Who else has lost a large amount of weight?

  • david_lane

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    Aug 18, 2015 6:34 PM GMT
    I'm curious...I've lost a substantial amount of weight in the last 8 months but I have a hard time adjusting mentally. I see it in the way my clothes fit and when I look at old photos, but I still think of myself as the 55lbs heavier guy.
    My question is to those who have lost a similar amount of weight in as short an amount of time...did you have as hard of a time adjusting to the loss, rebuilding your confidence, and seeing yourself differently?
    Bring on the input!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • SeanMoreM

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    Aug 19, 2015 2:06 AM GMT
    Between December Of 2013 And August Of 2015, I Have Lost 63 Pounds. I Lost The Weight Because I Had To. In May Of 2013,I Learned That Both My Parents Passed Down To Me The Hereditary Illnesses; Liver Disease,Thyroid Disease, And Degenerative Spine Disease.I Chose To Take A Proactive Stance In Regards To My Health. I Cleaned Up My Diet,I Walked Two Miles A Day,Started Working With Weights.For Me,It Was All About Overcoming The Illnesses. Living A Healthier Lifestyle Meant;Breathing More Easily,Sleeping Better,Better Self Esteem,Improved Self Image. I Work Hard Every Day To Maintain A Healthier Body. Try Focusing More On The Benefits Of Your New Healthy Lifestyle. And Less On The Fear Of Reoccurring Unhealthy Living.This Is What Your Battling.Many Blessings.
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    Aug 19, 2015 2:25 AM GMT
    Define "large" amount of weight. I lost 70 lbs, and know people who've lost over 100 lbs.
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    Aug 19, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
    I lost over 240 lbs.......and yeah the mental side is much slower to "re calibrate" the new smaller you....on average 3 to 6 years...depending on how dramatic the change is.... lots of variables that go into this equation and they are all uniquely personal.icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 3:18 AM GMT
    Sporty_G saidI lost over 240 lbs.......and yeah the mental side is much slower to "re calibrate" the new smaller you....on average 3 to 6 years...depending on how dramatic the change is.... lots of variables that go into this equation and they are all uniquely personal.icon_cool.gif
    Out of curiosity, what was your starting weight? Mine was 235 lbs. I'd be lighter than helium if I lost as much as you did. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 3:49 AM GMT
    Even 20 lbs can make a difference. 20lbs may not seem like a lot, but it is. It can be the tip of obese. Fortunately, when I shift the fat loss off, I kept my muscle memory.....

    This happened a few years back when all I did was work. Now, I work it even harder.....

    Congrats to everyone who has taken on the challenge to look fit and feel great. I am proud of you. It's never easy to get your lifestyle under control.
  • WCROC

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    Aug 19, 2015 5:50 AM GMT
    I've lost over 100lbs and it takes awhile for that mentality to go away, from not only my own personal experience but other friends who have also gone through weight lost. I still have trouble with that mentality, but I believe you will overcome it.
  • Crisistunity

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    Aug 19, 2015 8:59 AM GMT
    When I was 16 I weighed 220 lbs. I had always been nice to everyone and I used to be very thoughful and considerate towards people (not saying that I'm not anymore icon_lol.gif ) and it brought me many friends who said they "liked me a lot". icon_biggrin.gif

    By the time I turned 18, I had slimmed down 70 lbs, I acted the same way, but then I saw myself forced to have awkward conversations with girls who claimed they had fallen in love with me. icon_eek.gif

    I even went to the cinema in December of that year with a girl I met in college who said she "liked me", as many others had told me before her, I said I liked her too, she was very nice and fun to hang out with. Right after that, she kissed me and I was puzzled. icon_redface.gif

    It took me a long time to realize that people had changed the image they had of me, I was no longer the kind fat guy who everybody "liked" in a way I understood, but a gentle guy they had started seeing as a potential partner, and "like" began to mean something more than it had meant for me all along. icon_idea.gif

    I stopped being so courteous and a bit more distant so people wouldn't mistake politeness for romantic interest.

