Why is no one my age attracted to me?

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    Aug 26, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
    I definitely don't consider myself "hot" but I don't think I'm ugly either. I'd say I fall somewhere in between. There are a lot of guys out there who are better-looking than me, but also a lot who aren't. Whatever.

    Anyway, I've been on countless dating sites/apps and whether it's for a hookup or something more serious, no guys in my age range seem to be interested in me. And when I say my age range I mean other guys in their 20s (I am 25).

    I will send them a message and they usually never reply. However, I get a lot of compliments from "older" guys (usually in their 40s and 50s, sometimes mid-late 30s) and they are usually the ones who message me first on dating sites/apps.

    Is it something about the way I look that attracts guys that are a bit older than me, or something else? Do I not have "the look" that most guys in their 20s are looking for these days?

    It's just something I've been wondering.
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    Aug 26, 2015 9:50 PM GMT
    I wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations
  • mystery905

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    Aug 27, 2015 12:52 AM GMT
    You are hot, and that's coming from a 46 year old who's into daddies!

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    Aug 27, 2015 1:05 AM GMT
    ant811 saidWhy is no one my age attracted to me?
    Because you're not attracted to yourself. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 27, 2015 1:16 AM GMT
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    mystery905 saidYou are hot, and that's coming from a 46 year old who's into daddies!



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    Aug 27, 2015 2:04 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:12 AM GMT
    ant811 saidI definitely don't consider myself "hot" but I don't think I'm ugly either. I'd say I fall somewhere in between. There are a lot of guys out there who are better-looking than me, but also a lot who aren't. Whatever.

    Anyway, I've been on countless dating sites/apps and whether it's for a hookup or something more serious, no guys in my age range seem to be interested in me. And when I say my age range I mean other guys in their 20s (I am 25).

    I will send them a message and they usually never reply. However, I get a lot of compliments from "older" guys (usually in their 40s and 50s, sometimes mid-late 30s) and they are usually the ones who message me first on dating sites/apps.

    Is it something about the way I look that attracts guys that are a bit older than me, or something else? Do I not have "the look" that most guys in their 20s are looking for these days?

    It's just something I've been wondering.



    I think it's probably not one single reason but multiple. I didn't get hit on much when I was your age either. I was actually into older guys but they weren't usually into me. I got told I was too young 99% of the time. And guys my own age were aloof and wanted nothing to do with me. But the weird thing is now that I'm a lot older, I have guys coming at me from every direction. 90% of the guys that hit on me now are guys in their early 20's (the very same age that wouldn't give me the time of day when I was their age.)

    So part of it could be that some of these guys are only into older guys. And the reason you have older guys hitting on you is that as you get older, (normally) your tastes tend to broaden. Whenever I look at a young guy's profile he will often have a very tiny age range that he will even consider. But older guys accepting of a much broader age range.

    Combine all this with your low self esteem and all these small things add up to a very big thing. I think once you learn to appreciate yourself and who you are, more guys will be attracted to you. You are very handsome so that's not the problem. I think the problem is mostly your self worth. Sometimes seeing a therapist can work wonders for this.
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    Aug 27, 2015 2:22 AM GMT
    You're not a bad looking guy. However, guys our age usually are dumb, and not fully matured anyways. Trust me, you're better saving yourself from the unnecessary stress, and drama.

    Also, don't sound so desperate.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:22 AM GMT
    Radd said
    ant811 saidI definitely don't consider myself "hot" but I don't think I'm ugly either. I'd say I fall somewhere in between. There are a lot of guys out there who are better-looking than me, but also a lot who aren't. Whatever.

    Anyway, I've been on countless dating sites/apps and whether it's for a hookup or something more serious, no guys in my age range seem to be interested in me. And when I say my age range I mean other guys in their 20s (I am 25).

    I will send them a message and they usually never reply. However, I get a lot of compliments from "older" guys (usually in their 40s and 50s, sometimes mid-late 30s) and they are usually the ones who message me first on dating sites/apps.

    Is it something about the way I look that attracts guys that are a bit older than me, or something else? Do I not have "the look" that most guys in their 20s are looking for these days?

    It's just something I've been wondering.



    I think it's probably not one single reason but multiple. I didn't get hit on much when I was your age either. I was actually into older guys but they weren't usually into me. I got told I was too young 99% of the time. And guys my own age were aloof and wanted nothing to do with me. But the weird thing is now that I'm a lot older, I have guys coming at me from every direction. 90% of the guys that hit on me now are guys in their early 20's (the very same age that wouldn't give me the time of day when I was their age.)

