Jockbod48 saidFiguring a tip is the easiest thing to do when you leave them 20% (which is normal for good service in a good place in these times). So - for every $10.00, just leave $2.00. A $50.00 tab = a $10.00 tip. The only time I would consider leaving less, is if the server was showing a poor attitude or ignoring us. That rarely ever happens though. Most servers are great people who work very hard and deserve 20%. When the server is really trying, I leave more than 20%.
Do you know we've invited some of our regular servers over to our home for dinner? Which of course WE served to THEM. LOL! And we've been to some of their homes.
As soon as we sit at the table of a new eatery where we haven't been before, or at a regular place but with a new server, or a new bartender, we introduce ourselves, often with a handshake and always a big smile. I know I come across here as just the opposite, but in person, in real life, I treat everyone with warm respect.
With the result that most of the other servers on duty but who are not at our table, will nevertheless come over and say hello. I'll always stand up to greet them, unless it's a really "ritzy" place where I know the management frowns upon those displays.
We'll hug, usually kiss (man or woman), talk about stuff since we last met. Someone who serves me, who waits on me, deserves my respect & appreciation, not my disdain. My parents, bless them, drilled that into me.
If my Mother ever caught me as a kid being disrespectful to a server (waiter/waitress back then), or any kind of blue-collar worker, she'd snap at me: "Robert, you're not better than anyone else. Everyone is equal to you. Apologize and behave yourself!" Her words still echo in my ears.