Is it normal for guys to complement your eyes?

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    Aug 18, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    Long story short I went ahead and got a personal trainer for a few months, (getting burnt out, and need some motivation to continue going to the gym) and today while we were working out he said you have really pretty eyes. I just said thank you.

    I'm a bit worried because I gave him my number for workouts and scheduling, and I don't want my boyfriend to look at my phone (yes I let him go through my phone, and I his) and don't want to make him worry. icon_neutral.gif

    This is just the first day, maybe I'm just over reacting? I was curious if this is a normal thing between guys? I'm a bit socially inept especially on these kinds of things.
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 18, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
    It's totally fine. Sometimes you just have to compliment someone.
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    Aug 18, 2015 7:25 PM GMT
    well you do have very pretty eyes tumblr_inline_nrriwyY4HV1rbm4s9_500.gif
  • Webster666

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    Aug 18, 2015 7:30 PM GMT
    His comment seems unprofessional, but it could be completely innocent.

    You and your boyfriend need to stop looking at each other's phones.
    Sooner or later, it will cause some kind of trouble.
    It sounds as if one or both of you suffers from jealousy.
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    Aug 18, 2015 7:38 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidHis comment seems unprofessional, but it could be completely innocent.

    You and your boyfriend need to stop looking at each other's phones.
    Sooner or later, it will cause some kind of trouble.
    It sounds as if one or both of you suffers from jealousy.


    it did seem out of the blue and unprofessional, but it did feel just like just an innocent comment.

    wait, why should we stop looking at each others phones? We don't look at each others phones every minute of every hour. I guess to be more specific, they are just unlocked for each other to see. But I have no desire really to need to know who he's speaking to of every second of every day, it's too much of a hassle and jealousy over trivial things like that is too petty for my taste.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is that we have a mutual understanding for each others phones and that unspoken trust. I guess it's just that one time he just happens to look at my phone and ask who this guy was. He's not the jealous type, and very understanding.

    We've been dating each other for about a year and so far nothing has happened between us regarding looking at each others phones.
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    Aug 18, 2015 10:23 PM GMT
    I assume when he said that you weren't wearing your blue contacts, like the ones you had when you filmed that video last year. So anyways, if you didn't have the blue contacts on it means that your eyes are beautiful as they are, so no need to wear these contacts in the future.
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    Aug 18, 2015 10:24 PM GMT
    Sure why not. I like to complement on eyes and other things.....
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    Aug 18, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
    David666k saidI assume when he said that you weren't wearing your blue contacts, like the ones you had when you filmed that video last year. So anyways, if you didn't have the blue contacts on it means that your eyes are beautiful as they are, so no need to wear these contacts in the future.


    No, after I found my boyfriend Hieu he told me he prefers a more organic look, so I stopped wearing them and deleted all my photos that had them in it. It feels a lot better to be honest.



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    Aug 18, 2015 10:56 PM GMT
    I don't see the problem. It was a compliment. Nothing more, I've said the same thing to people who !surprise! I think have pretty eyes!

    I wasn't interested in doing him.
  • david_lane

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    Aug 18, 2015 11:44 PM GMT
    Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 19, 2015 12:08 AM GMT
    I think telling someone they have really pretty eyes is somewhat flirtatious, though not necessarily sexual. It sounds harmless. He might just be a natural flirt. I'd not read into it, unless it becomes awkward. But I'd definitely tell your bf about it. You might as well. And if he's smart he'll just agree that your eyes are pretty.
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    Aug 19, 2015 12:15 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI think telling someone they have really pretty eyes is somewhat flirtatious, though not necessarily sexual. It sounds harmless. He might just be a natural flirt. I'd not read into it, unless it becomes awkward. But I'd definitely tell your bf about it. You might as well. And if he's smart he'll just agree that your eyes are pretty.


    yea, I told him about it so no surprises. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 12:27 AM GMT
    Is it normal for guys to complement your eyes?