    So part of it could be that some of these guys are only into older guys. And the reason you have older guys hitting on you is that as you get older, (normally) your tastes tend to broaden. Whenever I look at a young guy's profile he will often have a very tiny age range that he will even consider. But older guys accepting of a much broader age range.

    Combine all this with your low self esteem and all these small things add up to a very big thing. I think once you learn to appreciate yourself and who you are, more guys will be attracted to you. You are very handsome so that's not the problem. I think the problem is mostly your self worth. Sometimes seeing a therapist can work wonders for this.

    Classic grooming.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:25 AM GMT
    I remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 27, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    ant811 saidI definitely don't consider myself "hot" but I don't think I'm ugly either. I'd say I fall somewhere in between. There are a lot of guys out there who are better-looking than me, but also a lot who aren't. Whatever.

    Anyway, I've been on countless dating sites/apps and whether it's for a hookup or something more serious, no guys in my age range seem to be interested in me. And when I say my age range I mean other guys in their 20s (I am 25).

    I will send them a message and they usually never reply. However, I get a lot of compliments from "older" guys (usually in their 40s and 50s, sometimes mid-late 30s) and they are usually the ones who message me first on dating sites/apps.

    Is it something about the way I look that attracts guys that are a bit older than me, or something else? Do I not have "the look" that most guys in their 20s are looking for these days?

    It's just something I've been wondering.


    With the beard you look a bit older than you really are. That may be the reason.
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    Aug 27, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    You have the nerve to refer to yourself as "HOTT" and you accuse ME of "grooming?" icon_lol.gif
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations


    That is incredibly insulting to older guys. I love how you sit in judgement at age 27, go fuck yourself. Maybe some of us older guys just happen to like younger men.
  • Jeepguy2

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:35 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif

  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:36 AM GMT
    ChicagoSteve said
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations


    That is incredibly insulting to older guys. I love how you sit in judgement at age 27, go fuck yourself. Maybe some of us older guys just happen to like younger men.

    Isn't it insulting to older guys that you just happen to like younger men???
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:38 AM GMT
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
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    Aug 27, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:54 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    ChicagoSteve said
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations


    That is incredibly insulting to older guys. I love how you sit in judgement at age 27, go fuck yourself. Maybe some of us older guys just happen to like younger men.

    Isn't it insulting to older guys that you just happen to like younger men???


    No, it isn't. it's a personal preference for some older guys. Very different from the characterization that bonaparts insinuated.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 2:58 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif

    Someone asked for your AARP card?icon_neutral.gif

    If you can read this, I'm just kidding!!!icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 27, 2015 3:00 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif

    Someone asked for your AARP card?icon_neutral.gif

    If you can read this, I'm just kidding!!!icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 27, 2015 3:02 AM GMT
    ChicagoSteve said
    HottJoe said
    ChicagoSteve said
    bonaparts saidI wouldn't date you, but that's just me don't listen to me
    and old guys are like pedos, they just want young meat I would not even pay attention what they say

    I think you look ok and will def find someone around your age, the question is though what kind of guys are you attracted to and do other guys meet your expectations


    That is incredibly insulting to older guys. I love how you sit in judgement at age 27, go fuck yourself. Maybe some of us older guys just happen to like younger men.

    Isn't it insulting to older guys that you just happen to like younger men???


    No, it isn't. it's a personal preference for some older guys. Very different from the characterization that bonaparts insinuated.

    Tbh, the only difference I see is word choice.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif

    Someone asked for your AARP card?icon_neutral.gif

    If you can read this, I'm just kidding!!!icon_wink.gif
    I can't read this because my octofocals haven't been updated in 37 decades. icon_sad.gif

    WHAT DID YOU SAY? SPEAK UP, YOUNG MAN!
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    Aug 27, 2015 3:16 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif

    Someone asked for your AARP card?icon_neutral.gif

    If you can read this, I'm just kidding!!!icon_wink.gif
    I can't read this because my octofocals haven't been updated in 37 decades. icon_sad.gif

    WHAT DID YOU SAY? SPEAK UP, YOUNG MAN!
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  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    paulflexes said
    HottJoe said
    Jeepguy2 said
    HottJoe saidI remember feeling old at 25 (and so glad I was still getting carded!)icon_lol.gif


    I was still getting carded at age 36 and honestly it was starting to get a little bit annoying.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, it's a double edged sword.
    I got carded today. icon_cool.gif

    Someone asked for your AARP card?icon_neutral.gif

    If you can read this, I'm just kidding!!!icon_wink.gif
    I can't read this because my octofocals haven't been updated in 37 decades. icon_sad.gif

    WHAT DID YOU SAY? SPEAK UP, YOUNG MAN!
    I said broccoli is awesome!

    No, I didn't run over a opossum!icon_evil.gif