How do I tell my partners I have a weird fetish?

  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    I'm 20 and I have a certain fetish that I'm really nervous about telling guys about. Its nothing disgusting or anything lol, I don't like to eat shit or something like that. no disrespect to the ppl who eat shit. I hope you get all the d and eat all the crap you want

    But um some people might still think it's weird and I'm nervous about telling guys my fetish because they might think I'm a freak icon_sad.gif so how can I bring this up to a guy without freaking him out?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:15 PM GMT
    What's your fetish???icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 26, 2015 5:21 PM GMT
    bet he'll think your fetish is child's play, and he's probably already done it a bunch of times. even if not, most guys are ready to try pretty much anything.
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:27 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidWhat's your fetish???icon_razz.gif


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  • HottJoe

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    HottJoe saidWhat's your fetish???icon_razz.gif


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    What---is---your---fetish?
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:38 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    NYC_BOI said
    HottJoe saidWhat's your fetish???icon_razz.gif


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    What---is---your---fetish?


    Lol I'll message you icon_smile.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 26, 2015 5:43 PM GMT
    Search the archives of Savage Love, Dan Savage's advice column. This one isn't exactly what you're after but it will likely provide some insight: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=9435660

  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 26, 2015 6:01 PM GMT
    Most of us have a fetish or two. Don't be afraid to tell guys. They may be into it, too, or have some of their own they're nervous to tell you. But just because you or he have these thoughts does not mean you two have to act on them. Some fetishes are better as fantasies and some may not be something you actually want to do with your guy. But you should confide in him and trust that he'll not freak (or tell others). That's what being in a relationship is all about.
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    Aug 26, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    Uh ohhh. The OP refuses to say what his fetish is. I bet he likes to eat shit!
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    Aug 26, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    From a viewpoint of personal responsibility, both the severity of your fetish and the nature of the relationship determines how open you ought to be about it.

    For a committed relationship, be that monogamous or open, you need to come clean about it and pretty soon into the relationship. Otherwise you could be with someone for 20 years before they discover that you gross them out and then you've all but destroyed their life: they might view those decades as a betrayal particularly since you knew all along.

    The severity aspect alone comes into play with tricking. If you're into, say, animal sex, then--besides that I'd think you a real douche to begin with by my sensitivities towards protecting animals--you'd be an actual douchebag to risk passing whatever the fuck you can get from that onto any other human being, something I merely suspected but just googled and it's an actual thing. Ick fucking ick.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zoonosis

    Oh look, it includes Ebola, what a treat.

    So if you are a man, a man with balls, you need to own that or have it fixed if it prevents you from living your life honestly.

    I experienced that on this very forum, when some creepy guy was making a play for me over the period of a year or two whatever the fuck it was. Besides that he didn't reveal himself as being a cruel bastard until he had manipulated my feelings toward him, but then he even, after all that time, first revealed that he likes to piss on people. Because being cruel wasn't enough, I suppose.

    Pee on me and I'll knee your balls up into your throat. You'll not pee through your dick again but through a fucking catheter.

    You need to be up front about your life if you want someone to be able to share your life.

    People say they do to make themselves seem spontaneous but no one really likes surprises. Certainly not that one.
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    Aug 26, 2015 6:04 PM GMT
    Im betting he's a water sports fan...
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    Aug 26, 2015 6:05 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidIm betting he's a water sports fan...


    Nah, that's too common. I bet he likes to eat turds. Nom nom nom.
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  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 1:25 AM GMT
    Radd said
    JonSpringon saidIm betting he's a water sports fan...


    Nah, that's too common. I bet he likes to eat turds. Nom nom nom.


    Um. You're the disgusting racist piece of shit that said all black people are violent. Stop commenting on my threads. Leave me the fuck alone.
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    Aug 27, 2015 2:19 AM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    Radd said
    JonSpringon saidIm betting he's a water sports fan...


    Nah, that's too common. I bet he likes to eat turds. Nom nom nom.


    Um. You're the disgusting racist piece of shit that said all black people are violent. Stop commenting on my threads. Leave me the fuck alone.



    Fuck you, you shit eating queen. icon_lol.gif If you're going to say things about me, at least QUOTE me. But you won't me because you know you're a liar. A shit eating liar. icon_lol.gif
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:51 AM GMT
    Radd said
    NYC_BOI said
    Radd said
    JonSpringon saidIm betting he's a water sports fan...


