Hiker98 saidFace it, gay marriage is not a marriage. Its a way of saying two monogamous men love one another to want to be a couple on paper, but really they're not wanting a relationship, but companionship for fear of being alone. Therefore, they decide to take the plunge knowing very well, that one or both will not stay together because I've been hit up by many partnered/married gay men. They want their companionship AND their sex, too. It's all about ME, not about we - when it comes to gay marriage. Statistically, I have read somewhere (INSTINCT magazine) that only 15% of gay marriages will last. The divorce lawyers are loving the new law that was upheld by the SCOTUS.
Gay men have become wayyy to comfortable with that and often choose convenience over commitment.
It's almost like nowadays monogamy and marriage for gay men is just a worst case scenario safety plan of not dying alone.
To each their own but honestly for me there is no real honour in that kind of relationship regardless of if both people involved mutually understand that's what they're doing.
A great and deeply bonded relationship doesn't just spontaneously happen, you always have to work at it.
I just don't see that coming from an open one simply because your attention is divided all the time.
It's like someone saying yes they want to come home to the same face and have that little bit of consistency, but otherwise they still want to sleep with other people because that's just what they want.
Personally for me that just illustrates immaturity but to each their own.
The pattern in which relationships seem to be becoming nowadays really just further makes me want to stay single because I just don't like how it looks and what it's becoming.
Even gay marriage is purely a legality, I honestly believe the amount of gay couples who want to get married is very small, and even then more so out of the convenience of the legalities that come with being married rather than what the commitment of marriage actually means.
Who knows I suppose only time will tell what gay marriage really means to gay people but judging how sex seems to be the be all end all for sooo many gay guys, I don't see it meaning anything real.