    It is the way people treat you what makes you change the way you act.
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    Aug 19, 2015 10:28 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Sporty_G saidI lost over 240 lbs.......and yeah the mental side is much slower to "re calibrate" the new smaller you....on average 3 to 6 years...depending on how dramatic the change is.... lots of variables that go into this equation and they are all uniquely personal.icon_cool.gif
    Out of curiosity, what was your starting weight? Mine was 235 lbs. I'd be lighter than helium if I lost as much as you did. icon_lol.gif


    started around 455. I had a hard time getting a scale that would weigh me....
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    Aug 19, 2015 11:01 AM GMT
    I lost 65 lbs over the course of a year or 2 about 5 ago now.
    I had to have surgery and had a hick up in my relationship so swayed from the gym a bit but back on track now.
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    Sporty_G said
    paulflexes said
    Sporty_G saidI lost over 240 lbs.......and yeah the mental side is much slower to "re calibrate" the new smaller you....on average 3 to 6 years...depending on how dramatic the change is.... lots of variables that go into this equation and they are all uniquely personal.icon_cool.gif
    Out of curiosity, what was your starting weight? Mine was 235 lbs. I'd be lighter than helium if I lost as much as you did. icon_lol.gif


    started around 455. I has a hard time getting a scale that would weigh me....
    Wow! Congrats on such incredible progress! Do you have any before/after pics?
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:46 PM GMT
    S60turbo saidI lost 65 lbs over the course of a year or 2 about 5 ago now.
    I had to have surgery and had a hick up in my relationship so swayed from the gym a bit but back on track now.
    I remember the relationship hiccup, and remember you were pretty hurt at the time. How are you doing now?
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    Aug 19, 2015 3:44 PM GMT
    david_lane saidI'm curious...I've lost a substantial amount of weight in the last 8 months but I have a hard time adjusting mentally. I see it in the way my clothes fit and when I look at old photos, but I still think of myself as the 55lbs heavier guy.
    My question is to those who have lost a similar amount of weight in as short an amount of time...did you have as hard of a time adjusting to the loss, rebuilding your confidence, and seeing yourself differently?
    Bring on the input!! icon_biggrin.gif


    I hear you. I lost a total of 54 lbs (Did P90X) about 5 years ago-down to about 9% bodyfat now, and I still have trouble seeing the 'fat me' in my brain.
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    Aug 19, 2015 3:54 PM GMT
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    david_lane saidI'm curious...I've lost a substantial amount of weight in the last 8 months but I have a hard time adjusting mentally. I see it in the way my clothes fit and when I look at old photos, but I still think of myself as the 55lbs heavier guy.
    My question is to those who have lost a similar amount of weight in as short an amount of time...did you have as hard of a time adjusting to the loss, rebuilding your confidence, and seeing yourself differently?
    Bring on the input!! icon_biggrin.gif


    I hear you. I lost a total of 54 lbs (Did P90X) about 5 years ago-down to about 9% bodyfat now, and I still have trouble seeing the 'fat me' in my brain.
    I found that being purposely cocky can be rewarding, and permanently fix the "fat me" mentality. It took a while, but constantly bragging about how good I look eventually got seated in my brain.

    By no means do I "honestly" think I'm the hottest guy in the world, but repeating it over and over definitely broke me out of the "fat me" mentality. Now I can look in the mirror, enjoy what I see, and be objective and rational about improvements that can be made if/when any are needed.
  • david_lane

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    Aug 19, 2015 4:08 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    livstud2001 said
    david_lane saidI'm curious...I've lost a substantial amount of weight in the last 8 months but I have a hard time adjusting mentally. I see it in the way my clothes fit and when I look at old photos, but I still think of myself as the 55lbs heavier guy.
    My question is to those who have lost a similar amount of weight in as short an amount of time...did you have as hard of a time adjusting to the loss, rebuilding your confidence, and seeing yourself differently?
    Bring on the input!! icon_biggrin.gif


    I hear you. I lost a total of 54 lbs (Did P90X) about 5 years ago-down to about 9% bodyfat now, and I still have trouble seeing the 'fat me' in my brain.
    I found that being purposely cocky can be rewarding, and permanently fix the "fat me" mentality. It took a while, but constantly bragging about how good I look eventually got seated in my brain.

