Abuse...Domestic Violence & dysfunction in gay relationships

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    Aug 20, 2015 3:24 AM GMT




    I follow this guy on Youtube and I find him to be really insightful.
    However, he posted this video today which got me a bit emotional...basically, it's about his 20 years relationship ending...and about how he allowed himself to be mentally, emotionally & physically dominated by a partner who made him feel lesser than.
    He also talks about outside forces who tirelessly challenged his relationship, BOTH straight and gay.

    All this to say that I have a new understanding of gay relationships...and the things we are willing to do for love in general.
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    Aug 20, 2015 2:19 PM GMT
    your boy friends, partners, husbands is the biggest investment in your life.
    pick the wrong one and you suffer bad, the right one you flourish beyond what you could do for your self.

    You can opt out, be single your whole life. Be the only gay man still be climbing the bath house steps when your 60.
  • AttisXVI

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    Aug 20, 2015 2:46 PM GMT
    This isn't exclusive to gay relationships. This shit happens in every orientation. It's absolutely imperative that you date someone that values you for who you are.
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    Aug 20, 2015 7:50 PM GMT
    FollowingRivers saidI follow this guy on Youtube and I find him to be really insightful.



    Wow...that was PAINFUL. If I had been in this guy's presence, I'd be over to give him a long hug. I know something of what he speaks.

    Except mine was from my family. Both parents from the south, getting through life during Depression/Jim Crow times. Both emotionally, psychically beaten by the constant social hammering--from the environment AND from their own parents...sort of a "sins of the parents are visited upon each succeeding generation".

    Was HARSH living "at home" with my parents. They saw my elder brother and me as "possessions"...you had NO VOICE at all. We became well-trained. Took DECADES before either of us could address those issues.

    The BENEFIT of this is that while I felt I had to put up with it from the parents, I BECAME all the stronger in NOT putting up with it from anyone else.

    Is why I speak my mind now. If it means a life of being alone, better that than the brutal alternative.
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    Aug 21, 2015 2:59 AM GMT
    I'm guessing he received some obnoxious comments and took the video down?
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Aug 21, 2015 4:47 AM GMT
    He also says he got better sex in prison than on the outside. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 21, 2015 3:13 PM GMT
    Why was the video removed?