In general, why aren't (hot) White gay guys attracted to Asian gay guys?

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    Aug 18, 2015 12:07 PM GMT
    Hello! I've just applied for an account and this is my first post here, so sorry if this kind of topic is repeated. Well, according to my personal experience on Planetromeo, for example, it is mostly old White guys that approach me. Only sometimes do I get a contact from a handsome (young) White guy. And it seems that many other Asian guys have a similar experience. So, this means that we aren't their type? I also wonder why. Thanks for sharing your opinion. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 18, 2015 12:24 PM GMT
    It's because you're black.
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    Aug 18, 2015 1:48 PM GMT
    White guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.
  • beanie123

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    Aug 18, 2015 3:27 PM GMT
    If you are into shallow, one-night-stand type jocks, then I have no recommendations for you.

    Hot white guys can be into Asian guys but you have to get over the barrier in their subconscious. When it comes to approaching strangers, people are naturally comfortable with the appearance that they are used to. I'm not referring to living in multicultural cities like New York and LA. Even in these places your main interactions are with your family (same race), relatives (same race) and friends from school (most likely same race). The social barriers have come down but people are still hardheaded where political correctness doesn't apply. You might think this is just a problem with Asian people. Some white people also complain about why Asian people only stick to themselves. They just aren't as vocal about it to remain PC.

    That being said, I don't think people are racist or xenophobic. If you follow the general rules of dating for interracial relationships, I'm sure you will be able to get along with someone you are looking for.

    You probably know your "level" with Asian people, but think about what is your level in a pool of white people. Being visibly different gives a challenge because you may not have facial/body structure that other people view as sexy or attractive. I'm going to generalize a bit but most white people and Asian people like blondes with defined facial structure with a toned body. Now, how common is this among white people? I would say about 10%. How about with Asians? Take the blonde out of the equation and I would say still less than 1%.

    Don't have round eyes, long lashes, pointy nose or muscle body? Too bad. Accept it and think about other ways you can raise your level. Many women marry older men not just because of their money--older men are more experienced, understanding, and accommodating to the needs of their significant others. You need to think about what you have that is beyond the looks. Just to make another point, being attractive doesn't keep the relationship going. You have to be able to carry on a conversation, and this is usually the harder part.

    Common interests always help. Think about what you enjoy doing, and see if any of them overlap with common white guy hobbies. Most white people are heavily into sports. Do you follow Tom Brady trial? Did you know football preseason started? How is your home baseball team doing? Are you aware that there is a record number of no-hitters in this season? Do you play golf or tennis? Do you know who just won the PGA championship for the first time in his life? Do you know who won the latest Open? BTW, this is not just a dating tip, you should know this for your personal friendship or business relationships.

    The bottom line is, if you want to date a white guy, you need to let him know you are no different than other white guys.
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    Aug 18, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    It's the smell of fish sauce, kimchi, and/or rotten sushi. Yeah, that's it.
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    Aug 18, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
    David666k saidWhite guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.


    You're a fucking idiot.
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    Aug 18, 2015 6:35 PM GMT
    Being said
    David666k saidWhite guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.

    You're a fucking idiot.

    Aww, the poor idiots get no respect around here.
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    Aug 18, 2015 10:37 PM GMT
    Being said
    David666k saidWhite guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.


    You're a fucking idiot.


    Excuse me?! Since when helping the helpless is to be a fuckin idiot? Oh wait, you probably want all the white guys for yourself. You're so greedy, shame on you.
  • Zigs_01

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    Aug 18, 2015 10:51 PM GMT
    I have ponder this question for a long time myself. There are some few ideas floating around why white guys don't date Asian guys. Asian males probably don't fit the idea of masculinity to people. Unfortunate for them.
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:43 AM GMT
    Hum, I visited Seattle and they were A LOT of White/Asian couples Gay/Str8...Maybe it has to do with your location(?)
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    Aug 19, 2015 4:25 PM GMT
    I'm just going to say it like it is.
    For most gay men, not all but most, they do not find Asians attractive.
    If a guy does, more often than not it's labelled as a fetish than it is a normal attraction, and more often than not the white guys that do like Asians are actually looking for some kind of stereotype (I'm just going to say it; a "submissive" type, or a "fem" type for example).
    Again not always the case but I'd say a vast number of them would be.

    Even if an Asian guy is attractive, the context in which that sentence follows is normally ..."for an Asian" (i.e. hot "for an Asian").

    I find that unless the white guy is actually looking for a stereotype Asian, more often than not white guys in general are just not into Asians.
    Of course there are always exceptions but considering the dating pool of gay men is more like a puddle, I'd say the 'exceptional' cases are rather quite few and far between.

