Would you (or have you) ever date a "born again Christian"?

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    Aug 18, 2015 3:50 PM GMT
    What I mean by "born again..." is those Christians who try to live up to every word and command that God gave us.

    I'm personally going through one right now, and I find that it requires a lot of patience. I can never seem to figure them out because they're actions are so contradicting... Definitely a roller coaster...
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    Aug 18, 2015 4:01 PM GMT
    Dating victims of serious mind control experiments?

    HELL NO (see Manchurian Candidate or David Koresh)












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    Aug 18, 2015 4:04 PM GMT
    It would depend on that guy's definition of Christian faith. If his spirituality is dictated by every word in the bible, then the answer is no.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 18, 2015 4:22 PM GMT
    My ex wife got into the born again bullshit. I guess I should have seen it coming with a family history of mental illness and AA. I can ignore religion but these people not only feel the need to testify all the damn time but they also have a smug, superior attitude that will push you beyond your limits. It's a cult.
  • zalcland

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    Aug 18, 2015 4:23 PM GMT
    Being spiritual and not religious myself, I could not mesh well with someone who quotes the bible everyday. Yes, Jesus loves you. We get it.
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    Aug 18, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    Iokepa saidWhat I mean by "born again..." is those Christians who try to live up to every word and command that God gave us.

    I'm personally going through one right now, and I find that it requires a lot of patience. I can never seem to figure them out because they're actions are so contradicting... Definitely a roller coaster...


    Wouldn't that be more of an orthodox Christian? You would be better off stating the person's denomination instead of using phrases that can mean different things to different people. Also what actions are contradicting. Are you having problems with how he treats you or are you having problems accepting his view of the world.
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    Aug 18, 2015 4:28 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidMy ex wife got into the born again bullshit. I guess I should have seen it coming with a family history of mental illness and AA. I can ignore religion but these people not only feel the need to testify all the damn time but they also have a smug, superior attitude that will push you beyond your limits. It's a cult.


    One of the phrases that I can't stand to hear from these people is "love the sinner, hate the sin." It's pure BS.
  • metta

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    Aug 18, 2015 4:44 PM GMT
    The only 'born again's' that I have met were really messed up in the head. Their religion made them think that they were sinners doing evil acts. They looked down on gay people, even though they are gay themselves. So from what I have seen, no, I would not be attracted to that. One guy thought it was ok to....well...lets just say we are not friends any more.
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    Aug 18, 2015 4:53 PM GMT
    Only if he's a filthy rich televangelist. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 18, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
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    Aug 18, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    I think if I wanted to date a cult member, I'd probably go with scientology because those closet cases are a lot more crazy in bed.
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    Aug 18, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    what a waste of time icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 18, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    I did and he was really really hot and fun to be with. Still, never in my wildest imagination would I have predicted that I would ever date a guy who didn't believe that humans evolved from apes.
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    Aug 18, 2015 11:04 PM GMT
    How can someone reconcile being born again and remain an active homosexual? Most born again christians would be seriously skeptical of an actively practicing homosexual's claims of being born again.

    In my struggles to come to terms with my sexual orientation I threw myself into the religion of my youth. I just knew that if I was the best Roman Catholic - fasted, prayed, weekly confession, daily mass and communion - god would hear my pleas and change me. After decades - yes I said decades - I got up the courage to be who I naturally am.

    I've abandoned the religion of my youth but I sometimes feel the pull.
  • jeepguySD

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    Aug 19, 2015 12:04 AM GMT
    I did have a relationship with a man who became a born again Christian. Our relationship started before he was "saved." After he was saved he claimed that God had "cured" him of his "lusts." This ended our romantic relationship.

    As others have already pointed out, his "salvation" was very painful for both of us. Not only did I lose the man of my dreams (he was literally my perfect man before he was saved), but I saw him torture himself with feelings of guilt and shame over his sexuality. Although he claimed that he had been cured of his lusts, it was obvious that he was still attracted to me, and when he felt those "sinful" urges he would spiral downward believing that his faith was not strong enough, and that he was not fulfilling his relationship with God. It was very, very hard to watch this wonderful man beat himself up, deny himself, emotionally torture himself over his self-perceived failures to live by "God's word." Naturally, his new born-again friends only reinforced these self-destructive feelings. They often tried to drive a wedge between us, sometimes with some success, though he mostly resisted their interference.

    I still love him very much, and he tells me all the time that he loves me and that he feels very lucky to have me in his life -- but now just as a close friend, not as a lover. If he moderated his religious beliefs and wanted a romantic relationship with me again I would definitely do that because, as I have stated, I still love him very much. However, I do not think I would ever enter into a new relationship with someone else who was already born again. I would be afraid of deep emotional harm to both of us resulting from the contradictions between his faith and our life together.
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    Aug 19, 2015 12:10 AM GMT
    No
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    Destinharbor saidMy ex wife got into the born again bullshit. I guess I should have seen it coming with a family history of mental illness and AA. I can ignore religion but these people not only feel the need to testify all the damn time but they also have a smug, superior attitude that will push you beyond your limits. It's a cult.




    That is what happened to my younger, now tea party, married a Baptist preachers son, sister. Her drug and alcohol problem as a teen, along with her brief stay in rehab, then being seduced by the 'saved by Jesus' crowd to remove her addictions and be 'saved by you know who'. I saw her once, 'perform an exorcism' on a door walking Jehovah Witness, she literally made them cry at the door with her christian point of view. icon_lol.gif

    Her first born son, now 21, with her religious husband, while under the Jesus, tea party influence, has been serving 2 years in a prison rehab program for home invasion, breaking, entering larceny. Lets hope he finds Jesus too, like his mother did icon_rolleyes.gif

    I am so embarrassed, as my nephew is the first in my entire family to serve prison time. Crazy religious mother influence? I think so
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:41 AM GMT
    I don't "believe", so I rather not deal with the microaggressions.
  • Breeman

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    Aug 19, 2015 6:32 AM GMT
    I've been through it. Good luck with that. It's just as bad as living with an alcoholic - maybe even worse. You can't have a normal conversation with them with Jesus or God being included. Hopefully they level out and you can keep you're sanity.
  • Nhlakz

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    Aug 19, 2015 8:17 AM GMT
    Christianity is not a porblem..but the people are the problem...they very bad liars and always up to no good mind games.
  • hebrewman

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    Aug 19, 2015 10:40 AM GMT
    FUCK NO.
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    Aug 19, 2015 9:29 PM GMT
    HEBREWMAN saidFUCK NO.
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  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 19, 2015 9:42 PM GMT
    would such a guy date a jew? icon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gif
  • UVaRob9

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    Aug 20, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    Ashdod saidwould such a guy date a jew? icon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gif


    I've dated Jewish guys before. Reform and Conservative really don't get into the Leviticus stuff the way born-again Christians do (irony?) and they also didn't give me shit about being atheist.
  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 20, 2015 7:58 AM GMT


    the ultra orthodox are always closeted married cases,the modern religions as well ,only recently young modern religious [ orthodox of course not much reforms and conservatives Jews in Israel] formed a group called ''hod'' and try to live an open religious and gay life.