I feel like this guy is tryna turn my boyfriend against me

  • zelon1

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    Aug 25, 2015 3:11 AM GMT
    And I'm partly to blame because it's my fault for bringing this jerk into our inner circle. Sophomore at my uni just started and I don't have very many friends besides my BF and our friend Joseph. So there's this guy that lives on my floor that goes to my school. He's a real quiet guy and tells me he doesn't know many people....me being the friendly optimistic person that I am invite him to hang out w/ us. Turns out he gets along well w/ Sterling (my boyfriend) and Joe and I've felt pretty much left out these past several days. It's like this guy intentionally tries to ostracize me from my own friends...and get this!! 2day he met up w/ my bf and Joe at starbucks without even inviting me. I only know because my bf told me about. And he was all talking about how he's gonna take my bf and Joe to this gay arcade on market street near the Castro...just the three of them. I don't trust this guy and I feel like he is trying to like steal my identity or take my place. He's weird, crazy, and plain EVIL. I even told Sterling that I don't trust this guy and that we should stop hanging out w/ him but he thinks I'm being paranoid. WHAT SHOULD I DO????icon_sad.gificon_cry.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 25, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    If your boyfriend thinks you're being paranoid, maybe you are. Since he knows how you feel, he can make a point of inviting you along so that it doesn't feel like he's off doing things without you. You could also tell you new-found friend that you're feeling left out and see what he says. He might make a point of including you more, too.

    But that being said, plenty of boyfriends hang out with separate people or have separate circles of friends. It doesn't mean that anyone in that circle is trying to cut anyone else out. And try not to worry about this rando stealing your boyfriend. If your boyfriend can be so easily stolen, then he wasn't that into you in the first place.
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    Aug 25, 2015 4:02 AM GMT
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 25, 2015 4:16 AM GMT
    How far are you willing to go for love?

    (I recently canceled cable, so if you decide to bake him a poison tart, do let us know.)
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    Aug 25, 2015 6:35 PM GMT
    I don't think you're being paranoid as you are told. If you have a strong hunch about this guy, I wouldn't blame you for it. You really can't trust anyone nowadays, some people can be real snakes (speaking from personal experience, not for everyone).
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    Aug 25, 2015 11:15 PM GMT
    Maybe you should trust your boyfriend. If he is true he won't play with this interloper.
  • StevenB

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    Aug 26, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    WELL, there is a song called KEEP AN EYE on the
    Diana Ross and the Supremes LOVE CHILD album I think
    you should listen to, it is about this kind of
    situation, Stephen !!
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    Aug 26, 2015 4:16 AM GMT
    You told your bf how you feel and he dismisses it out of hand.

    That's telling. If my man told me he had bad vibes about someone I'd distance myself from that someone for the sake of my BF's feelings and our relationship.

    I guess you know where you stand.
  • aax_aax_aax

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    Aug 26, 2015 8:17 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidYou told your bf how you feel and he dismisses it out of hand.

    That's telling. If my man told me he had bad vibes about someone I'd distance myself from that someone for the sake of my BF's feelings and our relationship.

    I guess you know where you stand.


    Oh come on, he's 18. His circle of friends is (probably) changing way faster than yours, they will never make new friends if they start being paranoid. Plus, (UndercoverMan)- your man is adult and you two probably know everything about each other. On the other hand, these kids are still changing, and who knows, maybe they know each other only for a month.

    For the OP- you shouldn't be concirned, you probably are just being paranoid. And if you're not, your bf will soon see what's going on an stop it. You two should also learn how to trust each other more.