Positive affirmations from another black man

  • zelon1

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    Aug 20, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    It has happened, I finally found another black gay man in San Francisco I can connect with on an emotional and romantic level. I was lost in the woods for so long. All these brothers in this city either exclusively date outside their race or have a shit load of other self-hating issues that haven't been dealt with. But, alas, this fine chocolate brother with bright eyes and long dreadlocks approached me while I was riding the street car up market street. He told me I was "handsome" and from there we hit it off. icon_cool.gif

    I didn't meet him on a gay dating app or in a bar, but I was lucky enough to have been approached by this beautiful black brother. His aura was warm and engaging. He is a courageous, self-aware, humble, afrocentric black man and that's all I've ever dreamed of in finding my ideal partner.

    I want to thank all of you on RJ who kept pushing me to keep looking and not get down on myself (refer to my very first thread) and I took that advice now I'm in a great place in my life.
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    Aug 20, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    YASSSSSSSS!!! CONGRATS bud!!!!
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 20, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    Yay, that's so sweet! icon_smile.gif

  • Aug 20, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    This is GREAT news!

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    Aug 20, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    Holy shit, that's awesome!

    I have no plans next week (yet) but I'd love to take both of you out to lunch or dinner (your choice). Shoot me a PM when y'all are both free next week and I'll take the BART across the bay to personally congratulate both of you with a meal. icon_biggrin.gif
  • zelon1

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    Aug 20, 2015 3:04 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHoly shit, that's awesome!

    I have no plans next week (yet) but I'd love to take both of you out to lunch or dinner (your choice). Shoot me a PM when y'all are both free next week and I'll take the BART across the bay to personally congratulate both of you with a meal. icon_biggrin.gif


    That would be nice, thanksicon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 20, 2015 3:29 AM GMT
    That's great new! Wish you a long and happy relationship. Hope other blacks and asians read this and follow your example on how it IS possible to find happiness among their own race.
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    Aug 20, 2015 3:52 AM GMT
    awwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 20, 2015 3:59 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif

    Why? The OP is hot, and they sound like a cute couple.
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:03 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    This is sort of mean, but unfortunately it's a harsh reality.
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:05 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    This is sort of mean, but unfortunately it's a harsh reality.



    Are you guys actually saying that all black men would prefer to be with a white guy?
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:07 AM GMT
    Radd said
    James_Thunder_Early said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    This is sort of mean, but unfortunately it's a harsh reality.



    Are you guys actually saying that all black men would prefer to be with a white guy?


    I wouldn't say all, but there are plenty who do have a preference that skews white.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 20, 2015 4:10 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early said
    Radd said
    James_Thunder_Early said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    This is sort of mean, but unfortunately it's a harsh reality.



    Are you guys actually saying that all black men would prefer to be with a white guy?


    I wouldn't say all, but there are plenty who do have a preference that skews white.

    The OP doesn't though.
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:10 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif

    Why? The OP is hot, and they sound like a cute couple.


    i'm just messing around. but the whole afrocentric black man in SF thing just seems a bit unrealistic and made up. not calling the OP a liar, but let's just say i won't be too surprised if this little threeway date with paulflexes never happens. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:12 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    James_Thunder_Early said
    Radd said
    James_Thunder_Early said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    This is sort of mean, but unfortunately it's a harsh reality.



    Are you guys actually saying that all black men would prefer to be with a white guy?


    I wouldn't say all, but there are plenty who do have a preference that skews white.

    The OP doesn't though.


    I realize that he doesn't, but there are a lot black guys who do and that was the question I was responding to.
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    Aug 20, 2015 4:17 AM GMT
    CODY4U said
    HottJoe said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif

    Why? The OP is hot, and they sound like a cute couple.


    i'm just messing around. but the whole afrocentric black man in SF thing just seems a bit unrealistic and made up. not calling the OP a liar, but let's just say i won't be too surprised if this little threeway date with paulflexes never happens. icon_wink.gif


    It is a little hokey.
  • zelon1

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    Aug 20, 2015 4:56 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    Uh I doubt that highly because he's not attracted to white boy
    If he were to ever leave me (which won't happen) it would be for another brother
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    Aug 20, 2015 5:02 AM GMT
    zelon1 said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    Uh I doubt that highly because he's not attracted to white boy
    If he were to ever leave me (which won't happen) it would be for another brother