    Normal as in routine for me, no. But it happens. And I'll compliment another guy whose eyes impress me. Why not? But more often when I was dating, when I'd really look into his eyes.

    Here's the surprising part to me. When I completed my cancer treatment quite a few guys I knew told me I had a new sparkle & twinkle in my eyes, that I'd lost for the last year or so. Even before I knew I had cancer.

    Aside from not knowing this eye change was happening to me, I would never have guessed other guys would have noticed. Guys who weren't romantically connected to me. Never underestimate the ability of a gay man to detect minute details & features, of all kinds.
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    Aug 19, 2015 12:46 AM GMT
    As homophobia slowly (very slowly) erodes from the public's mindset, expect guys to be more open toward complimenting attractive features of other guys...without sexual intentions. This is especially true in gym settings, where there's a larger number of guys in one place who have attractive features.
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    Aug 19, 2015 12:51 AM GMT
    So I was in the gym shower and a black guy next to me remarked "nice piece, I'm jealous". Is that normal? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:07 AM GMT
    Aqueerius saidSo I was in the gym shower and a black guy next to me remarked "nice piece, I'm jealous". Is that normal? icon_biggrin.gif
    You had a gun in the shower? icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:08 AM GMT
    Aqueerius saidSo I was in the gym shower and a black guy next to me remarked "nice piece, I'm jealous". Is that normal? icon_biggrin.gif


    The question that hasn't been addressed even though I feel like it's going to be derailed, is that I understand guys can complement on muscles, as it is a gym. But it's strange to me that they would complement something as trivial as your eyes. I'm going to go with my gut feeling that, that is not normal.

    When your trainer start talking about your eyes, there's a word for it. There's an entire movement in the 1920's, it's called surreal.

    I'm just going to pretend I never heard him say it.
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    Aqueerius saidSo I was in the gym shower and a black guy next to me remarked "nice piece, I'm jealous". Is that normal? icon_biggrin.gif

    I thought we were talking eyes, not what eyes see.
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    Aug 19, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said Never underestimate the ability of a gay man to detect minute details & features, of all kinds.

    Stereotyping. Again. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Now what would an anti-gay straight guy like you know about gays who stereotype?

    And my noting the natural abilities that many gay men have (I didn't say all) is not stereotyping. I've also said here that gay men are among the bravest I've ever known, which in my life includes 25 years of military service. Which is 180 degrees opposite the gay stereotype of the wimpy, timid gay man.

    I've said before, in a life-threatening crisis, I'd rather have a gay man by my side that a straight one. The gay guy is likely the stronger emotionally and more logical in dealing with the problem. I've seen both in action, I make my choice from experience.

    Stop knocking gay men. We have many abilities we fail to recognize, because of detractors like you who try to bring us down. We are stronger and better than we realize. And you can't dismiss those abilities as stereotypes, just to suit your anti-gay agenda.
  • toybrian

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    Aug 19, 2015 1:38 PM GMT
    I do if I think the guy has great looking eyes on him but usually have no problem and get the usually "Thank You" also..
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    Aug 19, 2015 2:21 PM GMT
    I wouldn't think too much about it. Some guys are comfortable enough about their sexuality to compliment another man. I use to have this old guy at work that would compliment the shape of my head when I was bald icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 19, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    No, it isn't normal.
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    Aug 19, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    I think he obviously saw that he is gay and just wanted to give a compliment thinking that gay guys love it
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    Aug 19, 2015 6:56 PM GMT
    Varus saidIs it normal for guys to complement your eyes?


    Yeah.
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    Aug 19, 2015 7:09 PM GMT
    David666k saidI assume when he said that you weren't wearing your blue contacts, like the ones you had when you filmed that video last year. So anyways, if you didn't have the blue contacts on it means that your eyes are beautiful as they are, so no need to wear these contacts in the future.


    Awwwwwwwww.