It's hard to find a monogamous relationship.

  • Thegabriel

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    Aug 16, 2015 12:55 AM GMT
    It's only with me or everybody in this gay world are not up to relationship ? icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:09 AM GMT
    Its you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:22 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:39 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.


    I am certainly a victim or being picky. I don't necessarily want to be "upgraded", but I think gay men have a strong sense of self.
    I for myself based on the positive feedback that I may get tend to let it go to my head and get a skewed view of the one I truly deserve and am supposed to be with. Most of the gay interactions happening online make it easy to be dismissive or borderline rude, bc we don't see the human being at the other end.
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:54 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.
    LMAO so true!

    And the funny thing is a few of my straight friends say the same thing about the women they're chasing after.

    This could be the primary reason we see lots of attractive blokes with unattractive bitches. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 16, 2015 1:58 AM GMT
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.


    I am certainly a victim or being picky. I don't necessarily want to be "upgraded", but I think gay men have a strong sense of self.
    I for myself based on the positive feedback that I may get tend to let it go to my head and get a skewed view of the one I truly deserve and am supposed to be with. Most of the gay interactions happening online make it easy to be dismissive or borderline rude, bc we don't see the human being at the other end.


    lol are you a top?
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:05 AM GMT
    It's true, there are endless reasons for this. Yeah, I guess I'm one of those guys who's looking in all the wrong places. icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_confused.gif
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.


    I am certainly a victim or being picky. I don't necessarily want to be "upgraded", but I think gay men have a strong sense of self.
    I for myself based on the positive feedback that I may get tend to let it go to my head and get a skewed view of the one I truly deserve and am supposed to be with. Most of the gay interactions happening online make it easy to be dismissive or borderline rude, bc we don't see the human being at the other end.


    Aahhaha. where are you getting at?

    lol are you a top?
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:16 AM GMT
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.


    I am certainly a victim or being picky. I don't necessarily want to be "upgraded", but I think gay men have a strong sense of self.
    I for myself based on the positive feedback that I may get tend to let it go to my head and get a skewed view of the one I truly deserve and am supposed to be with. Most of the gay interactions happening online make it easy to be dismissive or borderline rude, bc we don't see the human being at the other end.


    Aahhaha. where are you getting at?

    lol are you a top?


    Tops are worshipped in the gay community. I am more of a bottom. I am pretty feminine acting, think like a woman and if I didn't have facial hair would be mistaken for a woman. Once I take this weight off I will once again look like samwell's brother



    With this facial hair I look more masculine and bottoms act like I am a damn god. If I enjoyed topping, I would be picky as fuck. I'd probably die single and lonely too, never finding a dude who was good enough.
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:16 AM GMT
    lol @ upgrade
    you don't get to upgrade till the service contract run out...

    Yep, OP
    --just you

    So as not to loose what little self respect you may have left, I highly suggest you do not type "Monogamous Relationship" in the Search profiles for the following text box on the main page; again, do not!
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:28 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle said
    FollowingRivers said
    MrFuscle saidIts you. Its not hard to find a monogamous gay relationship. Its hard to find one with the guys you are chasing after.


    You took the words right out of my mouth...But it is not the poster's fault. We are attracted to who we are...not our fault, they don't want to be exclusive or even interested in dating. Let's face it, our dating pool is pretty much a puddle.


    I agree with the puddle part. We have to take some responsibility for our situation. If you aren't out working out, being cultured and earning a large sum of money, you don't get to be picky. So many men are pickier than they realize. We may not get to choose who we are attracted to. Many off us subconsciously dismiss guys we would otherwise fall for because we are looking for a guy who will upgrade us by his mere presence.


    I am certainly a victim or being picky. I don't necessarily want to be "upgraded", but I think gay men have a strong sense of self.
    I for myself based on the positive feedback that I may get tend to let it go to my head and get a skewed view of the one I truly deserve and am supposed to be with. Most of the gay interactions happening online make it easy to be dismissive or borderline rude, bc we don't see the human being at the other end.


    Aahhaha. where are you getting at?

    lol are you a top?


