PhoenixNYC saidYes, I do feel this way at times. Mostly because my partner and I have the same friends and I can't talk to them about relationship problems....so I just keep it all to myself. I'd like to be able to open up to someone.
Talk to your partner about relationship problems. I'd be furious to learn my partner was talking to anyone other than me about our relationship. If you can't talk to your partner, why is he your partner?
OP, I too do not have many gay friends. I enjoy the RJ forums because it somehow makes me feel connected to the community.
My partners were also my best friends and I could discuss with them anything. But also I most certainly did talk to other friends and family about our relationship. In developing my thinking I found it real helpful to bounce my ideas off as many people as I could to get their perspective. I don't think that violates an intimacy. I think that enhances it, especially when you are younger and trying figure shit out. Otherwise you can just get wrapped up in the other person's reality, maybe even living a shared delusion.
The more you look from different angles the more you see what's really there. That doesn't mean I won't reject some bullshit opinion and by now it might seem out of hand but I'll at least, for whatever time it was worth--the time to snuff it out, for instance haha--have considered it.
In fact, thinking back with this topic in mind, when my betraying cousin destroyed our relationship at a time when she was destroying many of them--just months before me she screwed her own brother--for a few years before that she had stopped talking about her relationships as was her usual pattern. And I think by a guy who got real upset to learn that she was talking about their relationship. She went from discussing everything to discussing nothing personal. That's right about when she imploded, when the worst of her--which was always evident but somewhat tolerable--took over what redeeming good was there.
Here's a sad story but I think it well illustrates the point...http://www.autismdailynewscast.com/teenage-girl-autism-dies-heart-attack-following-chronic-constipation/28876/adn/
St Austell, Cornwall, UK – This week an inquest heard that a teenage girl with autism sadly died from a heart attack that was caused by chronic constipation. The sixteen-year-old girl had gone three months without having a bowel movement.