar.

    When I got to college, I realized that I was missing a huge component of health and fitness in my life -- exercise. I've been working out off and on for two-three years now. I do basic cardio routines (i.e. treadmill / elliptical) but I am always embarrassed because I have to do very short interval training (2 mins run / 2 mins walk, etc.) due to low stamina. I have started to do basic weight training but I have very little idea as to what my goals are ... exercise has been so helpful for my overall mental and emotional health, but I feel like I am not actually getting the physical results that I want.

    Even after all of this, I am still hovering around 160-165 lbs (I am 5 feet 6-7 inches) as I always have since late high school. Now I am heading into my last year of college. I am so, so, so, so, SO sick of committing to losing weight or being healthy, and then putting in honest work and feeling like I am getting very little results. I tried to do P90x this summer but didn't really feel like I was getting anything out of it, and that it was hurting my joints, and that I didn't have the stamina to do most of the full workouts.

    I really don't want to keep doing workouts that are meaningless. Please, please, please, ANY advice you could give would be extremely helpful! I don't have the money for personal training or other expensive health things. I am just seeking simple, proven fitness routines or regimens that I can incorporate into what I'm already doing.
  • goya_doya_111

    Posts: 4

    Aug 15, 2015 11:41 PM GMT
    grrrrrr .... meant to post in "losing weight" forum. if someone could kindly move me that would be appreciated!
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:53 PM GMT
    goya_doya_111 saidhi all,

    so this is my first time posting in these forums, so here it goes. I'm a 21 year old gay guy who has recently gotten into this whole health and fitness thing.

    I was overweight for all of my teenage years, and wasn't very active either. I struggled a lot with different forms of disordered eating. becoming more comfortable with my sexuality made me more interested in losing weight, and I resorted to unhealthy methods to achieve this -- mostly restriction and binging.

    Since I started college, I did a lot of reflective work on myself and have faithfully tried to overcome my harmful eating habits. I did all of the things that people tell you makes you have healthy nutrition: I drink plenty of water, no soda or sugary beverages, avoid processed foods, eat plenty of fruits and veggies, and avoiding added sugar.

    When I got to college, I realized that I was missing a huge component of health and fitness in my life -- exercise. I've been working out off and on for two-three years now. I do basic cardio routines (i.e. treadmill / elliptical) but I am always embarrassed because I have to do very short interval training (2 mins run / 2 mins walk, etc.) due to low stamina. I have started to do basic weight training but I have very little idea as to what my goals are ... exercise has been so helpful for my overall mental and emotional health, but I feel like I am not actually getting the physical results that I want.

    Even after all of this, I am still hovering around 160-165 lbs (I am 5 feet 6-7 inches) as I always have since late high school. Now I am heading into my last year of college. I am so, so, so, so, SO sick of committing to losing weight or being healthy, and then putting in honest work and feeling like I am getting very little results. I tried to do P90x this summer but didn't really feel like I was getting anything out of it, and that it was hurting my joints, and that I didn't have the stamina to do most of the full workouts.

    I really don't want to keep doing workouts that are meaningless. Please, please, please, ANY advice you could give would be extremely helpful! I don't have the money for personal training or other expensive health things. I am just seeking simple, proven fitness routines or regimens that I can incorporate into what I'm already doing.



    Cardio is an ineffective way to build muscle. Switch to Paleo diet and adopt one of the 12 week workouts on here. You will see a huge difference in 12 weeks which will inspire you to stick with a sustainable life style.
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Aug 16, 2015 3:01 PM GMT

    Start walking everywhere... If your friends aren't thinking you're crazy, you aren't walking everywhere. Work out five times a week for an hour, even if that is just doing the machine circuit, infact that's a great start. Its what I did in college to pack on some muscle, but not be seen dropping weights on my feet.
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    Aug 16, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    I find it funny how many guys say that they can't afford a personal trainer. They're probably spending more money daily on junk food and candy than a personal trainer would charge for a year. I'm just saying. A well qualified professional fitness expert is at least worth the cost of the free first consultation.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 16, 2015 5:44 PM GMT
    You don't need fad diets or expensive trainers. Both may be good but they aren't necessary. You simply need to add muscle mass. Do that with additional protein and a lifting plan that challenges you. What that plan is depends on how many days/week you plan to work out. I'd suggest 4 or 5. Then divide up the days into chest, back, shoulders, and arms. Most will add legs and they are important but you probably are getting enough of that with your cardio. Find a source that explains different exercises broke down by muscle group and pick 4 or 5 different exercises for each muscle/day. Then do 4 sets of 10 for each. When you can easily do that, raise the weight. There are more sophisticated routines but start with this because it is simple. At your age, the testosterone should be flowing and you will get results fast. But not immediately. You will get tone quickly but size takes time, years. Learn to love it and you'll eventually get to where you want to be. Remember, it is a lifestyle, not an end goal.
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Aug 17, 2015 3:09 AM GMT
    You just need good ole fashion old school.
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  • goya_doya_111

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    Aug 18, 2015 5:45 PM GMT
    I'm not interested in gaining a lot of muscle mass. A moderate amount of muscle would be nice. But I'm not looking to "bulk up". I just want to be somewhere between lean and toned all around.

    Also, I'm not "wasting all of my money on junk food" ... I'm a broke college student who needs to be careful as to what I invest in. Go play with your expensive weight gadgets and gym subscription if it makes you feel better, but I'm going to stick with the free college gym membership and home workouts. icon_wink.gif

  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 18, 2015 6:00 PM GMT
    jimib saidI find it funny how many guys say that they can't afford a personal trainer. They're probably spending more money daily on junk food and candy than a personal trainer would charge for a year. I'm just saying. A well qualified professional fitness expert is at least worth the cost of the free first consultation.


    Considering a trainer costs you about $80-160+ a week, and most gym memberships charge bi-weekly, you're looking at $160-320+ every two weeks. That's not exactly affordable to most people. I could probably have a better diet without my trainer.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 18, 2015 7:47 PM GMT
    Nobody taught me how to work out.
    I did my own research, then taught myself how to do it.

    Do a little internet research to find exercises that show you how to develop the chest, arms, etc., then choose the exercises you like best.

    The most important thing is to learn the correct way to do each exercise.

    Decide on whether you want to work out 3 days a week (Monday, Wednesday, Friday), doing a couple exercises for each body part, or work out 4 days a week, Monday/Thursday and Tuesday/Friday, doing numerous exercises for each body part, but working, say, chest and shoulders on Monday/Thursday, and everything else on Tuesday/Friday.

    And do abs each day that you go to the gym.