Why are "most" White guys so passive aggressive?

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    Sep 08, 2015 8:26 AM GMT
    I've been dithering about asking is for days now. But, I figure, what the fuck. I've heard enough in my life about black guys being "ghetto" from a a median percentage of white/Latin guys...well, I have a question of my own.

    Now, passive aggressive may be called "nice" or "fake". But, I call it something else. For example: I met a guy a few weeks ago. White guy. He seemed cool at first, even though I believe he was a home wrecker. Wanted what he couldn't have. But then, when I was able to confirm my previous relationship was over...I let him in. Then, within a week he started playing games. I called him out on it. He went from texting me every morning, blowing up my phone all times of the day, to not even bothered to see how I'm doing in 2 weeks.. He couldn't even just be a man and put me in my place, if needed be. But instead, he knew he was out of line and couldn't say shit. I didn't even like the guy that much, I was still getting to know him, but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up. Disrespected My relationship with my man at the time, tried to lure me in, then discarded me like a piece of trash. Then, the White guy who I was seeing, he couldn't even be man enough to give me some closure, just made up some quick 'n easy lame bullshit to get off easy, then stopped calling or responding to me. But any other time, he was blowing my phone up constantly begging me to come over.

    This is not the first time this has happened. White guys talk a lot of shit, but when you call them out on their own shit....they want to not respond to texts, cry in a corner, and pretend you don't exist. I've been noticing this since I first discovered this disorder about 3-4 years ago. Yes, all men play games. I understand that. But white (and even gay guys of all races) guys tend to do it in a way that's so pussy and disparaging. Me and my Arab friend talk about it all the time...and that's mainly because he's always up some whites guys ass. And they are all passive aggressive. He (we) keep having problems with these guys playing games....and I'm just like, drop those zero men and get with a hero man. Find you a cultured, honest person and leave them honkies alone (he goes after the bottom of the barrel white guys...the ones who are junkies, cheap with him, or treat him poorly).

    I'm not saying someone has to be ready to fight and argue and do drama...but gees, why can't people "just be a man about it" like Tony Braxton said?

    I apologize in advance if anyone is rubbed wrong. I love me some white guys, don't get me wrong. They can make great relationship partners, and I love the dynamic of contrast. But I also have extensive experience with men of color...and think The bullshit has to chill. I can't keep being caught up in these goddamn mind fuck games all the time.



  • HottJoe

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    Sep 08, 2015 5:53 PM GMT
    I thought it was just "most" Midwesterners who were passive aggressive.icon_neutral.gif

    It's hard to give advice when the players in the story are entirely based on racial stereotypes. To illustrate what I mean, here is the following mock advice, intended solely for the purposes of satire. This advice is not real, and it does not reflect the views of myself or any of the other paid moderators:

    If I were you I'd probably not be into white guys because they are flakes, and I'm not talking snowflakes, I'm talking dandruff; you just have to scratch them out like the dead weight they are. I'd also be very hesitant to go for Latinos at this time. They may be muy bonito and speak Spanish, but, like the water in Mexico, you never know how you'll feel about it the next day. You could try dating Asians, but would they find you too aggressive, or tire of always having to correct your math? You could try teenage Mormon boys, since no one like an old Mormon, but you'll have to corrupt them first, which would surely involve too much wickedness. I'm afraid Jewish guys will find you insufferable, mainly because they're the chosen people, and you're not. You could go for a dark skinned black guy, maybe from somewhere hot, like Nigeria, but then it's like the aforementioned problem with Mexico, only in this case we're talking about Ebola. So maybe you should hook up with your Arab friend, unless he's a devout Muslim. You don't want to date a terrorist. I'd say go for Indian men except they have a "sense of humor" that would rile you up constantly, plus those dance moves are ridiculous, and not in a legit way but like in foreign culture way. I guess that leaves Native Americans. I can't think of any reason not to date them, unless you're racist.

