Why LGBT nightlife is not dying – by a nightclub owner

  • metta

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    Aug 18, 2015 7:04 PM GMT
    Why LGBT nightlife is not dying – by a nightclub owner

    "we now sell experiences, as much as we do alcohol."

    "People go out for the excitement and to experience a release from their everyday lives.

    They want to feel like they are living a “fantasy” from the moment they walk into a venue. I’ve built a successful business on the back of the LGBT community, not because I am interested in how much we sell our drinks for – I focus instead on every aspect of our customers experience, from meeting the door staff, right through to leaving."



    http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2015/08/18/comment-why-lgbt-nightlife-is-not-dying-by-a-nightclub-owner/
  • LostSailor

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    Aug 19, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    Here is Vegas, you would THINK there'd be a ton of gay nightclubs.
    Not really...only 3 that I can think of. There are a few gay bars...but thats about it.
    There was a gay nightclub in Bally's that closed last year.
    They opened and closed in 16 months I think.
    Sucks.
  • bro4bro

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    Aug 19, 2015 3:43 AM GMT
    I go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    Granted, I've met guys in gay bars who claimed to be str8...
    But they sure can't blame me for hitting on 'em.
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    Aug 19, 2015 4:22 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidI go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    And that's the whole point of the OP's story. The owner of that line of gay venues wants to keep it as gay as possible, allowing on the friendliest of straight people in...as it should be.

    That's one of the reasons I've stopped going to gay bars. They're trying to compete with straight bars/clubs and allowing way too many straights in.

    Just recently I went to a gay bar here in Hayward and saw more straights than gays. It was almost impossible to tell who's who in terms of sexuality, so I left without hitting on anyone. I have better luck with guys in straight bars.
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    Aug 19, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidI go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    Granted, I've met guys in gay bars who claimed to be str8...
    But they sure can't blame me for hitting on 'em.


    Straight guys are wising up to the fact that straight women go to gay bars. A friend of mine would have half a dozen dudes trying to sleep with her every time we went out to a gay club
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    Aug 19, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    bro4bro saidI go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    And that's the whole point of the OP's story. The owner of that line of gay venues wants to keep it as gay as possible, allowing on the friendliest of straight people in...as it should be.

    That's one of the reasons I've stopped going to gay bars. They're trying to compete with straight bars/clubs and allowing way too many straights in.

    Just recently I went to a gay bar here in Hayward and saw more straights than gays. It was almost impossible to tell who's who in terms of sexuality, so I left without hitting on anyone. I have better luck with guys in straight bars.


    How would they effectively discriminate against straight people without relying on the tired idea that all gay men are effeminate?
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    Aug 19, 2015 4:53 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    paulflexes said
    bro4bro saidI go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    And that's the whole point of the OP's story. The owner of that line of gay venues wants to keep it as gay as possible, allowing on the friendliest of straight people in...as it should be.

    That's one of the reasons I've stopped going to gay bars. They're trying to compete with straight bars/clubs and allowing way too many straights in.

    Just recently I went to a gay bar here in Hayward and saw more straights than gays. It was almost impossible to tell who's who in terms of sexuality, so I left without hitting on anyone. I have better luck with guys in straight bars.


    How would they effectively discriminate against straight people without relying on the tired idea that all gay men are effeminate?
    There are more identifying features than just the effeminate traits. It takes years of being around a variety of people to understand fully, but it's entirely possible to accurately screen people for homophobic tendencies. This is why I'm so comfortable being out of the closet in most circles, because when I sense homophobia in a particular group, I simply avoid it and move on without speaking a word to them. So far in my 2 decades of being out of the closet, this "inert ability" has had a 100% success rate. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 5:06 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MrFuscle said
    paulflexes said
    bro4bro saidI go to gay bars for just one reason...
    I get sick of guessing.
    It's nice to be in a place where you don't have to wonder if a guy's gay.
    And that's the whole point of the OP's story. The owner of that line of gay venues wants to keep it as gay as possible, allowing on the friendliest of straight people in...as it should be.

    That's one of the reasons I've stopped going to gay bars. They're trying to compete with straight bars/clubs and allowing way too many straights in.

    Just recently I went to a gay bar here in Hayward and saw more straights than gays. It was almost impossible to tell who's who in terms of sexuality, so I left without hitting on anyone. I have better luck with guys in straight bars.


    How would they effectively discriminate against straight people without relying on the tired idea that all gay men are effeminate?
    There are more identifying features than just the effeminate traits. It takes years of being around a variety of people to understand fully, but it's entirely possible to accurately screen people for homophobic tendencies. This is why I'm so comfortable being out of the closet in most circles, because when I sense homophobia in a particular group, I simply avoid it and move on without speaking a word to them. So far in my 2 decades of being out of the closet, this "inert ability" has had a 100% success rate. icon_wink.gif


    Maybe you need to teach gaydar classes to the employees of these bars and clubs. I admit my gaydar sucks. If I don't want you would have to be sucking dick while having a train run on you for me to realize you are gay.
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    Aug 19, 2015 7:36 AM GMT
    Because there are always newbies gays coming out and want to experience the scene, then you have all the older/has-been club queens who can't stay away. Then you have guys who just wanna get a way from their job, work, bf, ex-bf or whatever and check out the hotties. Plus the curious straight boys and straight/bi women. Gay bars play better music, serve better alcohol and have better hot men eye candies. Lol, why do you think I only go to Abbey every time I'm in LA. Well that or Pump or Mickys. But yeah I don't party that hard anymore. icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_redface.gif
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Aug 20, 2015 4:22 AM GMT
    There really are a decent amount of straight guys bouncin around gay bars, it seems. I was in a pretty nice club in Charleston, SC the other night and more than a few guys hit on my female friends.

    I seem to get asked quite a bit if I am straight, by gay men who approach me to talk or whatever. Each time I think to myself, "For real!? I'm in a gay bar, of course I am fuckin gay". Then I remember the straight boys that are roamin around.