Why Do we Dislike Pictures of Ourselves?

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    Sep 12, 2015 1:39 AM GMT
    This is something a lot of people can relate possibly to.

    I went hiking with friend who's a professional photographer and they took take a pic of me with a great view in the background. I was thinking of using it as a profile pic for a dating site but when he sent it to me my immediate reaction was: "Oh god!- I look like that? That's not how I really look!... Is it? And he's a professional photographer"icon_eek.gificon_redface.gif My secondary reaction was "Great way to tear yourself down for no reason at all"

    What's strange is I have this reaction almost every time I see a myself in a pic. Other people do this too. I've heard even good friends looking say it too when they're going through group pictures such as "I look awful" "I'm surprised I didn't break the camera" etc... when in fact they look fine.

    What's that all about? It's a bizarre phenomena and I'm wondering how common it is.
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    Sep 12, 2015 2:00 AM GMT

    ...yeah, can't relate. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 3:55 AM GMT
    The mirror lies, the camera doesn't.

    I took my existing profile picture (gym selfie) to test this theory and it's true. What I see in the mirror is much, MUCH better than what you all see in my profile picture because my eyes pick out mostly what I want to see.

    That's probably the reason for gym selfies; to check progress by seeing if what you see in the mirror is what's captured on film, what others see.
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:11 AM GMT
    The brutal answer to the question I think is that we like to think of ourselves as better looking than we are. I'm the only person I know who really is better looking than I am...
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThe mirror lies, the camera doesn't.

    I took my existing profile picture (gym selfie) to test this theory and it's true. What I see in the mirror is much, MUCH better than what you all see in my profile picture because my eyes pick out mostly what I want to see.


    So that explains why everyone takes their selfie looking in a mirror icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 5:07 AM GMT
    It depends on the way you pose and of course the way the photograph is taken. The worst is when a photograph is taken in a room and the flash gives the people that red eye effect, then they all look like vampires. The other horrible photographs are those when a person has just woken up or the 'Drunken Selfie'. Or of course when a person photographs you in an embarressing situation, like food on your face.
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    Sep 12, 2015 5:24 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidThe mirror lies, the camera doesn't.

    I took my existing profile picture (gym selfie) to test this theory and it's true. What I see in the mirror is much, MUCH better than what you all see in my profile picture because my eyes pick out mostly what I want to see.


    EM, check this out:

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2059455/The-camera-DOES-lie-Proof-lens-difference-pretty-pretty-ugly.html

    OP, I dare to say most mortals have bad angles and are vulnerable to bad lighting. Find your ideal lighting and angles by training at home with the cellphone or webcam and when you need to take an impromptu photo just strike your pose! icon_lol.gif

    My best angle is frontal and my best lighting is given by a strong, frontal light source with a cooler color -- the one you typically get in ID photos. Unfortunately the same lighting makes my body look less defined (in this case you want shadows), so it's a hard compromise! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:40 PM GMT
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    eagermuscle saidThe mirror lies, the camera doesn't.

    I took my existing profile picture (gym selfie) to test this theory and it's true. What I see in the mirror is much, MUCH better than what you all see in my profile picture because my eyes pick out mostly what I want to see.


    So that explains why everyone takes their selfie looking in a mirror icon_twisted.gif



    DEAD icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:45 PM GMT
    If you want to know what you really look like, take a photo. Mirrors lie.
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:47 PM GMT
    All of this is true.

    But for a more accurate way to tell what you really look like, try video taping yourself or get someone to video you. That's what people see in real life when they look at you.
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:48 PM GMT
    Oh boy can I relate! When I was an actor, I paid THOUSANDS of dollars to many different photographers to do professional head shots. Almost all of these went directly into the trash! Oddly enough, I'm almost always happy with how I look on film or TV. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:49 PM GMT
    Radd saidOh boy can I relate! When I was an actor, I paid THOUSANDS of dollars to many different photographers to do professional head shots. Almost all of these went directly into the trash! Oddly enough, I'm almost always happy with how I look on film or TV. icon_confused.gif


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    Sep 12, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    Domino_dancer saidIt depends on the way you pose and of course the way the photograph is taken. The worst is when a photograph is taken in a room and the flash gives the people that red eye effect, then they all look like vampires.