    There ya go. Dating based on race. Or "I can't Believe it's not Racism," which is racism but with half the fat and none of the guilt, because it's just a preference.
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    Sep 08, 2015 6:00 PM GMT
    racist
    And about your thread, I guess some guys don't see a point arguing and wasting time on you icon_lol.gif
    you obviously do not deserve a white man, date your own race and you have less things to moan about, but I highly doubt that icon_lol.gif
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Sep 08, 2015 6:44 PM GMT

    .....hurts so good doesn't it?

    ...........................

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    Sep 08, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27 saidI've been dithering about asking is for days now. But, I figure, what the fuck. I've heard enough in my life about black guys being "ghetto" from a a median percentage of white/Latin guys...well, I have a question of my own.

    Now, passive aggressive may be called "nice" or "fake". But, I call it something else. For example: I met a guy a few weeks ago. White guy. He seemed cool at first, even though I believe he was a home wrecker. Wanted what he couldn't have. But then, when I was able to confirm my previous relationship was over...I let him in. Then, within a week he started playing games. I called him out on it. He went from texting me every morning, blowing up my phone all times of the day, to not even bothered to see how I'm doing in 2 weeks.. He couldn't even just be a man and put me in my place, if needed be. But instead, he knew he was out of line and couldn't say shit. I didn't even like the guy that much, I was still getting to know him, but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up. Disrespected My relationship with my man at the time, tried to lure me in, then discarded me like a piece of trash. Then, the White guy who I was seeing, he couldn't even be man enough to give me some closure, just made up some quick 'n easy lame bullshit to get off easy, then stopped calling or responding to me. But any other time, he was blowing my phone up constantly begging me to come over.

    This is not the first time this has happened. White guys talk a lot of shit, but when you call them out on their own shit....they want to not respond to texts, cry in a corner, and pretend you don't exist. I've been noticing this since I first discovered this disorder about 3-4 years ago. Yes, all men play games. I understand that. But white (and even gay guys of all races) guys tend to do it in a way that's so pussy and disparaging. Me and my Arab friend talk about it all the time...and that's mainly because he's always up some whites guys ass. And they are all passive aggressive. He (we) keep having problems with these guys playing games....and I'm just like, drop those zero men and get with a hero man. Find you a cultured, honest person and leave them honkies alone (he goes after the bottom of the barrel white guys...the ones who are junkies, cheap with him, or treat him poorly).

    I'm not saying someone has to be ready to fight and argue and do drama...but gees, why can't people "just be a man about it" like Tony Braxton said?

    I apologize in advance if anyone is rubbed wrong. I love me some white guys, don't get me wrong. They can make great relationship partners, and I love the dynamic of contrast. But I also have extensive experience with men of color...and think The bullshit has to chill. I can't keep being caught up in these goddamn mind fuck games all the time.





    You both sound passive aggressive, at least game playing fools:
    " He couldn't even just be a man and put me in my place, if needed be. But instead, he knew he was out of line and couldn't say shit. I didn't even like the guy that much, I was still getting to know him, but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up.

    You allow him in, knowing what you think you know (passive) and then when he doesn't treat you like a man (whatever that is) you aggressively berate him and want to "fuck him up."

    It sounds like both the white guys didn't like your games, neither "couldn't even be man enough"
    and wanted to "get off easy." Who can blame them? There's a lot of drama going on in between the two quotes! And very little communication.

    They were initially aggressive in pursuing you, then passive in letting you go. That's the safe way do deal with someone who wants to be aggressive/aggressive.

    You sound like you are looking for a fight. Chill.
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    Sep 08, 2015 10:53 PM GMT
    Because being passive-aggressive is fun! icon_twisted.gif
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 09, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    Do you really want to entertain someone who exhibits this type of behavior?
    I don't think this behavior is race specific. It sounds like your dealing with someone with psychological issues. It takes two to play a game, refuse to play and you will be fine.
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    Sep 11, 2015 3:31 AM GMT
    I hate racial generalizations because they rob people of their ability to define their own identity and destiny. I do think that some people are more dramatic, aggressive, confrontational whereas others are more disciplined, easy going, non-confrontational. That cuts across all races, genders, orientations. I've been in HR for 15 years and see it first hand constantly.