    Tops are worshipped in the gay community. I am more of a bottom. I am pretty feminine acting, think like a woman and if I didn't have facial hair would be mistaken for a woman. Once I take this weight off I will once again look like samwell's brother



    With this facial hair I look more masculine and bottoms act like I am a damn god. If I enjoyed topping, I would be picky as fuck. I'd probably die single and lonely too, never finding a dude who was good enough.



    Ahaahahhahaha. Dude, that video made my night. Thanks a lot.
    Yes, I am a top indeed. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:40 AM GMT
    Finding a relationship monogamous or not is hard, period. It's fine if you want a monogamous relationship, but you have to not think about the sex aspect so much and think about finding someone that you simply enjoy being around. A roadblock to finding a relationship is overthinking things as opposed to just going with the flow.
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    sorry guys we got no biological clock. No rush
    concentrate on your self
    take some time.
    have fun

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    Aug 16, 2015 3:07 AM GMT
    pellaz saidsorry guys we got no biological clock. No rush
    concentrate on your self
    take some time.
    have fun



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    Aug 16, 2015 3:42 AM GMT
    Bigger question is, why does it matter to you what other people are doing in their relationships?
  • Nhlakz

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    Aug 16, 2015 2:32 PM GMT
    Since when is being picky a crime....what happened to going after ur heart..if it aint in it,then its not worth it...
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    Aug 16, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    Its the old remedy: be who you want to attract. What are you doing to precipitate a relationship? Where are you meeting guys? If your answer is Grindr, just stop. Get involved in gay groups with like minded individuals, like a gay chapter of Toast Masters, I thought I'd wondered into a speed dating club when I first went to one. Try gay movie groups or join a gay sport team. This will attract men of a certain mindset.

    When you go out on a date, where are you choosing to go? I know, dinners and movies - try a picnic, try a Supper Club, or a piano bar. Choose places that tell the guy that you're wanting a romantic evening for the purpose of getting to know him. He'll either fight or flight, but atleast he'll know.

    I think dating can be like communications in the media. The more people who know you want a certain thing, the more well known you become. If you become known as the romantic guy with a heart of gold, men looking for that will drift toward you while sluts and party animals will drift away.
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    Aug 16, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    Thegabriel saidIt's only with me or everybody in this gay world are not up to relationship ? icon_eek.gif


    Advertise for a monogamous relationship rather than pursue hookups. There are tons of guys that want them. But notice that model level hot guys on here are single, there is a reason for that.
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    Aug 16, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    Nhlakz saidSince when is being picky a crime....what happened to going after ur heart..if it aint in it,then its not worth it...


    There's nothing wrong with being picky! It's the whining that gets on people's nerves.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Aug 16, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    Sure, monogamous relationships are both possible, and seemingly desirable by a few men.

    The difficult part is associated with the fact that you are fighting against the hard wiring of most (not all) men out there who happen to be naturally promiscuous. Now, add the universal and easy availability of m2m, enhanced by the latest apps to your equation, and your struggle becomes an even more challenging one.

    Are you really focusing on monogamy or on your partner?

    SC
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    Aug 16, 2015 5:17 PM GMT
    Yep, it's you. I've never had a problem finding guys who want to be in monogamous relationships, but then again I've always gone for good guys with level heads on their shoulders. I'm not attracted to the self absorbed, gotta have a six pack, guns, and bubble butt muscle Mary's, the flighty pop culture, club kid, queeny twinks, or the ├╝ber macho, ultra macho, straight acting leather dudes. Those guys are just caricatures of real human beings. I like real people - average decent guys. There are tons of those out there.

    P.S. You don't have to play the game if you don't want.
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    Aug 16, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
    It's hard, not impossible.
  • TheBaise

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    Aug 16, 2015 11:15 PM GMT
    Gay men were never meant to stick to hetero-normative behavior. Sticking to one guy just isn't natural. We should be free to love or have sex with anyone we want.
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    Aug 17, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
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    Thegabriel saidIt's only with me or everybody in this gay world are not up to relationship ? icon_eek.gif


    Advertise for a monogamous relationship rather than pursue hookups. There are tons of guys that want them. But notice that model level hot guys on here are single, there is a reason for that.


    This.

    And it's not hard to find a relationship, it's just hard to find one with a guy you think looks perfect. If you want a monogamous relationship that badly, you'll have to drastically lower the physical standards you have in a partner.