    What puzzles me even more so is that knowing and experiencing this kind of rejection, there are still Asians who worship white men.
    That's the last thing I would do but whatever to each their own.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 19, 2015 4:52 PM GMT
    ^^^^Must be horrible to be you. What a sick fuck you are.
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    Aug 19, 2015 5:17 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said^^^^Must be horrible to be you. What a sick fuck you are.


    Boo hoo the truth hurts.
    That aside I'm not even Caucasian or Asian so don't think this is coming from a white or Asian person.

    You can call bullshit on what I just said but you'd only be lying to yourself.
    It's not always the case but it's often enough that it's noticeable not by just me but from anyone who actually takes the time to notice and see.

    I said it not spitefully but factually.
    That is the reality for a lot of gay Asian men, even looking at these forums should educate you.
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    Aug 19, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    David666k said
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    David666k saidWhite guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.


    You're a fucking idiot.


    Excuse me?! Since when helping the helpless is to be a fuckin idiot? Oh wait, you probably want all the white guys for yourself. You're so greedy, shame on you.


    First off, you're not helping Asian men with your moronic suggestions. Secondly, I don't want a white guy. I'm more into Asians than white guys, and I am bottom.
  • CheeseKraut

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    Aug 19, 2015 8:19 PM GMT
    For me, I like big blonde guys.
    It's purely physical.
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    Aug 20, 2015 11:02 AM GMT
    Whats wrong with old white guys? You want cake and Ice Cream? Too bad, Ice Cream hasn't melted yet. Either take what you have, or wait until the Ice Cream melts. Hope you understand what I mean.

    Best of luck.
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    Aug 22, 2015 3:40 AM GMT
    David666k saidWhite guys are only into asians for the kinky stuff, so make sure to tell your next white love interest that you want to become a ladyboy, thats the only chance you have if you wanna be worthy of a white guy attention.


    Seriously. One Asian guy wanted me to fuck him while he kept his lacy thong on and called me daddy in a little girls voice. It was an interesting evening.

    Actually, I find attractive men in all races and ethnic groups.
  • Sam_mas

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    Aug 22, 2015 9:00 PM GMT
    This. All this. So racist. -,-
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    Aug 22, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    Don't worry buddy. There are so many vain and conceited 'Schmuck's' on this Chat-Site. I hardly get any messages, or it seems no one is serious in finding true love. So it seems we are in the same boat.
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    Aug 23, 2015 12:07 AM GMT
    I have a weakness for handsome Asian men but i'm black so I probably don't count. I see how it is lol.
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    Sep 08, 2015 9:53 AM GMT
    Excellent advice!

    If you're trying to get a quick hookup, you'll have to learn to accept the cruel rejections of hot white guys. That to me is simply the rule of the game. And they may do the same to other white guys who they don't find attractive enough.

    Generally I haven't really had problems dating white guys who are nice, sportive and around my age. I found it was a bit more about finding mutual interests to keep the conversation going.

    beanie123 was right about knowing your "level". And if you can't compete using your muscles, do it with your head. Education is sexy too, and intellectual (hot) guys do initiate a conversation with Asian guys. If there's something that he admires/ curious about you, chances that you'll end up meeting each other.



    beanie123 saidIf you are into shallow, one-night-stand type jocks, then I have no recommendations for you.

    Hot white guys can be into Asian guys but you have to get over the barrier in their subconscious. When it comes to approaching strangers, people are naturally comfortable with the appearance that they are used to. I'm not referring to living in multicultural cities like New York and LA. Even in these places your main interactions are with your family (same race), relatives (same race) and friends from school (most likely same race). The social barriers have come down but people are still hardheaded where political correctness doesn't apply. You might think this is just a problem with Asian people. Some white people also complain about why Asian people only stick to themselves. They just aren't as vocal about it to remain PC.

    That being said, I don't think people are racist or xenophobic. If you follow the general rules of dating for interracial relationships, I'm sure you will be able to get along with someone you are looking for.

    You probably know your "level" with Asian people, but think about what is your level in a pool of white people. Being visibly different gives a challenge because you may not have facial/body structure that other people view as sexy or attractive. I'm going to generalize a bit but most white people and Asian people like blondes with defined facial structure with a toned body. Now, how common is this among white people? I would say about 10%. How about with Asians? Take the blonde out of the equation and I would say still less than 1%.

    Don't have round eyes, long lashes, pointy nose or muscle body? Too bad. Accept it and think about other ways you can raise your level. Many women marry older men not just because of their money--older men are more experienced, understanding, and accommodating to the needs of their significant others. You need to think about what you have that is beyond the looks. Just to make another point, being attractive doesn't keep the relationship going. You have to be able to carry on a conversation, and this is usually the harder part.