    Nah, that's too common. I bet he likes to eat turds. Nom nom nom.


    Um. You're the disgusting racist piece of shit that said all black people are violent. Stop commenting on my threads. Leave me the fuck alone.



    Fuck you, you shit eating queen. icon_lol.gif If you're going to say things about me, at least QUOTE me. But you won't me because you know you're a liar. A shit eating liar. icon_lol.gif


    And you're a disgusting racist fat piece of shit. I hope you get aids and fucking die. Go fuck yourself.
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    Aug 27, 2015 3:58 AM GMT
    Hahaha. Like I said......QUOTE ME you stupid queen! But you can't because I never said anything like that and you know it. Enjoy your turds!
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 4:03 AM GMT
    Radd saidHahaha. Like I said......QUOTE ME you stupid queen! But you can't because I never said anything like that and you know it. Enjoy your turds!


    You said all Black people are violent.

    Radd said
    pazkilimanjaro saidThinking about wearing a speedo but then again.. I don't want to be like some of these bitchmade flowerboys like the chulo/jmusmc85 bitch thinking theyre all that when they need to be punched in their face. Just seeing them do it makes me not want to do it because they make that shit uncool.


    So you think someone deserves to be assaulted because they choose to wear a swimsuit you disapprove of? And you wonder why people stereotype black men as violent. icon_rolleyes.gif


    You're so fucking STUPID wow you're an idiot. I just proved you wrong and made you look like the dumbass hitch that you are. You're a nobody and you're a fucking loser. I hope you fucking drop dead.
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    Aug 27, 2015 4:07 AM GMT
    NYC_BOI said
    Radd saidHahaha. Like I said......QUOTE ME you stupid queen! But you can't because I never said anything like that and you know it. Enjoy your turds!


    You said all Black people are violent.

    Radd said
    pazkilimanjaro saidThinking about wearing a speedo but then again.. I don't want to be like some of these bitchmade flowerboys like the chulo/jmusmc85 bitch thinking theyre all that when they need to be punched in their face. Just seeing them do it makes me not want to do it because they make that shit uncool.


    So you think someone deserves to be assaulted because they choose to wear a swimsuit you disapprove of? And you wonder why people stereotype black men as violent. icon_rolleyes.gif


    You're so fucking STUPID wow you're an idiot. I just proved you wrong and made you look like the dumbass hitch that you are. You're a nobody and you're a fucking loser. I hope you fucking drop dead.



    You proved NOTHING dumbass! I said Pazzy was adding to the STEREOTYPE you idiot. I never said all black men are violent. Are you really that stupid you can't comprehend full sentences?
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 4:29 AM GMT
    Radd said
    NYC_BOI said
    Radd saidHahaha. Like I said......QUOTE ME you stupid queen! But you can't because I never said anything like that and you know it. Enjoy your turds!


    You said all Black people are violent.

    Radd said
    pazkilimanjaro saidThinking about wearing a speedo but then again.. I don't want to be like some of these bitchmade flowerboys like the chulo/jmusmc85 bitch thinking theyre all that when they need to be punched in their face. Just seeing them do it makes me not want to do it because they make that shit uncool.


    So you think someone deserves to be assaulted because they choose to wear a swimsuit you disapprove of? And you wonder why people stereotype black men as violent. icon_rolleyes.gif


    You're so fucking STUPID wow you're an idiot. I just proved you wrong and made you look like the dumbass hitch that you are. You're a nobody and you're a fucking loser. I hope you fucking drop dead.



    You proved NOTHING dumbass! I said Pazzy was adding to the STEREOTYPE you idiot. I never said all black men are violent. Are you really that stupid you can't comprehend full sentences?


    Birch, shut the fuck up lmfao. You're a racist fat ugly disgusting piece of shit. You're such a motherfucking scumbag and you're nothing but a fucking pussy. You're so obsessed with me...how many times are you gonna post in my fucking thread? Get a life and lose some weight you fucking racist scumbag.
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 4:31 AM GMT
    I'm just gonna ignore rads post lol icon_smile.gif I have better things to do than listen to some racist fat scumbag that comes into every single one of my threads. icon_smile.gif

    rads, i hope you get brain cancer and fucking drop dead.

    Bye