    If you want to know why you weren't invited, there is the "I'm gonna call you out on that (shaming approach)... and then there is the "I'm going to find out what's important to this person so I can understand them better" approach. The latter is way harder to do but wayyyy more fulfilling.

  • venue35

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    Sep 11, 2015 9:43 AM GMT
    bonaparts saidracist
    And about your thread, I guess some guys don't see a point arguing and wasting time on you icon_lol.gif
    you obviously do not deserve a white man, date your own race and you have less things to moan about, but I highly doubt that icon_lol.gif

    I thought your comments about the Syrian refugees were racist go figure
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    Sep 11, 2015 6:56 PM GMT
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    bonaparts saidracist
    And about your thread, I guess some guys don't see a point arguing and wasting time on you icon_lol.gif
    you obviously do not deserve a white man, date your own race and you have less things to moan about, but I highly doubt that icon_lol.gif

    I thought your comments about the Syrian refugees were racist go figure


    well it just shows that you are stupid, refusing to accept in your own home some religious uneducated degenerates/illegal immigrants that want to parasite on tax payers money just because they have degraded and destroyed their own countries with overpopulation is not racist, dumbo

    so fuck you, but not really icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 11, 2015 10:21 PM GMT
    Why are most black guys like you and Spazzy so aggressive?

    There's a reason why the angry black man mantra exist...and you are an obvious example....icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 10:15 AM GMT
    We haven't got time to be upfront, we are too busy listening to Coldplay and watching cookery programmes.
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    Sep 12, 2015 9:08 PM GMT
    Black guy complaining about passive white guys in Colorado. Lol. Perhaps it's time to move to a city that's more diverse.
  • HottJoe

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    Sep 13, 2015 3:08 PM GMT
    In a post-racial, post-fem, post-marriage, post-PrEP, post-circumcision gay community all of our personalities will be based facial symmetry.
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    Sep 14, 2015 3:04 AM GMT
    Wait....so to rest of the world black guys are ghetto? icon_rolleyes.gif It seems to me the problem is perception.
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    Sep 14, 2015 3:12 AM GMT
    bonaparts said
    venue35 said
    bonaparts saidracist
    And about your thread, I guess some guys don't see a point arguing and wasting time on you icon_lol.gif
    you obviously do not deserve a white man, date your own race and you have less things to moan about, but I highly doubt that icon_lol.gif

    I thought your comments about the Syrian refugees were racist go figure


    well it just shows that you are stupid, refusing to accept in your own home some religious uneducated degenerates/illegal immigrants that want to parasite on tax payers money just because they have degraded and destroyed their own countries with overpopulation is not racist, dumbo

    so fuck you, but not really icon_lol.gif


    This is a nice guy here. He would rather people starve and die before they come into his country. Nice!!!
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    Sep 14, 2015 7:20 PM GMT
    Maybe you're talking to one of those guys that talk to a dozen guys at a time? That seems to be the case with a lot of gay men who have access to the Internet/have a smart phone- They're so fickle and easily distracted, they don't know what they fuckin want. Poor that. Just take it one at a time. There's no need to get worked up over people so fickle.
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    Sep 20, 2015 5:08 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27

    but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up.


    Stephenoabc

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    FuzzyPecs27

    Disrespected My relationship with my man at the time, tried to lure me in, then discarded me like a piece of trash.

    Then, the White guy who I was seeing, he couldn't even be man enough to give me some closure, just made up some quick 'n easy lame bullshit to get off easy, then stopped calling or responding to me.

    Stephenoabc

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    FuzzyPecs27

    why can't people "just be a man about it" like Tony Braxton said?

    Stephenoabc

    Tony Braxton is a poor substitute for the wisdom of Chinese Astrology.

    FuzzyPecs27

    I have extensive experience with men of color...and think The bullshit has to chill.

    Stephenoabc

    And what did they do to you?

    White men treat you wrong.
    Men of color treat you wrong.
    Your generalizations put you, the individual against the whole world. Maybe it's not the whole world but it's you.

    FuzzyPecs

    I can't keep being caught up in these goddamn mind fuck games all the time.