    Red eye is easily removed by simple editing programs - no need for anything elaborate like Photoshop.
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    Sep 12, 2015 4:52 PM GMT
    bon_pan said
    Radd saidOh boy can I relate! When I was an actor, I paid THOUSANDS of dollars to many different photographers to do professional head shots. Almost all of these went directly into the trash! Oddly enough, I'm almost always happy with how I look on film or TV. icon_confused.gif


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    No silly. icon_smile.gif
  • jonnyangel

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    Sep 12, 2015 5:11 PM GMT
    Most people can relate to not liking the sound of their own voice also. What we hear, when we talk, is not how others hear us.Getting back to faces, many people say they have a good side and a bad side. I personally think my left side is the better side.
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    Sep 12, 2015 5:28 PM GMT
    Erobert saidThis is something a lot of people can relate possibly to.

    I went hiking with friend who's a professional photographer and they took take a pic of me with a great view in the background. I was thinking of using it as a profile pic for a dating site but when he sent it to me my immediate reaction was: "Oh god!- I look like that? That's not how I really look!... Is it? And he's a professional photographer"icon_eek.gificon_redface.gif My secondary reaction was "Great way to tear yourself down for no reason at all"

    What's strange is I have this reaction almost every time I see a myself in a pic. Other people do this too. I've heard even good friends looking say it too when they're going through group pictures such as "I look awful" "I'm surprised I didn't break the camera" etc... when in fact they look fine.

    What's that all about? It's a bizarre phenomena and I'm wondering how common it is.

    >OP
    You look fine. Reconsider using the pic. (Post it here and let us judge?) And you're right - no one except narcissists thinks they look great in photos.
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    Sep 12, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    It's this:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect

    + this

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    According to the mirror, the camera puts the right side wrong.
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    Sep 12, 2015 7:16 PM GMT
    I think a lot of it relates to is that we clearly see our flaws in our appearance, while those flaws may not be noticeable to others.
  • josephmovie

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    Sep 12, 2015 7:48 PM GMT
    I think we are all really poor judges of how we actually appear to other people. And photos do indeed lie - anyone who has ever met anyone via the internet will attest to this.
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    Sep 12, 2015 8:22 PM GMT
    In the old days the rule of thumb was if you got 3 good pics out of a roll of film you were doing well! One pic captures only that one moment in time.....good or bad.

    Cameras love some people's faces. In real life they are not that attractive. And vice versa, some people's 'aura' can not be captured. The luminescence and inner beauty is not apparent.

    The camera does lie! Often times a color photo is over saturated. It needs to be cropped to help focus interest. The point of editing a photo is not to lie, but to make it what you had seen with your own eyes. I often prefer a B/W photo. It is more real and factual in some ways.

    As for selfies in the mirror....get a tripod! At least flip it ferchissake!
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    Sep 12, 2015 8:38 PM GMT
    If you have big ears, you'll probably like yourself in photos because the ears appear smaller via the depth of field and foreshortening. On the flip side of the coin, if you have a large nose you will probably hate to see yourself in photos.
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    Sep 12, 2015 9:11 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidI think a lot of it relates to is that we clearly see our flaws in our appearance, while those flaws may not be noticeable to others.


    Or these "flaws" we see are actually character-qualities that others seeing us prize. I know that I appreciate the furrows and lines in another's face.
  • dreamcock

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    Sep 12, 2015 9:12 PM GMT
    cant relate-i luv being photographed and looking at pics of myself-just because youre happy with your appearance doesnt make u a narcissist it means you have a healthy attitude!
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    Sep 12, 2015 9:16 PM GMT
    Radd saidIf you have big ears, you'll probably like yourself in photos because the ears appear smaller via the depth of field and foreshortening. On the flip side of the coin, if you have a large nose you will probably hate to see yourself in photos.


    A good camera can have a 'portrait' lens or setting and a 'wide angle'. A wide angle is not 'truth' for a face shot!