    Hold on now youre going to the extreme opposite saying he "will ever leave you, never!", you don't know that. He might leave you for another black guy icon_idea.gif Hopefully he wont!
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    Aug 20, 2015 5:17 AM GMT
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif


    icon_lol.gif
  • zelon1

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    Aug 20, 2015 5:17 AM GMT
    CODY4U said
    HottJoe said
    CODY4U saidawwwww! he's probably gonna leave you for a white boy though. congrats for now. icon_lol.gif

    Why? The OP is hot, and they sound like a cute couple.


    i'm just messing around. but the whole afrocentric black man in SF thing just seems a bit unrealistic and made up. not calling the OP a liar, but let's just say i won't be too surprised if this little threeway date with paulflexes never happens. icon_wink.gif


    What's unrealistic about it? My BF is very much Afrocentric and he's a DC transplant which would explain why. Like myself, he wasn't born out here in the Bay Area and doesn't have that coon like disposition.
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    Aug 20, 2015 5:18 AM GMT
    zelon1 saidIt has happened, I finally found another black gay man in San Francisco I can connect with on an emotional and romantic level. I was lost in the woods for so long. All these brothers in this city either exclusively date outside their race or have a shit load of other self-hating issues that haven't been dealt with. But, alas, this fine chocolate brother with bright eyes and long dreadlocks approached me while I was riding the street car up market street. He told me I was "handsome" and from there we hit it off. icon_cool.gif

    I didn't meet him on a gay dating app or in a bar, but I was lucky enough to have been approached by this beautiful black brother. His aura was warm and engaging. He is a courageous, self-aware, humble, afrocentric black man and that's all I've ever dreamed of in finding my ideal partner.

    I want to thank all of you on RJ who kept pushing me to keep looking and not get down on myself (refer to my very first thread) and I took that advice now I'm in a great place in my life.


    Are you sure he wasn't trying to mug you?
  • zelon1

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    Aug 20, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
    Chulo said
    zelon1 saidIt has happened, I finally found another black gay man in San Francisco I can connect with on an emotional and romantic level. I was lost in the woods for so long. All these brothers in this city either exclusively date outside their race or have a shit load of other self-hating issues that haven't been dealt with. But, alas, this fine chocolate brother with bright eyes and long dreadlocks approached me while I was riding the street car up market street. He told me I was "handsome" and from there we hit it off. icon_cool.gif

    I didn't meet him on a gay dating app or in a bar, but I was lucky enough to have been approached by this beautiful black brother. His aura was warm and engaging. He is a courageous, self-aware, humble, afrocentric black man and that's all I've ever dreamed of in finding my ideal partner.

    I want to thank all of you on RJ who kept pushing me to keep looking and not get down on myself (refer to my very first thread) and I took that advice now I'm in a great place in my life.


    Are you sure he wasn't trying to mug you?


    What, dummy?
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    Aug 20, 2015 5:39 AM GMT
    I'm black, I'm a brother!!! Stop being mean to me!!!
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    Aug 20, 2015 5:40 AM GMT
    Chulo saidI'm black, I'm a brother!!! Stop being mean to me!!!


  • Crisistunity

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    Aug 20, 2015 8:33 AM GMT
    Thanks to this thread I've learnt that Afrocentrism existed! icon_biggrin.gif

    I have a hard time when it comes to ethnicities and races, I must admit, I'm a Spaniard born to a Spaniard father and to a Cuban born Spaniard/Philippino mother.

    I was blond as a child, I consider myself as «white» even though my skin looks exactly the same colour as the skin of my little sister's boyfriend who is a Dominican guy of Taíno descent. He's way taller than me, his nose is wider than mine and his eyes are slanted.

    My older sister's boyfriend is Afrocuban, his skin is darker than mine, his nose is much narrower than mine, and his eyes are big and round.

    My boyfriend is white to any Spaniard standard, his skin is pale even though he has some Cuban blood as well.

    The only one in my family having troubles accepting our boyfriends is my Cuban grandfather (born to a Spaniard man and a Cuban mother), because he is a racist and a homophobe.

    And here I reach the point I wanted to make: I always thought that people who looked down on people who dated «outside their race» were racists, as well as I thought that those who look down on people who date «inside their gender» are homophobes.

    Have I been wrong all along?

    Thanks for your inputs, I'm sure I'll learn a big deal icon_biggrin.gif