    Stephenoabc

    Let go and let the Astrological Manifestation of God walk with you and your relationships.



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    Sep 20, 2015 5:54 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidFuzzyPecs27

    but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up.


    Stephenoabc

    Black man domestic violence

    FuzzyPecs27

    Disrespected My relationship with my man at the time, tried to lure me in, then discarded me like a piece of trash.

    Then, the White guy who I was seeing, he couldn't even be man enough to give me some closure, just made up some quick 'n easy lame bullshit to get off easy, then stopped calling or responding to me.

    Stephenoabc

    You need Jesus (one personification of salvation).
    You need the Holy Spirit.
    You need the Solar System Astrological Matrix Level of God.

    Start with The New Chinese Astrology by Suzanne White for self exploration. Read Cosmic Love by Jan Spiller. Read Chinese Sexual Astrology by Shelly Wu.

    FuzzyPecs27

    why can't people "just be a man about it" like Tony Braxton said?

    Stephenoabc

    Tony Braxton is a poor substitute for the wisdom of Chinese Astrology.

    FuzzyPecs27

    I have extensive experience with men of color...and think The bullshit has to chill.

    Stephenoabc

    And what did they do to you?

    White men treat you wrong.
    Men of color treat you wrong.
    Your generalizations put you, the individual against the whole world. Maybe it's not the whole world but it's you.

    FuzzyPecs

    I can't keep being caught up in these goddamn mind fuck games all the time.

    Stephenoabc

    Let go and let the Astrological Manifestation of God walk with you and your relationships.






    Nobody here what you actually write you weirdo.

    Please stop posting...
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    Sep 20, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidFuzzyPecs27

    but he just did me so dirty I just wanna fuck him up.


    Stephenoabc

    Black man domestic violence

    FuzzyPecs27

    Disrespected My relationship with my man at the time, tried to lure me in, then discarded me like a piece of trash.

    Then, the White guy who I was seeing, he couldn't even be man enough to give me some closure, just made up some quick 'n easy lame bullshit to get off easy, then stopped calling or responding to me.

    Stephenoabc

    You need Jesus (one personification of salvation).
    You need the Holy Spirit.
    You need the Solar System Astrological Matrix Level of God.

    Start with The New Chinese Astrology by Suzanne White for self exploration. Read Cosmic Love by Jan Spiller. Read Chinese Sexual Astrology by Shelly Wu.

    FuzzyPecs27

    why can't people "just be a man about it" like Tony Braxton said?

    Stephenoabc

    Tony Braxton is a poor substitute for the wisdom of Chinese Astrology.

    FuzzyPecs27

    I have extensive experience with men of color...and think The bullshit has to chill.

    Stephenoabc

    And what did they do to you?

    White men treat you wrong.
    Men of color treat you wrong.
    Your generalizations put you, the individual against the whole world. Maybe it's not the whole world but it's you.

    FuzzyPecs

    I can't keep being caught up in these goddamn mind fuck games all the time.

    Stephenoabc

    Let go and let the Astrological Manifestation of God walk with you and your relationships.






    Nobody reads here what you actually write you weirdo.

    Please stop posting...
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    Sep 20, 2015 6:11 PM GMT
    REALLY?....more on the "race" or "stereotypes" bashing? It's so old, not dignified, hurtful...just ignorant anachronisms that need to die. Flame-wars are so positive, useful and fun.... sigh...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • tj85016

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    Sep 20, 2015 6:13 PM GMT
    what is the holy spirit anyway: Grey Goose or Jim Beam?
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    Sep 21, 2015 3:58 AM GMT
    tj85016 saidwhat is the holy spirit anyway: Grey Goose or Jim Beam?


    The Holy Spirit is a Comforter when your Savior is gone. That's how the biblical Jesus explained it to his disciples.

    I like Jim Beam--about two teaspoons every three weeks.

    I had two teaspoons in 22 ounces of water (with two teaspoons of concentrated lemon juice, and some healthy supplements like Black Walnut, etc.) about an hour ago.
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    Sep 21, 2015 8:29 PM GMT
    I don't think it's about race, most guys in general are kinda just flakey and fickle.