If you were unattractive

  • Matthew56

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:14 PM GMT
    Would you ever consider plastic/cosmetic surgery seeing as the gay world is more fixated on looks would you go under the knife. In order to prevent any depression from not being able to attract good/reasonable looking men and to maintain you're health and wellbeing. Believe you me being seen as a pariah in the gay world is not good for one's health and can lead to mental health issues
  • NYC_BOI

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    I am unattractive lol and yeah I am considering plastic surgery. Can't wait to save up $$$$ so I can get a nose job and lip implants
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:18 PM GMT
    NYC_BOI saidI am unattractive lol and yeah I am considering plastic surgery. Can't wait to save up $$$$ so I can get a nose job and lip implants

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  • Matthew56

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    Aug 27, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]
    NYC_BOI saidI am unattractive lol and yeah I am considering plastic surgery. Can't wait to save up $$$$ so I can get a nose job and lip implants

    I hope you're joking.icon_eek.gif[/quote

    I should think/hope so lol
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    Aug 27, 2015 3:52 PM GMT
    This is the thing that annoys me about people's perceptions of this kind of stuff.

    You get roided up gym junkies and a lot of people are just happy to tolerate it as long as they look good.
    You have a hundred and one diets that are constantly advertised as the next new diet.
    You have the general media constantly telling you that you need to look younger and prettier/more handsome and that you need to look after yourself, love yourself and be confident and blah blah blah.

    Then there's this annoying double edged sword because people expect all that kind of stuff to be natural.
    There are some people where it is natural for them and that's awesome good on them for being blessed that way.
    Then there are others like myself where none of this is natural.

    People are so happy to rate me a 2 or 3, but if I decide to get work done then oh no that's a big travesty and I'm just a big fake.
    If I decide to just be confident in my 2 or 3 then I'm just being delusional or lying to myself, but then God forbid if I decide on plastic surgery because that's worse than a 2 or 3; but then society tells you that being a 2 or 3 is not good enough.

    You try to do something about yourself and then people just compare, but then if you don't then people call you lazy or are happy to completely disregard you.

    Then the most annoying part is that in the gay world, this is magnified even more so because it's way more about the looks than the hetero world.

    So honestly for me, if someone really wants it for themselves then I say go for it because it's for you.
    There's always going to be someone in society that will tell you that you're not enough so I say don't do it to make them happy.
    If it can help you gain peace of mind about your own image then you have every right to try it.
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    Aug 27, 2015 4:09 PM GMT
    Mathew, exactly how dysfunctional are you? Every post seems to be about "how ugly I am".

    As I get older I don't give a rat's a$$ what someone thinks about my looks. I figure some people think Shar-peis are cute!

    Look at people who have gone under the knife, they don't look like themselves any more: Jennifer Grey (she looked ordinary afterwards), Helen Hunt (2nd job was better) , Kenny Rogers (who is that guy?).

    Before going under the knife, be the best person you can be first. Physically and mentally. Plastic surgery is not a substitute for good mental health.
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    Aug 27, 2015 4:15 PM GMT
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    Aug 27, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    Someone will always love you!!!

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    Aug 27, 2015 4:24 PM GMT
    "However painful it may be for me to accept this conclusion, I am obliged to state it: For the black man there is only one destiny. And it is white."~~Frantz Fanon

    You've ceaselessly stated that being black distresses you but skinning the cat alive isn't really considered cosmetic surgery. Even that graft would not fix how you see yourself. Clearly you've demonstrated this.

    If you had some issue of mere aesthetics, as you disguise your problem to be, then maybe plastic surgery might help you move past the pain of a festering refusal to accept yourself. But you've driven yourself beyond even that, so you need to correct course from the inside out, not the other way around which would not just be a cat covering its crap with more crap but a skinned cat at that.

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    Aug 27, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    I just wear a bag over my head 24x7.
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    Aug 27, 2015 5:16 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidIf you were unattractive
    I'd post a bunch of threads about it.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI just wear a bag over my head 24x7.