    Common interests always help. Think about what you enjoy doing, and see if any of them overlap with common white guy hobbies. Most white people are heavily into sports. Do you follow Tom Brady trial? Did you know football preseason started? How is your home baseball team doing? Are you aware that there is a record number of no-hitters in this season? Do you play golf or tennis? Do you know who just won the PGA championship for the first time in his life? Do you know who won the latest Open? BTW, this is not just a dating tip, you should know this for your personal friendship or business relationships.

    The bottom line is, if you want to date a white guy, you need to let him know you are no different than other white guys.
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    Sep 08, 2015 12:08 PM GMT
    This thread title does start: "In general..." Which is good, because limited observation and anecdotal reports are not the same as legitimate studies. Such individual cases can also show the opposite story about cross-racial attraction.

    For instance, just last night some friends of ours called and wondered if we'll have our usual Key West 2-bedroom suite in November, when they'll be down there for the SMART Ride. Sure, join us we told them.

    That's a reason we always get that suite, to accommodate spillovers and unexpected room "orphans".

    They're legally married, one guy Asian, the other of northern European heritage. We attended their wedding & reception, when they decided to get married after 15 years together.

    Black was also mentioned in this thread. Our White neighbor across the condo hallway from us just took in a new Black BF (I will admit he goes through them about 1 a year or so, but always Black). On Saturday they brought in a new flat screen TV for their bedroom. I know this because we share a satellite TV dish, and connection updates were made.

    On Sunday we were at a restaurant confirming their banquet proposal for January, 2016. At one of the large tables for 10 as we entered the diners were Black, White, and Asian, I presume everyone gay.

    We simply don't see racial divisions where we live. But then the counter argument is that the problem is what you DON'T see, and where you don't live. Which to my mind only proves the weakness of anecdotal evidence either way, versus qualified, verifiable studies.
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    Sep 08, 2015 12:40 PM GMT
    DryMoan saidI'm just going to say it like it is.
    For most gay men, not all but most, they do not find Asians attractive.
    If a guy does, more often than not it's labelled as a fetish than it is a normal attraction, and more often than not the white guys that do like Asians are actually looking for some kind of stereotype (I'm just going to say it; a "submissive" type, or a "fem" type for example).
    Again not always the case but I'd say a vast number of them would be.

    Even if an Asian guy is attractive, the context in which that sentence follows is normally ..."for an Asian" (i.e. hot "for an Asian").

    I find that unless the white guy is actually looking for a stereotype Asian, more often than not white guys in general are just not into Asians.
    Of course there are always exceptions but considering the dating pool of gay men is more like a puddle, I'd say the 'exceptional' cases are rather quite few and far between.

    What puzzles me even more so is that knowing and experiencing this kind of rejection, there are still Asians who worship white men.
    That's the last thing I would do but whatever to each their own.

    Dumb people are funny, sometimes.
    When someone starts anything with "for most gay men" you already know you are dealing with a low IQ shallow sad little girl.
    So, while you don't make any rational points, you do allow the rest of the posters on this site to see you as a dope and a moron. Thank you for that. Now, go back to playing with your inadequate wiener and eating poop.
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    Sep 08, 2015 2:27 PM GMT
    DryMoan saidI'm just going to say it like it is.
    For most gay men, not all but most, they do not find Asians attractive.
    If a guy does, more often than not it's labelled as a fetish than it is a normal attraction, and more often than not the white guys that do like Asians are actually looking for some kind of stereotype (I'm just going to say it; a "submissive" type, or a "fem" type for example).
    Again not always the case but I'd say a vast number of them would be.

    Even if an Asian guy is attractive, the context in which that sentence follows is normally ..."for an Asian" (i.e. hot "for an Asian").

    I find that unless the white guy is actually looking for a stereotype Asian, more often than not white guys in general are just not into Asians.
    Of course there are always exceptions but considering the dating pool of gay men is more like a puddle, I'd say the 'exceptional' cases are rather quite few and far between.

    What puzzles me even more so is that knowing and experiencing this kind of rejection, there are still Asians who worship white men.
    That's the last thing I would do but whatever to each their own.




    Hey, I stumbled upon a picture of your boyfriend. You make a really beautiful couple icon_wink.gif

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    Sep 08, 2015 3:34 PM GMT
    I'm guessing because asian guys are lacking of facial hair, thus it is deemed as "not masculine".

    I used to be potato queen until I used scruff and teleporting everywhere and looked people in the world. everyone is beautiful on their own!

    now I only date guys who have facial hairs though whatever their ethnicity and I prefer nerds over muscular guys.

    to my experience, local white expats are the worst people you could ever meet in dating scene. now I avoid dating white guys in non-white environment because when a race is scarce, you are commodified and tend to act like cleopatra.