    By no means do I "honestly" think I'm the hottest guy in the world, but repeating it over and over definitely broke me out of the "fat me" mentality. Now I can look in the mirror, enjoy what I see, and be objective and rational about improvements that can be made if/when any are needed.


    You may not think you're the hottest guy in the world, but I think you're pretty damn sexy! icon_cool.gif
  • david_lane

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    Aug 19, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    Thanks all for the input!
    Just to clarify, I don't feel badly about how I look. I'm quite happy with the progress I've made so far! I am by no means satisfied though. I've still got quite a bit of work to do.
    What I meant is that even though I am consciously aware that my body has changed, subconsciously I still catch myself thinking as though I am still heavier. Several of you addressed this though and I greatly appreciate it!
    I joined this site for the motivation and encouragement. For the most part that is what I have received! Thanks RJ members!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • FredMG

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    Aug 19, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    I divorced my ex-wife, and she was about 215, does that count?
  • Crisistunity

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    Aug 19, 2015 8:01 PM GMT
    JustFred saidI divorced my ex-wife, and she was about 215, does that count?


    Do you still think of yourself as a married man? icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 9:49 PM GMT
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    Aug 20, 2015 12:40 AM GMT
    JustFred saidI divorced my ex-wife, and she was about 215, does that count?


    lol

    Good Job.....

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    Aug 20, 2015 4:28 AM GMT
    At around 40 I lost 60 (or 80, who can remember) lbs in five months and became a tight-skinned adonis. (Most of the shirtless, flexing undated profile pics of me were taken around that time.)

    I had absolutely no problem adjusting.

    I was like Eddie Murphy in "The Nutty Professor."

    "Mo' spandex!"

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=al-tdoT3gL8
  • david_lane

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    Aug 20, 2015 11:07 AM GMT
    2Bnaked saidEven 20 lbs can make a difference. 20lbs may not seem like a lot, but it is. It can be the tip of obese. Fortunately, when I shift the fat loss off, I kept my muscle memory.....

    This happened a few years back when all I did was work. Now, I work it even harder.....

    Congrats to everyone who has taken on the challenge to look fit and feel great. I am proud of you. It's never easy to get your lifestyle under control.


    Thanks! I have mainly been working on the weight loss. I am now right around where I wanted to get down to (180/185). So I have just started really focusing on the gym and rebuilding muscle and toning up. Fingers crossed that muscle memory will kick in and it won't take long to look hot again. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 22, 2015 3:40 PM GMT
    JustFred saidI divorced my ex-wife, and she was about 215, does that count?


    If she was anything like mine, she was 215 of crazy hell bitch
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    Aug 23, 2015 10:52 AM GMT
    JustFred saidI divorced my ex-wife, and she was about 215, does that count?


    We need a like button icon_biggrin.gif
  • Fat2FitBoston

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    Sep 29, 2015 1:56 PM GMT
    david_lane saidI'm curious...I've lost a substantial amount of weight in the last 8 months but I have a hard time adjusting mentally. I see it in the way my clothes fit and when I look at old photos, but I still think of myself as the 55lbs heavier guy.
    My question is to those who have lost a similar amount of weight in as short an amount of time...did you have as hard of a time adjusting to the loss, rebuilding your confidence, and seeing yourself differently?
    Bring on the input!! icon_biggrin.gif



    Hey,

    I just joined the site yesterday. Since June of 2014 I have lost 105.8 lbs. My starting weight was 297.8lbs and my current weight is 192lbs. While I feel incredible compared to how I felt at my heaviest, like you op, I still think of myself as my old weight at times and I'm still self-conscious. I still have about 15lbs to lose, but I just keep focusing on today, what I can do to be better today than I was yesterday. I wouldn't say I've had a hard time seeing myself differently, since the only thing making it difficult for me is me. When I had lost around 60lbs and my knee was feeling better (I was hit by a car in Dec 2013) in Feb. of this year, I started taking a martial arts class, which many people told me helps a lot of people build confidence and be less self-conscious. I had never done a martial art before, and I can tell you they were absolutely right. I don't know if it would help everyone, but it certainly helped me.