    And no one notices because the wet tshirt is a distraction.
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    Aug 27, 2015 5:57 PM GMT
    I don't give a shit about 'gay world' I would consider a plastic surgery only for me
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 5:59 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidI don't give a shit about 'gay world' I would consider a plastic surgery only for me

    I'm quite the opposite. I would never get plastic surgery for me, but I would consider it for the rest of the gay world.
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    Aug 27, 2015 6:01 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    bonaparts saidI don't give a shit about 'gay world' I would consider a plastic surgery only for me

    I'm quite the opposite. I would never get plastic surgery for me, but I would consider it for the rest of the gay world.


    because you are a shallow show off that's why
  • CheeseKraut

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    Aug 27, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    I'm not that hung up on attractive as in what the end result of enough plastic surgery looks like but sure.
    If I don't like something and I can pay to make it go away I usually do.

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    Aug 27, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    If I was ugly I'd try to do something about it, why not? Fortunately I'm normal looking, though I already think if I ever start losing hair (which I read is common in hairy guys like me) I will go to a clinique to re-grow hair or something just like football player Rooney did:

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    Friends laughed when I told them my plan. Thing is baldness look good in some, but I think I would look like shit with no hair, so if I can avoid that sure I will.
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    Aug 27, 2015 7:15 PM GMT
    Probably not. Cosmetic surgery is a hit or miss situation, some people just make their face look worst.
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 27, 2015 7:26 PM GMT
    DryMoan saidThis is the thing that annoys me about people's perceptions of this kind of stuff.

    You get roided up gym junkies and a lot of people are just happy to tolerate it as long as they look good.
    You have a hundred and one diets that are constantly advertised as the next new diet.
    You have the general media constantly telling you that you need to look younger and prettier/more handsome and that you need to look after yourself, love yourself and be confident and blah blah blah.

    Then there's this annoying double edged sword because people expect all that kind of stuff to be natural.
    There are some people where it is natural for them and that's awesome good on them for being blessed that way.
    Then there are others like myself where none of this is natural.

    People are so happy to rate me a 2 or 3, but if I decide to get work done then oh no that's a big travesty and I'm just a big fake.
    If I decide to just be confident in my 2 or 3 then I'm just being delusional or lying to myself, but then God forbid if I decide on plastic surgery because that's worse than a 2 or 3; but then society tells you that being a 2 or 3 is not good enough.

    You try to do something about yourself and then people just compare, but then if you don't then people call you lazy or are happy to completely disregard you.

    Then the most annoying part is that in the gay world, this is magnified even more so because it's way more about the looks than the hetero world.

    So honestly for me, if someone really wants it for themselves then I say go for it because it's for you.
    There's always going to be someone in society that will tell you that you're not enough so I say don't do it to make them happy.
    If it can help you gain peace of mind about your own image then you have every right to try it.

    Yeah, right. I bet you're a 6 or 7, minimum. There's no way a 2 or a 3 could write such self-assured posts.icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 28, 2015 5:10 AM GMT
    BP201 saidProbably not. Cosmetic surgery is a hit or miss situation, some people just make their face look worst.

    This!
    A few years ago, I was considering to have a nose job. Kept telling myself so I could breathe easier, which was actually a real problem for me sometime. But I decided against it. And now, no regrets.

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    Aug 28, 2015 6:18 AM GMT
    HottJoeYeah, right. I bet you're a 6 or 7, minimum. There's no way a 2 or a 3 could write such self-assured posts.icon_eek.gif


    Honestly if I were a 6 or 7 minimum I would be more than happy to have a profile picture.
    The reason I chose 2 or 3 is because those were the two numbers I've heard people actually grade me.

    Believe it or not there are perks to being considered ugly.
    I feel other parts of my personality are a lot more refined and stronger simply because I've had to rely on it since I cannot rely on my looks.

    The friends I do have I feel are genuine (you can never be 100% sure but I at least hope so) since it's not like they HAD to be friends with an ugly person.
    I do know that it is a possibility they are happy to be friends with me simply because being around me makes them look wayyy better, but at least when I'm in their company they're polite so I just count my blessings.
    At least being ugly serves as some kind of perk for them as well.

