Dates on Grindr or in general? Amateur here.

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    Sep 08, 2015 8:01 PM GMT
    Fairly new (<6months) to the scene and don't have gay friends to talk this out. I'm not out but would like to have a relationship with a guy.

    I've been trying to find dates on Grindr and Okcupid this entire summer but having little success. Even If I do go on dates, ends up being a sexual encounter and no follow up. I find myself mostly messaging white toned guys to have a convo but mostly no replies. I'm like alright maybe a large majority prefer similar physiques and are not really into asians. Or I'm a bit young and should just focus on my studies and let it naturally happen? Or not everyone is on Grindr and should look on campus (large university) instead? Or I am just being impatient and stick to friends first?

    Sorry if I sound like a shallow guy looking for white guys with muscles and that's it. I know personality plays a very important role and that's what lasts in relationships.I am mostly well liked and do get along with my peers so I don't think I have a problem with that.

    Thanks for reading! Feel free to write anything even if it might be offensive. I'm not that "street smart" and sometimes need to people tell me things right to my face.
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    Sep 09, 2015 1:20 PM GMT
    You don't find dates on grindr, you find dicks.
    Plus, you do come off as sort of a shallow muscle licking closet case, so my advice would be to stick with groundr, those ARE your people.