    I'm not really self assured, I'm just a realistic person and am happier receiving realistic words rather than sympathetic ones.

    At the end of the day, everybody will belong to some kind of statistic and one of the statistics I happen to belong to is one generally labelled by society as aesthetically 'ugly'.
    I don't fight it because I just accept my place in that particular statistic.

    There are some people born with great looks and there are people who aren't born attractive.
    I accept that about myself not for confidence's sake but for reality's sake and so in reality, I have to be okay with that because that's where I fit.

    There's a certain amount of degree that you can control (such as diet, exercise, or plastic surgery) and the other parts you just have to realise you're stuck with it and it's fine because at least you belong somewhere.
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    Aug 28, 2015 12:18 PM GMT
    I remember getting caught up in the media and society's pressure of beauty and whatnot. I have not felt more free since dissociating myself from it all. I'm happy with how I look and would never consider plastic surgery. That money would be funding my trip to Japan.
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Aug 28, 2015 3:28 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidWould you ever consider plastic/cosmetic surgery seeing as the gay world is more fixated on looks would you go under the knife. In order to prevent any depression from not being able to attract good/reasonable looking men and to maintain you're health and wellbeing. Believe you me being seen as a pariah in the gay world is not good for one's health and can lead to mental health issues


    I would not do it or consider it at all. The thought of doing something like that JUST to conjure up an appealing appearance for other people negatively amazes me.
  • giodude

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    Aug 28, 2015 3:38 PM GMT
    I'm quite unattractive - literally never been hit on by another guy in my entire life. Seriously looks re not my strong point

    But looks aren't everything. I'm extremely funny, and well spoken. I can hold an engaging conversation about almost anything and am good at reading people's emotions. I try and work on those things because they work in my favour

    Don't constantly focus on the negative. You're a 3 dimensional human consisting of multiple facets. Try and improve your strong points. Nobody is perfect, and not everybody can be beautiful.

    That said, nobody really know what your strong points are because the only things you post are self-flagellating rants concerning your cosmetic pathos.

    There's more to you than just skin covering organ and systems. Try and show that to people and they may respond more positively.

  • HottJoe

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    Aug 28, 2015 3:55 PM GMT
    DryMoan said
    HottJoeYeah, right. I bet you're a 6 or 7, minimum. There's no way a 2 or a 3 could write such self-assured posts.icon_eek.gif


    Honestly if I were a 6 or 7 minimum I would be more than happy to have a profile picture.
    The reason I chose 2 or 3 is because those were the two numbers I've heard people actually grade me.

    Believe it or not there are perks to being considered ugly.
    I feel other parts of my personality are a lot more refined and stronger simply because I've had to rely on it since I cannot rely on my looks.

    The friends I do have I feel are genuine (you can never be 100% sure but I at least hope so) since it's not like they HAD to be friends with an ugly person.
    I do know that it is a possibility they are happy to be friends with me simply because being around me makes them look wayyy better, but at least when I'm in their company they're polite so I just count my blessings.
    At least being ugly serves as some kind of perk for them as well.

    I'm not really self assured, I'm just a realistic person and am happier receiving realistic words rather than sympathetic ones.

    At the end of the day, everybody will belong to some kind of statistic and one of the statistics I happen to belong to is one generally labelled by society as aesthetically 'ugly'.
    I don't fight it because I just accept my place in that particular statistic.

    There are some people born with great looks and there are people who aren't born attractive.
    I accept that about myself not for confidence's sake but for reality's sake and so in reality, I have to be okay with that because that's where I fit.

    There's a certain amount of degree that you can control (such as diet, exercise, or plastic surgery) and the other parts you just have to realise you're stuck with it and it's fine because at least you belong somewhere.

    You have a beautiful mind though. (and I don't mean of the schizophrenic sort; your posts are thoughtful and interesting to read.) icon_smile.gif